advice on text game

[Olaf]

I feel I am getting better at texting, but I always like to improve. Here is a conversation with a girl I am texting and I would like to know what you guys think. Anything I should have done differently or could improve on? I am open for feedback, give it to me. 

 

oh yeah for context sake, this is in the middle of the conversation, I don't want to share everything online, but we talked about bubble tea and a lot of other stuff fyi

 

 

Edited 22 hours ago by Olaf

[aurum]

@Olaf

She's not that interested or invested at this point. 

Is this from a cold approach? How did you meet her?

 

[Hojo]

You are the only one asking questions.

If you stopped asking questions the conversation could be dead immediately.

She could be busy if she is leaving somewhere tommorow tho.

Maybe thinking of other things, if she texting you while doing packing or thinking about leaving she could just be preoocupied doing something else.

Edited 13 hours ago by Hojo

[Olaf]

@aurum yeah from a cold approach

[Olaf]

@Hojo you mean she is not showing active interest?

[PsychedelicEagle]

The phone is for setting dates.  ~ Corey Wayne

 

There is no "game" taking place on the phone. It's just a logistics mechanism for you to meet up with her. Be direct and set definite dates.

[Rigel]

@PsychedelicEagle is right. Game is 90% non-verbal. Text is a waste of time.

[Olaf]

@PsychedelicEagle appreciate it

[Ulax]

Actualized.org forum is doing text game breakdown. Christmas has come early!

Love this shit.

[Olaf]

@Ulax hahaha I already know this forum will give less toxic advice then the other forums

[LordFall]

4 hours ago, PsychedelicEagle said:

The phone is for setting dates.  ~ Corey Wayne

 

There is no "game" taking place on the phone. It's just a logistics mechanism for you to meet up with her. Be direct and set definite dates.

100%. A lot of guys try to seduce a woman through text. It's basically chit chat nonsense that almost fundamentally can't do anything but lower her attraction towards you. Unless you're extremely suave at it then some guys are able to get some sexting going on and get the girl pent up to see them but that's clearly not what you're doing here.

I would mostly let her be the one to message you if she's in the mood to chit chat and leave it at teasing and don't ask questions because you want her to open herself up to you in person. If she does it over text it's gonna be boring for her.

"Whats been making you happy recently?" "Where do you wanna travel next?" "What are you looking forward to when visiting those countries?" "Are you always spontaneous or just with travel?" That's what I would aim to cut out.

I would just ask her when she's free and do all that in person. Sometimes voice memos can work a bit better than just text but also not great. 

This of course changes if you're actually dating and she's your girlfriend but that doesn't seem to be the case. My feedback was for the courting stage. 

Also it sounds dumb but get AI to analyze your text. It's emotional intelligence is actually surprisingly high and it'll tell you stuff you hadn't considered. Here's what Gemini had to say about it. 

Edited 55 minutes ago by LordFall

[Olaf]

@LordFall makes sense, thank you

[Sugarcoat]

Shes visiting me and @Salvijus  😂😂

Edited 31 minutes ago by Sugarcoat