Is there a way to deal with loneliness without dealing with other people

[Ramanujan]

I am INTJ. I suck in people skills. I hate it. Is there a way to deal with loneliness without other people. I am super lonely and I crave human interaction. But also I suck really badly. I need to deal with loneliness without dealing with other people

Is it possible

[gettoefl]

I am super alone but never been lonely. The trick is to have a fulfilling life. I use every hour profitably and enjoyably. For me others are nice to have not have to have. I don't value highly a social life. In fact it's an annoyance mostly. I am not seeking change or connection. But am open, available and kind should it present. I know my purpose in life.

[Cred]

The trick is to find other people who suck at people skills.

Find other neurodivergent people. It is really easy to connect with them

[Ramanujan]

2 minutes ago, Cred said:

The trick is to find other people who suck at people skills.

Find other neurodivergent people. It is really easy to connect with them

Well said. Nice idea. But some have huge expectations and treat me like shit

But yeah nice idea

Thanks

[bazera]

52 minutes ago, Ramanujan said:

But also I suck really badly.

Why? You lack experience?

What if you just socialized much more, and through trial and error got good, isn't that an obvious option? 

What's stopping you do that?

[LordFall]

1 hour ago, Ramanujan said:

I am INTJ. I suck in people skills. I hate it. Is there a way to deal with loneliness without other people. I am super lonely and I crave human interaction. But also I suck really badly. I need to deal with loneliness without dealing with other people

Is it possible

No bro wtf is wrong with that sentence. Loneliness is you being cut off from yourself(the rest of the world) so how would you be okay with less than you could have? 

Get better at social skills and stop judging and shaming yourself for it. See it like a video game and get better each week. Go to meetup.com and pick one meetup to go to each week in your city is an easy place to start if you don't have a solid group of friends now.

Learn the basis of social circle game which lets you create your own events and organizations instead of having to bed over to established ones. Find cool people you like and together find cool things to achieve. If you're a highly sexual person fuck the attractive ones that you get along with in your circle and profit endlessly.

What is the alternative you're proposing to your own self? Meditating until you're okay being an incel? An incel literally means involuntary celibate. Your will is endless. Stop using it towards accepting a mediocre life. 

[OBEler]

2 hours ago, Ramanujan said:

I am INTJ. I suck in people skills. I hate it. Is there a way to deal with loneliness without other people. I am super lonely and I crave human interaction. But also I suck really badly. I need to deal with loneliness without dealing with other people

Is it possible

Yes. hearing podcasts, sitting in a cafe or restaurant. 

[something_else]

1 hour ago, Cred said:

The trick is to find other people who suck at people skills.

Find other neurodivergent people. It is really easy to connect with them

This is the key. I’d add that it really helps to find some neurodivergent extroverts with good people skills. These people will allow you to be sociable but remove a lot of the effort and pressure placed upon you to handle the basic social rules/customs that you may struggle with.

[Lyubov]

Go backpacking in Asia. It's cheap.

[LastThursday]

@Ramanujan I'm sorry man being lonely sucks bad, loneliness is anti-human.

Sort of what @Cred says, go find people to be with, that interact in a way that feels comfortable to you. There's so many different ways now to do that online, if face-to-face doesn't appeal. Think about your interests and go find groups online to express that interest. Probably even being on here helps to an extent I daresay.