Is it wrong to make-out or hookup with a girl when shes drunk and your sober?

[UpperMaster]

I made out with a girl recently, she was drunk, I was sober. Met her through social circle. Her friends set me and her up. Her sister is super against me, main reason because I was sober and she was drunk, apparently thats like taking advantage or something. 

I had no idea this would be an issue, obviously my intentions were not to take advantage of her, I actually care about this girl. 

All my friends have slightly different things to say about this.

 

Is it bad to get with a girl when she's drunk and your sober? When is it exploitative?

 

 

 

[Valach]

Everyone has different morals, what do you think about it? It also depends what do you mean by drunk. I would not have an issue with w a woman who had 1-2 drinks to ease nervousness and anxiety. I wouldn't go for someone who is clearly drunk.

[UpperMaster]

@Valach yea bro this is so tricky I had no idea there was morals attached to it so I was js like yooo this girl wants to make out with me lets go. 

I mean doesn't Leo go do pick up sober in nightclubs, usually the girl has had drinks right? Im super interested on when he would go for it and when he would not.

[Leo Gura]

How drunk?

If mildly drunk it's not problem at all.

If heavily drunk, just ask her, "You sure you want this?" while in bed.

If she is so drunk she can hardly walk, then I just don't deal with girls like that.

You should also ask every girl how many drinks she's had. They will lie, but still, good to ask.

Edited 22 hours ago by Leo Gura

[UpperMaster]

9 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

How drunk?

If mildly drunk it's not problem at all.

If heavily drunk, just ask her, "You sure you want this?" while in bed.

If she is so drunk she can hardly walk, then I just don't deal with girls like that.

You should also ask every girl how many drinks she's had. They will lie, but still, good to ask.

If I were to scale drunk levell she'd be a 7, like she definitely wasn't like falling on the floor or anything. She was pretty drunk and in super horny mood.

Also, I didn't sleep with her or anything, I just made out with her. Like wouldn't sleep with her, but I thought making out was competley fine, especially because it was appropriated by our friend-group. 

Then the next day, she brings up how that may have been weird, I I lowkey feel like Im being accused of doing smth wrong, it feels shitty. 

Like I didn't have any bad intentions so it felt weird defending myself.

 

Also how many drinks would be too many drinks?

 

 

 

 

[Leo Gura]

1 hour ago, UpperMaster said:

She was pretty drunk and in super horny mood.

Girls do this all the time. It's their problem, not yours.

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 Im being accused of doing smth wrong, it feels shitty.

Girls don't take responsibility for being slutty. So don't worry about it. Don't take their bullshit seriously.

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Also how many drinks would be too many drinks?

Impossible to say. But 1-2 is great. 3-4 is not ideal but acceptable. 5+ is bad.

A lot depends on how much time has passed.

Edited 21 hours ago by Leo Gura

[Shermaningeorgia]

This is rape. Come on. Don’t do this. 
 

she cannot consent 

[Jannes]

2 hours ago, Shermaningeorgia said:

This is rape. Come on. Don’t do this. 
 

she cannot consent 

Rape is a really strong word, too strong in this context. 

[Valach]

3 hours ago, UpperMaster said:

@Valach yea bro this is so tricky I had no idea there was morals attached to it so I was js like yooo this girl wants to make out with me lets go. 

I mean doesn't Leo go do pick up sober in nightclubs, usually the girl has had drinks right? Im super interested on when he would go for it and when he would not.

Go ahead and define your own morals. I don't really pickup girls in the clubs so can't say myself. On dates I don't mind having drink or two with a woman, but I would never try to get her drunk in order to sleep with her.