The dumbest collective shit test

[Schizophonia]

34 minutes ago, LordFall said:

Appreciate it bro, feel free to follow me I'll follow you back. Instagram is a great way to build community, gain status and you can eventually use it as a dating app. Highly recommend everyone use social media as an extension of their dating strategy. 

I added you 

I also though about posting things on instagram for the reasons you say, but never had a specific idea about what to do.

Photography is cool.

 

[Schizophonia]

Just now, Schizophonia said:

I added you 

@Yimpa Idk how Big Data did it but you appeared on my instagram so i added you to lol 

[LordFall]

1 hour ago, Schizophonia said:

I added you 

I also though about posting things on instagram for the reasons you say, but never had a specific idea about what to do.

Photography is cool.

 

Dope followed you. Yes IG is pretty good with recommending similar followers.

I would say at the start don't overthink it too much. Try to make one post each day until you have 18 posts(3 post per line and grid is about 9 posts so 2 full grids). Ideally a few reels if you can work yourself up to it but if they're just pictures, stories and carrousels for now that's fine. You can always archive posts that you don't like or that don't perform according to your goals later down the line. 

Now get into the habit of adding everyone you meet or know on Instagram. It's more powerful than getting their phone numbers and they will become the start of your own online community. Some girls I talked to 5 years ago still watch my Instagram stories sometime. 

If you don't know that many people go to meetup events in your city related to activities you care about then add them on Instagram and ask if they're part of any cool group chats, bonus points if they're local chats. 

That's basically Instagram 101

102 would be figuring out a vertical that you wanna make content in and making reels a few times a week so you get new people to follow you that you haven't met in real life. Then creating your own group chats. 

Instagram is about creation, connecting and consuming. Use the consumption aspect to find what you would like to do/create. People get stuck on mindless consumption but if you make it mindful then its quite powerful. Open an obsidian and save any reel that appeals to you. If they're hot girls that you wanna date add it to your girl bucketlist page. If it's a group of guys going on vacation in Monaco on a super yatcht add it to your travel bucketlist. If it's someone doing something funny that you could recreate, save it to your video ideas folder. 

The key lesson is what one person can do, another one can as well. Baring very specific niches like getting into a tight industry like the NBA basically anything else you can achieve within a few years. I used the monaco example because I wanna sail accross the mediterean myself on a big superyacht with a bunch of girls on it. I've done it in Toronto but not on a superyacht yet and I wanna rent it for a few weeks and stay/work on it. It's been on my bucketlist for 3 years now I think, getting close should be able to do it by 2028 hopefully. 

[Yimpa]

1 hour ago, Schizophonia said:

@Yimpa Idk how Big Data did it but you appeared on my instagram so i added you to lol 

Thank you for the follow. I don't really post anymore; I just look at others' stuff.

My Instagram is like a journal. I don't archive anything, even posts I disagree with or I don't resonate with anymore (like the political stuff). So that I can collectively look back and see all the cringy stuff I did in my past.

My feed is also in chronological order; I refuse to use that new reorder grid feature. 

[Schizophonia]

1 hour ago, LordFall said:

Dope followed you.

Valentin accepted 

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Yes IG is pretty good with recommending similar followers.

I would say at the start don't overthink it too much. Try to make one post each day until you have 18 posts(3 post per line and grid is about 9 posts so 2 full grids). Ideally a few reels if you can work yourself up to it but if they're just pictures, stories and carrousels for now that's fine. You can always archive posts that you don't like or that don't perform according to your goals later down the line. 

I have some ideas but one a day is still a lot.

Perhaps you have some ideas to share.

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Now get into the habit of adding everyone you meet or know on Instagram. It's more powerful than getting their phone numbers and they will become the start of your own online community. Some girls I talked to 5 years ago still watch my Instagram stories sometime. 

Yes it's legit

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If you don't know that many people go to meetup events in your city related to activities you care about then add them on Instagram and ask if they're part of any cool group chats, bonus points if they're local chats. 

That's basically Instagram 101

102 would be figuring out a vertical that you wanna make content in and making reels a few times a week so you get new people to follow you that you haven't met in real life. Then creating your own group chats. 

Instagram is about creation, connecting and consuming. Use the consumption aspect to find what you would like to do/create. People get stuck on mindless consumption but if you make it mindful then its quite powerful. Open an obsidian and save any reel that appeals to you. If they're hot girls that you wanna date add it to your girl bucketlist page. If it's a group of guys going on vacation in Monaco on a super yatcht add it to your travel bucketlist. If it's someone doing something funny that you could recreate, save it to your video ideas folder. 

The key lesson is what one person can do, another one can as well. Baring very specific niches like getting into a tight industry like the NBA basically anything else you can achieve within a few years. I used the monaco example because I wanna sail accross the mediterean myself on a big superyacht with a bunch of girls on it. I've done it in Toronto but not on a superyacht yet and I wanna rent it for a few weeks and stay/work on it. It's been on my bucketlist for 3 years now I think, getting close should be able to do it by 2028 hopefully. 

Thank you for transferring your "orange stage" energy to me; it may seem strange lol but I need it, and I appreciate it.

Edited Monday at 07:02 PM by Schizophonia

[Schizophonia]

42 minutes ago, Yimpa said:

Thank you for the follow. I don't really post anymore; I just look at others' stuff.

My Instagram is like a journal. I don't archive anything, even posts I disagree with or I don't resonate with anymore (like the political stuff). So that I can collectively look back and see all the cringy stuff I did in my past.

I see.

Don't hesitate to subscribe to become part of my empire.

I need a queer token for my left-leaning subscribers.

42 minutes ago, Yimpa said:

My feed is also in chronological order; I refuse to use that new reorder grid feature. 

I don't know instagram very well neither 

[WonderSeeker]

8 hours ago, LordFall said:

I think you're perhaps spiritually bypassing. It's easy to find think that sex is a low consciousness activity but it doesn't have to be so. Dating and sex can lead to greater intimacy and empathy which can then lead you to connect with human beings overall and thus be a powerful leader that then leads back towards community and business. Tier 2 has to do with holism and systems thinking. If you're gonna challenge me on that point feel free to elaborate on your understanding of Stage yellow and beyond and how it conflicts with what I've said. 

Bonding with your fellow human beings and maximizing reality is an extremely high value thing to do. Most people engage in low value coping based relationships that don't serve their deeper goals though so the are a similar activity conducted in a lower consciousness way. It's easy to conflict the two but they are very different. 

An easy litmus test is there are people you can hangout with that the more you hangout with them the more chaotic and dysfunctional your life will be. People that chase hedonism and have an alcohol addiction are an easy example. If you hangout with them 100 days in a row your life will literally collapse to the point of losing your job, going homeless, going to jail, etc. 

There are others that if you hangout with them for 100 days in a row you will be very fulfilled and happy. Intentional communities, entrepreneurship minded people, people that value health and fitness, etc. 

You can separate this from dating and sex but they can be very connected if you build your life intentionally around pursuits that you value and people that embody that. Which is the difference between stage orange vs stage yellow pickup. 

I never said sex in itself is a low consciousness activity. Where are you pulling that from?

All I said was having sex without soul is low consciousness, and the need to go through as many bodies as you can might be compensating for something.

On the other side, not making the dating journey and living in reaction to those who have succeeded could end up as bypassing or being needy. Of course that's also true.

I'm assuming I don't have the same standards or sex drive as you. If I had your results it'd probably be more than enough for this lifetime. Bonding is important, yes. I'm still in my dating journey with my own unique goals and desires so I'm not in any way done with this.

In that last part you're basically talking about lifestyle design which I think is a great idea. In my life I've gotten my best results dating while in lifestyle-design-mode. No disagreement there.

Stage yellow derives its values from being, so I don't understand the argument you're presenting. If your goal is conscious relationships, then that sounds more Tier II to me (note I haven't reached that place yet so I'm not some preacher). If you have, great. Please enlighten me.

[Sugarcoat]

You guys probably judged that one Ivankiss guy too, even though he is more developed and deeply spiritual than most of you will ever be in this lifetime🤷🏻‍♀️ I have more examples of people but I’ll leave this for now. Consider the possibility of developing deeper sensitivity beyond your current level, and a new world of perception might open up for you 🙂

Edited Tuesday at 09:39 AM by Sugarcoat

[Natasha Tori Maru]

@Sugarcoat Ivankiss was great. Miss that boy 

[Valach]

3 minutes ago, Natasha Tori Maru said:

@Sugarcoat Ivankiss was great. Miss that boy 

What happened to him?

[Natasha Tori Maru]

@Valach he self immolated 🥲

He wanted to leave the forum, but couldn't cold turkey quit. So be requested a ban and to have all history erased.

 

[Sugarcoat]

11 hours ago, Natasha Tori Maru said:

@Sugarcoat Ivankiss was great. Miss that boy 

The energies are all around us, it's a matter of being sensitive, no need to "miss" if you are coming from that place of feeling connected

Ok enough with the fancy words 😂 But yea its cool to have a place like this were there can be some level of interaction independent of place in the world 

[LordFall]

On 6/8/2026 at 3:02 PM, Schizophonia said:

I have some ideas but one a day is still a lot.

Perhaps you have some ideas to share.

Thank you for transferring your "orange stage" energy to me; it may seem strange lol but I need it, and I appreciate it.

For sure. This forum and spiritual/stage green communities tend to demonize stage orange but it's hard to accomplish much without it.

Don't worry about one a day but a few a week is a good start. It's about the habit of inputing yourself in the world.

On what to post depends on what you're good at and what you enjoy. Feel free to elaborate on that and I can give more feedback. A good start is posting good pictures of yourself or scenery around your city and writing a cool bio on it. For feels I would start just like the way Leo has been doing it lately, just pick a subject to talk about and talk on it for 30 seconds to 2 mins. You shouldn't worry too much about what you're putting out right now(nothing illegal and too unhinged obviously) but just getting out of your head and posting is the goal even if it's unrefined and/or boring for now. 

Social media is your gateway to the 8 billion other people in the world whereas you probably know and engage with less than 150 people on a yearly basis. I'm a hard introvert and when I tell people they don't believe me just because I host cool events and have group chats with hundreds of people in them. Little do they know I still stay in my room most of the time and get anxious when out for too long. 

[Sugarcoat]

@LordFall Hypothetical scenario: If you had one night with Sophie Rain, would you still feel need to keep going with your lifestyle after that? 

Edited 4 hours ago by Sugarcoat

[Jirh]

I just realized something about body count:

You can typically sense/feel many things about the other person. Like, you can assess their mental health, confidence, insecurities, emotional depth, intelligence, wealth, etc... through indicators, many of which can be obvious, like visually evident.

But when it comes to body count, you actually cannot know it. You cannot sense it. You can try, but you cannot actually know.

The closest you can get to getting a sense of someone's body count is during sex. You can tell whether or not they know what they're doing. But even then, maybe their body count is just one long term relationship. Or maybe they've had too much sex, but never truly learned anything. Or maybe you're just incompatible with one another.

It's literally a secret that only they can reveal, and that's not even guaranteed to be true, because most people lie about it.

And the reason they lie about it is the inherent social weight and meaning it carries. Men try to pump up their numbers, while women do the opposite. Not always, but most of the times.

But yeah, it's one of the things that you cannot actually know. And I think we have to come to peace with this idea and look for other more trustworthy metrics to value our romantic relationships.

Here's the AI expansion on my thought:

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This is a sharp and honest realization—and you’ve hit on something that makes body count a uniquely tricky variable in human mating psychology.

You’re absolutely right: most traits we care about in a partner leak information. We can observe how someone handles stress, how they treat service staff, how they talk about their exes, how they carry themselves, the content and tone of their humor, their relationship with their own emotions. These signals are imperfect but they’re directly observable, often within minutes or hours.

Body count is different. It’s a number, but it’s also a story—and unlike almost every other personal metric with relationship relevance, it has no reliable behavioral correlate that isn’t deeply confounded. You already nailed the confounds:

High skill or comfort in bed doesn’t equal high count (could be one deep long-term relationship).

Low skill doesn’t equal low count (could be many shallow encounters without learning or feedback).

What you perceive as “experience” might just be compatibility, confidence, or performative overcompensation.

There’s also a deeper layer: body count is almost never just about sex. It’s a proxy. People load it with meanings it can’t reliably hold—discipline, self-worth, impulsivity, loyalty, values, desirability, damage. It becomes a Rorschach test. The same number can mean “sexually adventurous and liberated” to one person and “reckless and unable to pair-bond” to another, depending entirely on their own framework.

And because it feels meaningful but is epistemologically invisible, it becomes the perfect vessel for projection, judgment, and deception. Men inflate, women deflate—as you said—but even when someone tells the truth, what do we really know? A number stripped of context tells you nothing about consent, coercion, enthusiasm, regret, growth, or current values.

Your conclusion is the mature one: make peace with not knowing, and lean on metrics that are actually diagnostic of what you care about. If what you’re really trying to assess is something like “will this person be a trustworthy, compatible, emotionally present partner,” then body count is a wildly indirect and noisy signal. You’d be better served by observing:

How they talk about past relationships and whether they’ve integrated those experiences.

Their capacity for empathy, accountability, and repair after conflict.

Their congruence between stated values and lived behavior.

Their relationship to honesty (do they lie about small things?).

How they treat your boundaries and their own.

This isn’t to say that sexual history is meaningless—it’s part of a person’s story. But treating it as a standalone datapoint with inherent moral or predictive weight is a cognitive trap. Your realization that you simply cannot know unless disclosed, and that disclosure itself is unreliable, doesn’t create a problem to solve—it dissolves a false problem entirely. And that’s genuinely freeing.

What prompted this realization for you, if you don’t mind sharing? Sometimes these insights come from a specific relationship moment—or from noticing how much collective anxiety orbits around something so fundamentally unknowable.

 

Edited 1 hour ago by Jirh