Men: How do you feel & react when you see women cry?

[Natasha Tori Maru]

@Heaven thanks for sharing 🫶

[Sugarcoat]

9 minutes ago, Natasha Tori Maru said:

@Sugarcoat I get your example though. That numbness from overexposure is pervasive. I think many suffer from emotional bluntness across the board from overstimulation.

My question was specific to women crying. Not that this was special in any way. 

But I do think men might react differently to witnessing a man they know cry? Maybe. Just a curious question regarding mens phenomenological experience 🙃

Yea I see. 

[LastThursday]

Hug her of course (if I know her). Be present. Listen. What else?

[Jirh]

49 minutes ago, Natasha Tori Maru said:

What do you think about boys as children? They react emotionally. Just as girls.

For me, the process has always been thoughts first, emotions second. I never react emotionally without thinking about it. It's just that my thoughts got more sophisticated with time and experience.

But my reaction wasn't always sympathetic. Context still mattered then.

For example, tears whilst having an argument used to trigger my anger and make me lash out. And I used to be totally dismissive, telling the woman to grow up, calling it crocodile tears and such. I wasn't developed enough emotionally to handle manipulation properly.

But if the tears came up from life problems or from problems with others, then I would be supportive, even if I didn't know how to do that well at the time. Like I would try to uplift and fix immediately.

49 minutes ago, Natasha Tori Maru said:

Do you think socialisation comes into it? 

Yes, I think socialization influences our development.

Edited 1 hour ago by Jirh