I approached more then 100 woman this weekend

[Olaf]

I went all in this weekend, I did both day and night game and I have lost count of how many girls I have approached but definitely above 100. These are the things I learned.

1. day game and night game are very different, woman are at night together or with a guy or guys, so you have to approach 2 sets or bigger sets also the energy is much more outgoing and fun. During the day you can more easily find one girl without friends, which makes you have a more intimate conversation. The energy is a bit more normal during the day compared to at night where you can go fucking nuts. 

2. don't ask questions in the beginning, you are tempted to ask questions, but rather keep those for later. It is kind of like being an entertainer, you entertain them and lead them, doesn't mean be a clown, but just be self amused and when they feel attraction they will show interest either by touch, asking questions or other IOI's and then asking open ended questions makes sense.

3. Be social all the time, I talked to all the girls at night, but also all the guys, at some point I was on the stage at karaoke, making everyone jump, screaming my heart out through the mic and having more fun then ever. So don't get stuck on just girls, talk to guys aswell, motivate them, make them have a good time, but also don't hang too long with them, you want to keep approaching woman.  During the day keep saying hi to people, give people a box, I like to do a push-up in the middle of the street, stuff like that to keep you in state, never completly stop interacting with people, always make conversation, even when it is very small.

4. When intimidated, give value. Think of how you can give value rather then take value, you might have an intimidating set, but if you think of how you can add value at night that might mean fun and during the day that might be your presence or something more substantial. Generousity is huge, giving someone a compliment can make someones day. So whenever stuck in your head, be selfless, give, be generous, that will get you out of your head when it matters most, like when you approach that 9 or 10

5. stop rejecting yourself, aslong as she has not given you a hard no, you have time to practice to talk to a woman, so instead of leaving and rejecting yourself, stay in the conversation and open your mouth, better to say something stupid then to walk away saying nothing at all. This is especially harder during the day where people are on the move and you feel like you freeze up and reject yourself.

6. During the day give a hard stop, meaning commit to the stop, strong vocal projection, hand in front of them, go all in. Not like high energy as you do when going out, because that is making people confused. 

7. Focus mainly on interacting with as many people as you can, remaining social state, looking for the win in every interaction to build winner effect, at night have a ton of fun, during the day relax and more chill vibe, but still able to do a hard stop and get someones attention and interest. 

8. Your value isn't the same, it is moment to moment, at one moment you could be the top alpha guy having a 9 or 10 be interested into you, another moment you could get rejected by a 5, so what is your worth? It is whatever you believe it is, I woke up and my thought was "I deserve every single girl in the world" this was my natural thought, because no one else is approaching, I literally look at a guy with a girlfriend and think to myself, he doesn't even deserve it, he hasn't gone out and done the approaches, I even feel the urge to just go and out play him, but that is a petty egoic game I am not gonna play. 

9. Seeing my wingmen get in state was eye-opening: you could see his eyes got wider, he saw opportunity and went for it, boom boom, the energy rises up and you feel it is like you can finally see. Your not looking with eyes of fear anymore, oh what if I get rejected or whatever. You get kinda fearless way more bold energy, aswell as like a weight has been lifted. Very intresting to see that in someone else then myself as I know how it feels to be in flow state, but never seen someone else be in it. I notice myself to get in state with bigger sets of 4 or 5 girls or a girl on the phone, some "difficult" set like that.

10. Lastly I would say what Owen says, an alpha men doesn't focus on only getting dates or sex, an alpha men leads men. Which is very true, I have pushed my brothers to the limit this weekend and got them both in state. I even had a new guy who never approached before and got to make him approach girls 10 times which was a real win for him and he was so grateful. So help out, again going back to generosity, but also alpha state, which is to help others, same thing as I am doing here, I am sharing knowledge I rarely reply on this forum, because you either have consumers or creators, I am a creator, I am an action taker, I like to contribute value instead of absorbing it, that is why I kinda got to hate any theory even when what I write her all sounds quite like theory lol. 

Anyways those were 10 things I learned this weekend, there are some value nuggets in these texts, so you might want to read it again. 

 

Edited August 17 by Olaf

[LordFall]

4 is a particularly good point, life is all value exchanges. Compliments are cool so are injecting fun and spontaneity into a night and leading people to the next venue for example.

I hope you're using this to grow your Instagram following. 100 approaches is like 20-30 instagrams of girls that will watch your content for years to come even if you don't end up dating them.

What's your MBTI type btw? 

[Olaf]

@LordFall I am an INFP even tho I have been pushing my social life to the limit, so I am probably more in an extroverted state at the moment, but I could easily go back to not socialising at all and be all introverted and stuff, I even get drained at some point especially during day game, where I will go in state after around an hour, then I will be in state for like 2 hours and then it crashes and I don't want to talk to anyone anymore hahaha

[museumoftrees]

All good lessons! Thank you for sharing your journey and keep it up. :))

[Ulax]

LETS GOOOOO

[Inliytened1]

2 minutes ago, Ulax said:

LETS GOOOOO

Yeah!

[Ulax]

Just now, Inliytened1 said:

Yeah!

[Inliytened1]

2 minutes ago, Ulax said:

I wish back in the day I could approach 100 women in a weekend.  Then again, wouldn't that be overkill? Maybe if one could focus on a select few...?

[Ulax]

5 minutes ago, Inliytened1 said:

I wish back in the day I could approach 100 women in a weekend.  Then again, wouldn't that be overkill? Maybe if one could focus on a select few...?

If we don't approach the girls will be sad for the rest of their lives, thinking "if only I had been blessed by Inlightened and Ulax's presence". So it is spiritual work

[Inliytened1]

5 minutes ago, Ulax said:

If we don't approach the girls will be sad for the rest of their lives, thinking "if only I had been blessed by Inlightened and Ulax's presence". So it is spiritual work

Heh. Wishful thinking.  They don't remember us unless we leave a lasting impression. 

[Ulax]

19 minutes ago, Inliytened1 said:

Heh. Wishful thinking.  They don't remember us unless we leave a lasting impression. 

It is bad that I rely on it but my good looks mean I'm always remembered

[Inliytened1]

25 minutes ago, Ulax said:

It is bad that I rely on it but my good looks mean I'm always remembered

Not even Casinova is remembered.  They want what you got for them now. 

[Zenterus]

Brother you're killing it! You're an approach machine and you're clearly doing your due diligence by learning from your experiences.

However, this high volume of approaches doesnt leave a lot of room for depth in your interactions, i suspect. 

How long is your typical set? Are you getting any phone numbers that actually respond to your texts? Do you text your numbers at all, if you're getting any? 

Volume is an element, but not the whole pie. You still have to commit to a girl at some point and try to push that interaction as far as you can.

[Inliytened1]

7 minutes ago, Zenterus said:

Brother you're killing it! You're an approach machine and you're clearly doing your due diligence by learning from your experiences.

However, this high volume of approaches doesnt leave a lot of room for depth in your interactions, i suspect. 

How long is your typical set? Are you getting any phone numbers that actually respond to your texts? Do you text your numbers at all, if you're getting any? 

Volume is an element, but not the whole pie. You still have to commit to a girl at some point and try to push that interaction as far as you can.

This is a key point.  We don't want to sacrifice quality for quantity.  Quantity is good and needed, but is there time with all this quantity for quality?  If you take two hours with one girl for example, and you and her click..you may not need the rest. So I would focus on quality. 

Edited 4 hours ago by Inliytened1