Less masturbation = easier approaching ?

[Jannes]

Its not just masturbation but the whole easy dopamine system you allow yourself. When you deny yourself all that easy access, its not just that you are more motivated to get it, your mind will reavaluate the situation and will unlock more resources in the form of confidence in you, because it is sensing that the current unrisky approach to things isnt getting you enough dopamine/ survival shit. Thats at least my thesis on it. 

Not sure about less masturbation in particular, I denied myself mostly everything around it so the described mechanism kicked in and I accessed more confidence which I needed to connect with other people to get the dopamine. I compensated my compensation strategies with the real thing eheh.

And you can only jerk off a couple times a day, its not the biggest soure of mind numbing input you consume in a day. 

[something_else]

I really don't understand the nofap thing. Maybe for some people it works, but for me it just makes me less focused, more horny, and more desperate.

If your confidence is so fragile that jerking off makes it vanish then you're not really that confident deep down. All of the most confident guys you've ever met in your life probably jerk off on the regular.

[Leo Gura]

Confidence comes from experience and skill, not gimmickry.

Edited 2 hours ago by Leo Gura

[Lyubov]

You're optimizing the wrong stuff when you focus on nofap and whatnot. If you need to learn game and pick up, if it isn't effortless for you or you don't have some super chad foundation... then chances are you have a good bit of emotional inner work, self esteem and inner child work, inherent value awakening work, etc and you will probably have to socialize a lot understand the terrain. If porn and fapping is an issue for you obviously yeah that could be it's own pathology or unhealthy coping mechanism but generally speaking you don't need to give something like that so much thought.