theking00

Addicted to victim mentallity

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How can I cure my victim mentallity?

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Mainly being conscious of it, being aware of when one is doing/ saying things out of victim mentality. 

Do you have specific examples of one being in victim mentality? 


There is nowhere to go, face what is. 

 

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@theking00 Becoming fully aware of it as it happens is the first big step. Time should take care of the rest.


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Understand the source of the problem. Why you turn to victim mentality in the first place.

Also, accept and take full 100% responsibility helps.

As a practice, you can practice doing hard things every day to break free of the victim kind of thinking.

I recommend looking up David Goggins for inspiration.

For a book I recommend, the obstacle is the way , feel the fear and do it anyway and for mindset, I recommend looking up growth mindset vs fixed mindset and the bulldog mindest.

 

Also check out leos videos on victim thinking.

most importantly: Take action and face your fears.

Try to stop saying "I can't do this" and say "how am I going to do this" Eventual you can say "I will do this" instead.

https://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2019/05/10/life-problems-are-learning-challenges/

Edited by BjarkeT

No more victim mentality. 

Every single problem in my life is my responsibility no matter how hard it is.

“It’s not who I am underneath, but what I do that defines me” Batman.

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Youre a victim of your victim mentality. 

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Usealy there are three parties in action when you have a problem or something. These are: the victim, the saviour and the offender. Try to identifiy who or what they are. Then see that because you've put yourself in the victim position that you are also the offender for keeping the situation as it is. Now from being the offender take action to resolve the situation and the victim, saviour and offender positions will dissapear. This helped me a lot! 

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Make it a 30-day challenge to take complete ownership and responsibility for everything that's happening in your life.

Even the stuff that is obviously other people's fault...

If you get robbed during those 30-days... Your fault! You were in the wrong place at the wrong time. If you hadn't been there or paid more attention, they wouldn't have robbed you.


Hard times create strong men. 
Strong men create good times. 
Good times create weak men.
Weak men create hard times.

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On 6/14/2019 at 4:06 AM, Shiva said:

If you get robbed during those 30-days... Your fault!

This video tells you that fault and blame are different from responsibility. Ego plays the game of fault and blame to distract you from solving problems.

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Posted (edited)

I have to cure my victim mentality. 

Edited by theking00

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55 minutes ago, theking00 said:

I have to cure my victim mentality. 

Why does one want to? 


There is nowhere to go, face what is. 

 

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56 minutes ago, OctagonOctopus said:

Why does one want to? 

I want to improve my self esteem.

Victim mentality = low self esteem 

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your main problem is that you think that other people can decide what you should/ should not do, the truth is that there is no right and wrong and all the rights and wrongs are your own perception, so from now on, make a decision that serves your own agenda, not others!

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@theking00 have you tried the work of katie byron? It really helps to switch your judgements and negative belives..

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On 18 June 2019 at 6:21 AM, theking00 said:

I have to cure my victim mentality. 

Are you able to recognise when you are playing victim?. There is a lot of great advice here about taking responsibility for your thoughts, but my question is are you able to recognise a victim thought pattern as it happens ? 

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Posted (edited)

 

On 6/17/2019 at 1:17 PM, OctagonOctopus said:

Why does one want to? 

Because he's not a nihilistic cun t

Edited by GenuinePerspectiveXC

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