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NoFap - Why you should quit porn & masturbation !

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Let's start with the symptoms ...

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Physical

  • Sexual dysfunctions, such as erectile dysfunction and delayed ejaculation
  • Decreased sensitivity from overstimulation
  • Fatigue

Psychological

  • Low self-esteem or confidence
  • Sense of shame
  • Low mood or agitated mood
  • Lack of motivation
  • Decreased libido
  • Disinterest in sex in favor of porn
  • Clouding of consciousness, or “brain fog”

 

... and the potential "Superpowers":

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  • Confidence boost. One of the most commonly reported Superpowers is a feeling of increased confidence.
  • Increased sexual interest from others. Many rebooters claim they notice more signals of sexual attraction directed at them: more looks, more smiles, more flirting. Many believe this to be a side-effect of feeling more confident, while others theorize that rebooters simply notice more signals than they did when they were obsessed with porn.
  • Creative mojo. Some rebooters claim to feel more creative after a reboot. Some take up new creative pursuits, or find they are better problem-solvers at work. Proponents of “sexual transmutation” view this boost in creativity as the result of directing libidinous energy into constructive projects rather than wasting it on pornography.
  • Social acuity. Rebooters often report feeling more at ease in social situations, saying they are less socially anxious and more tuned into how others are feeling.

 

For a longer list, see here: https://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/19bl70/25_reasons_to_do_nofap/

*In fact there is no "superpowers", you rob yourself of your own masculinity by fapping and watching porn, it's only what you are by default.

 

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Nofap isn't a magic pill, you'll still have to do Shadow Works, Consciousness work (meditation, mindfullness), and do what you got to do practically to become a real man (which is not the same thing as being a bad boy btw ...), like working on your lazyness and lack of vision/purpose, your social skills, your capacity to open your heart, and becoming confident around women (for real, not Pick up bullshit) etc...

HOWEVER, it's one of the most powerful tool (with consciousness work) to assist you on the path of being a real and authentic man.

Don't listen to people who says this is bullshit (I don't care who they are), they are just addicted and have no idea how much energy and clarity you will gain by keeping your fluid in your sacks.

Now, depending on your addiction level and how much you fap per week, you may or may not see a significant change short/mid-term wise, but on the long run, you will have significant benefits to not do porn or masturbation.

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AND NO, just masturbation isn't good either!

Why ?

Because if you fap, you are still imagining fucking a girl (still not real), you don't just fap for fap sake !
Even if you were able to fap for fap sake, it's still a huge chunk of energy wasted, for what ... 30-45 minutes of pleasure (best case scenario) ?

Is it really worth it ?
In time you will discover that no, it isn't, not at all ...

 

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Some videos:

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Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure
- Marianne Williamson

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Day 2 LUL.


"I am not what happened to me, I am what I choose to become." - Carl Gustav Jung

"Open your heart, let the universe shine through, don't be scared, it knows what you need, now and forever"

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Great post. Porn has became an epidemic in todays society. Men are not becoming less and less masculine because they are getting feminized, they are wasting their essence on porn. It is the Number 1. addiction which so many people don't even see as one, this is what makes it so dangerous. With Cocaine and heroin you will atleast know what you are doing to yourself, with porn it really isn't that obvious and you may end up thinking that other things are causing you issues in life, while in fact porn and masturbation is what causes easily 50% of all your troubles in life.

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5 minutes ago, blazed said:

If you spend a lot of time on your computer and have a lot of privacy and don't have a girlfrind living with you goodluck with NoFap, that setup is just not going to work.

It will work, it just takes some discipline. I got to day 61 before.


"I am not what happened to me, I am what I choose to become." - Carl Gustav Jung

"Open your heart, let the universe shine through, don't be scared, it knows what you need, now and forever"

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No porn?

I don't even have internet, no seriously I don't have internet where I live.  It's not by choice, but works great for removing porn addiction. 


You can't be enlightened, no one can.;)

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5 minutes ago, blazed said:

try to not fap whilst watching porn everyday

I don't get this? You obviously don't watch porn, that is the purpose behind it.
You are just rationalizing your addiction mate, a heroin junkie will try doing the same, try to reflect upon it.

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I recommend to read this post:

 


The mind has no answers and the heart has no questions.

 

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@blazed The other stuff you were talking about was indeed obvious, but I wasn't talking about that, your sentence was just worded incorrectly. "try to not fap whilst watching porn everyday" as opposed to "if you were to trying to not fap then watching porn daily would make it insanely hard" try noticing the difference.
By the way it is common for people to react aggressively when you expose their defense mechanisms, like rationalization in this case, just trying to help you my friend.

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@blazed I couldn't help but laugh about your comment, thank you for this beautiful moment of joy. You seem to have jumped to the conclusion that I called you a porn junkie, when in fact I didn't, check again. To help you understanding what I mean, the herione junkie was just an extreme example. Your voluerability on this subject, speaks for itself though.

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@blazed How does you quoting me change the context of what I said? It is still just an extreme example, if it is fitting in your case is up to you, I don't know you.
 regular sex with orgasms with a real partner are as bad for you as masturbation and additionally bad for the relationship, bonding sex without orgasm however is a different thing.
I am just being honest, if you can't deal with honesty, I wish you good luck with self-actualizing.

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Hey @ShinThanks for the post!

I am 29, started jerking off in a daily basis since my 15, 14 years of almost non stop consuming of porn, so stopping for 1 month gave a biiig contrast on my sexual desire, in the first 2 weeks I got limp dick, zero desire for sex, but after 2-3 weeks, I am becoming a sex freak, wonder what happens after 1 year!

I started doing nofap like 1 month ago, It just made me more lusting for sex, zero fap since then and still going.

There's a restaurant I buy food everyday, all the younger chicks flirts with me, not sure if nofap is actually influencing this.

Another funny thing, I became so horny in some moments, that I wanted to go out and get some chicks, I just don't because I have a girlfriend and I value trust extremely. I get much harder boners with gf and I can last long during sex!

 

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35 minutes ago, Phill said:

Hey @ShinThanks for the post!

I am 29, started jerking off in a daily basis since my 15, 14 years of almost non stop consuming of porn, so stopping for 1 month gave a biiig contrast on my sexual desire, in the first 2 weeks I got limp dick, zero desire for sex, but after 2-3 weeks, I am becoming a sex freak, wonder what happens after 1 year!

I started doing nofap like 1 month ago, It just made me more lusting for sex, zero fap since then and still going.

There's a restaurant I buy food everyday, all the younger chicks flirts with me, not sure if nofap is actually influencing this.

Another funny thing, I became so horny in some moments, that I wanted to go out and get some chicks, I just don't because I have a girlfriend and I value trust extremely. I get much harder boners with gf and I can last long during sex!

 

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Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure
- Marianne Williamson

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Typical report from the reddit:

 

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Hey guys after a wild ride of 3 years stumbling upon this community. I finally hit my largest streak of 91 days on Christmas day. My life has turned around & abundance has leaked through all parts of my life. I honestly do feel the universe rewards you, or parts sea when you make the right effort. Heres the benefits/impact.

Agression is back, I feel drive for more flirtatious contact with girls & a fun sporty competitiveness with guys. I feel like my willpower is much stronger & assertive. Rather than being a passive lame, I voice myself & what I want in the world, & go after it.

Presence is great. When Im somewhere, I know why & what Im looking for, so my body language naturally expands & flows with my purpose. I let people know im here, in a friendly not insecure manner. & firmly stand my ground versus when I used to be timid of space & hide.

I stop caring in a great way. Peoples opinions, thoughts, dont matter like before. I used to obsess what peeps thought of me. Now I can make a stunt, or fool outta myself. As long as Im myself, im happy. & people tend to like it better. They feel like they can actually get to know me, & i can get to know them, rather than just playing it safe. & if they dont like me, oh well. Move on.

Attraction is really sweet. I have alot of girls eyeball me, smile, & introduce themselves making the first move. When I speak to them, its weird they just unload themselves like if they are worried about my validation. Giving me the power & upperhand. My thoughts used to be "Ohh gee wiz I hope she'll like me". Now to "Im sure shes down to fuck". I feel like I can spot interest in girls easier, than before when it was like unraveling a riddle. Cards are alot easier to play now. It feels all natural.

Socializing is alot smoother. I feel more intuned with people. Like I can read body language better, social cues & understand them more than surface level. Helps connecting with people easier. I am also more open, friendly & playful. A nice improvement from worrying about saying the wrong things, being serious & flat. To colorful & more interested.

Career: I have a strong drive for art. I actually scored my dream job back after being fired. I used to have the lowest sales out of laziness & lack of motivation to work. Butt now, I have some of the highest sales, & even beat some of the sales over the seasoned artists. I love work, & Its so rewarding to be back.

Family...I embrace them more. I play & savior the time with them, especially my nieces & nephews. I learn so much from them & I remind myself to be light & childlike. I have a great time, where before we used to numb out, & ignore one another. Feels awesome to vibe with what blood makes us together.

Health is improving. My mediations are deeper & more impactful. I have alot of extra energy sometimes that I dont even know what to do with, its like have extra cash. So I work out, dance, or run around with my nieces/nephews to get the energy out. I also feel like I can tough through things better. Versus before where I was just give up easily.

Thank you everyone for this great community. Through your stories, advice, & hilarious top comment jokes...have all paved the way & helped my 91 day streak. If any questions, or feedback, feel free. It has truely been the greatest gift.

 

https://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/7m0zp4/day_91_the_greatest_gift/

 

I KNOW I KNOW, sounds too good to be true, it's just random dudes lying right ?

 

Yeah, sure, for 6 years, almost everyday ...

9_9

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Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure
- Marianne Williamson

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Me while not on noFap, all girls are kinda meh. My standards are way above everyone else.

Me while on noFap, is she female and not super unattractive? Awesome let's do this. 

Also me on noFap it's been three weeks now, if I get some action it's going to be a short experience but if I fap I'll lose interest instantly and break my streak. #harddecisions


You can't be enlightened, no one can.;)

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1 hour ago, Spiral said:

Me while not on noFap, all girls are kinda meh. My standards are way above everyone else.

Me while on noFap, is she female and not super unattractive? Awesome let's do this. 

Also me on noFap it's been three weeks now, if I get some action it's going to be a short experience but if I fap I'll lose interest instantly and break my streak. #harddecisions

You are not doing this solely for girls, are you?

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"I am not what happened to me, I am what I choose to become." - Carl Gustav Jung

"Open your heart, let the universe shine through, don't be scared, it knows what you need, now and forever"

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1 hour ago, Psyche_92 said:

You are not doing this solely for girls, are you?

Unless you're a virgin or have anxiety problem around women, it's like the last reason why you would want to do it  xD 


Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure
- Marianne Williamson

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I want to say something positive in this thread.

I've done NoFap several times for about a month. The reason was that I felt weak and NF seemed to be a something to start with. We, in western societies, live in a constant stream of comfort. But we don't think about it as comfort, because we're born into this world. This is rather new - and we live still in the wrong paradigma. Only THREE GENERATIONS ago the people lived in Europe with the ups and downs of nature. In the summer you get fat - in the winter is scarcity. Everyday life is routine (boring, you may call it) - but every year there is carnival. Now is Summer and Carnival all year. We live in a absurd cargo-cult of work & play.

This is there NoFap is obviously handy.
You get sober of some things and decide if you like them really that much.

WHAT I DON'T LIKE ABOUT NOFAP is, that some people make it a sacred way of life. But to me NoFap is one tool. Not more, not less.
 

Thank you very much.

 

 

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