I want to have sex with a girl this week

[something_else]

7 minutes ago, Valach said:

Thanks for wording it out for me. I am not native speaker so struggle with that sometimes.

I think you explained yourself pretty well tbh, but you're welcome either way 

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Though for me, it is more about healing and trauma release then about building your external life.

For me it was the same at first, I was quite a weird and socially awkward child who was bullied a lot. Lots of trauma from that. Pure pickup helped a bit, but learning how to party, have fun, make like-minded friends, and express myself authentically was better for the kind of healing I needed. It helped my mind realise that there was nothing fundamentally wrong with me like I believed as a kid. Pickup felt like a bandaid on the symptoms rather than a solution to the root cause of the problem.

The healing from that made it much easier to date successfully.

[Valach]

2 minutes ago, something_else said:

I think you explained yourself pretty well tbh, but you're welcome either way 

For me it was the same at first, I was quite a weird and socially awkward child who was bullied a lot. Lots of trauma from that. Pure pickup helped a bit, but learning how to party, have fun, make like-minded friends, and express myself authentically was better for the kind of healing I needed. It helped my mind realise that there was nothing fundamentally wrong with me like I believed as a kid. Pickup felt like a bandaid on the symptoms rather than a solution to the root cause of the problem.

The healing from that made it much easier to date successfully.

Authentic relating is one of the most healing modalities in my experience. It is basically your conscious mind telling your subconscious that who you are right now is sufficient.

[something_else]

1 minute ago, Valach said:

Authentic relating is one of the most healing modalities in my experience. It is basically your conscious mind telling your subconscious that who you are right now is sufficient.

Exactly. This summarises my thoughts and experience perfectly.

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[Miguel1]

2 hours ago, Valach said:

Authentic relating is one of the most healing modalities in my experience. It is basically your conscious mind telling your subconscious that who you are right now is sufficient.

Word.

[Yimpa]

@Miguel1what happened to your beautiful face?... it's missing  

[Miguel1]

1 hour ago, Yimpa said:

@Miguel1what happened to your beautiful face?... it's missing  

Thank you for asking Joy.

Some people in my personal life learned about me being in this forum, so I’m just protecting my privacy. I will put up a new updated picture later.

I love the work we do here but for a common folk (99% of people in my life), this can and probably is very threatening to the ego.

Edited 4 hours ago by Miguel1

[Inliytened1]

2 hours ago, Valach said:

Authentic relating is one of the most healing modalities in my experience. It is basically your conscious mind telling your subconscious that who you are right now is sufficient.

You should probably be hanging in the high consciousness sections not with us horny toads 😀

@Miguel sorry for giving you shit.

Edited 5 hours ago by Inliytened1

[Inliytened1]

Would everyone rate their weekend a success?  I came through in the final hour.

Just remember, It ain't over until the fat lady sings.  Just when you think of marking it off in the loss column.

Edited 4 hours ago by Inliytened1

[PsychedelicEagle]

7 hours ago, something_else said:

What pickup calls a 'shit test' is just playfully teasing someone, it's part of basic human social interaction, especially so when flirting.

I don't like the term because it makes it seem like women are actively and intentionally trying to test you, which they are not.

IME I have found this to not be the case at all.

Women will intentionally, often subconsciously — sometimes even deliberately —, test you to see if you're truly grounded in your masculine energy.

Masculine energy is about purpose, drive, handling tension, creating a safe container, self-reliance, independence, knowing you are good enough. When we men like the girl too much or think they're outside of our league, we tend to move away from our masculine energy and into more of a feminine energy, seeking safety and acceptance. (I know you probably know this, but I'm contextualizing my post, meant for the generic reader).

As soon as the woman senses feminine energy in you, her pussy will get drier than the Sahara desert.

Here's a great quote that I saved (from Corey Wayne I believe), about shit tests:

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Shit tests are about the feminine trying to unground the masculine to see if it can.

All this said, @something_else, I truly agree with what you said about not tolerating disrespectful behavior. Some shit tests do indeed carry some form of disrespectful tone. In such cases, passing the shit test involves asserting your boundaries and self-worth. If she ever crosses that line again, she's done — walk away and never look back.

Edited 4 hours ago by PsychedelicEagle

[Joshe]

33 minutes ago, Inliytened1 said:

It ain't over until the fat lady sings.

I just imagined you on top of a 200 pounder. lol. 

Edited 4 hours ago by Joshe

[Inliytened1]

2 minutes ago, PsychedelicEagle said:

IME I have found this to not be the case at all.

Women will intentionally, often subconsciously — sometimes even deliberately —, test you to see if you're truly grounded in your masculine energy.

Masculine energy is about purpose, drive, handling tension, creating a safe container, self-reliance, independence, knowing you are good enough. When we men like the girl too much or think they're outside of our league, we tend to move away from our masculine energy and into more of a feminine energy, seeking safety and acceptance.

As soon as the woman senses feminine energy in you, her pussy will get drier than the Sahara desert.

Here's a great quote that I saved (from Corey Wayne I believe), about shit tests:

All this said, @something_else, I truly agree with what you said about not tolerating disrespectful behavior. Some shit tests do indeed carry some form of disrespectful tone. In such cases, passing the shit test involves asserting your boundaries and self-worth. If she ever crosses that line again, she's done — walk away and never look back.

Yeah..it's like walking a tightrope.  You don't wanna seem like you're too into her..but you don't wanna cross the line into jerk either. It's a balancing beam. But in the end, if you come through in the bedroom that is the truest form of masculinity. Should you get that far.  If you come through there..you can almost get away with murder.

[something_else]

3 minutes ago, PsychedelicEagle said:

All this said, @something_else, I truly agree with what you said about not tolerating disrespectful behavior. Some shit tests do indeed carry some form of disrespectful tone. In such cases, passing the shit test involves asserting your boundaries and self-worth. If she ever crosses that line again, she's done — walk away and never look back.

Again, you are agreeing with me. I don't think shit tests aren't real per se, I would just not use the pickup terminology for them because it comes with a lot of baggage. It tells you "even if she gives you signs she doesn't like you, push through, it really means she does like you". Which is stupid, girls who like you will make it clear. They'll playfully tease you, but you don't need a fancy pickup term for that, and it's almost always playful, not rude or disrespectful.

[Inliytened1]

1 minute ago, Joshe said:

I just imagined you on top of a 200 pounder. lol. 

I don't want to insult anyone so after I used that saying I realized I had to leave it at that.  There is nothing wrong with a 200 pounder. But no this girl was 5"10 nice long legs and very thin.  But I have nothing against any type. 

Edited 4 hours ago by Inliytened1

[PsychedelicEagle]

10 minutes ago, something_else said:

Again, you are agreeing with me. I don't think shit tests aren't real per se, I would just not use the pickup terminology for them because it comes with a lot of baggage. It tells you "even if she gives you signs she doesn't like you, push through, it really means she does like you". Which is stupid, girls who like you will make it clear. They'll playfully tease you, but you don't need a fancy pickup term for that, and it's almost always playful, not rude or disrespectful.

I agree with pickup lingo tunneling someone's vision — def a perspective limiting phenomenon. And I do agree that pickup itself has many problems.

But I do think that for man/woman interactions it can be helpful to distinguish between playfully teasing and shit tests, if the goal is to get the girl.

The nature of the shit test is the ungrounding attempt as my quote above highlights. Actually, we can argue that if playfulness is conveyed or perceived, it isn't a shit test. A true shit test is perceived as not playful, and sometimes even harsh criticism.

Edited 4 hours ago by PsychedelicEagle

[Ulax]

34 minutes ago, something_else said:

Again, you are agreeing with me. I don't think shit tests aren't real per se, I would just not use the pickup terminology for them because it comes with a lot of baggage. It tells you "even if she gives you signs she doesn't like you, push through, it really means she does like you". Which is stupid, girls who like you will make it clear. They'll playfully tease you, but you don't need a fancy pickup term for that, and it's almost always playful, not rude or disrespectful.

There is a distinction between shit-tests and insults

[Ulax]

You guys will understand pickup when you get older

[Miguel1]

1 hour ago, Inliytened1 said:

@Miguel sorry for giving you shit.

I don’t recall you giving me any shit.

Edited 3 hours ago by Miguel1

[Inliytened1]

16 minutes ago, Ulax said:

You guys will understand pickup when you get older

By the time you get the process down you're popping Viagra haha

[Olaf]

@Inliytened1 hahaha yes your prime will be at 80 we just getting started

[Inliytened1]

7 minutes ago, Olaf said:

@Inliytened1 hahaha yes your prime will be at 80 we just getting started

Hugh Hefner.  He was probably still going at 90

 

Edited 3 hours ago by Inliytened1