I want to have sex with a girl this week

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7 minutes ago, Valach said:

Thanks for wording it out for me. I am not native speaker so struggle with that sometimes.

I think you explained yourself pretty well tbh, but you're welcome either way 

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Though for me, it is more about healing and trauma release then about building your external life.

For me it was the same at first, I was quite a weird and socially awkward child who was bullied a lot. Lots of trauma from that. Pure pickup helped a bit, but learning how to party, have fun, make like-minded friends, and express myself authentically was better for the kind of healing I needed. It helped my mind realise that there was nothing fundamentally wrong with me like I believed as a kid. Pickup felt like a bandaid on the symptoms rather than a solution to the root cause of the problem.

The healing from that made it much easier to date successfully.

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2 minutes ago, something_else said:

I think you explained yourself pretty well tbh, but you're welcome either way 

For me it was the same at first, I was quite a weird and socially awkward child who was bullied a lot. Lots of trauma from that. Pure pickup helped a bit, but learning how to party, have fun, make like-minded friends, and express myself authentically was better for the kind of healing I needed. It helped my mind realise that there was nothing fundamentally wrong with me like I believed as a kid. Pickup felt like a bandaid on the symptoms rather than a solution to the root cause of the problem.

The healing from that made it much easier to date successfully.

Authentic relating is one of the most healing modalities in my experience. It is basically your conscious mind telling your subconscious that who you are right now is sufficient.

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1 minute ago, Valach said:

Authentic relating is one of the most healing modalities in my experience. It is basically your conscious mind telling your subconscious that who you are right now is sufficient.

Exactly. This summarises my thoughts and experience perfectly.

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