What are your thoughts on having children?

[bazera]

@Miguel1

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We will see again in 3-5+ years but very possible I will not have children

What do you think needs to happen for you to reconsider that and have kids after those 3-5+ years?

When I think of myself, I can't imagine anything happening that will make me want to have children. As I age, I lose interest in reproduction more and more.

[Ramasta9]

On 2/9/2026 at 0:43 PM, bazera said:

Hey,

I’ve just recently turned 30, and I’ve never wanted children in my life. Especially as I get older, I’m becoming more certain that it’s not something I need or want. I feel that I still have a lot to do in the areas of spirituality and survival mastery, and having a family—especially children—would be a major distraction from that. I also intuitively feel that I would regret it later in life.

The external pressure to start a family and have kids (as a kind of default life path) is also becoming increasingly annoying as I age.

What do you think? Do you yourself want or have a family or children? What do you consider a proper reason for having them, aside from pure survival? I do see it as a significant growth opportunity, but at the same time, a major distraction from consciousness work—which, if someone wants to pursue seriously, should probably make them think twice about having kids.

I’m especially interested in hearing opinions from women in this community, since culturally the pressure to have children tends to be stronger for women.

It would be a beautiful and rich experience to raise a family and have my own little minions one day running around and challenging my consciousness as little divine imprints and creative bubbles of love, but at the same time not living in an ideal environment and having your own land and home and and safe space of love to raise them in, ideally in a natural setting full of wild-life, exposure to nature, animals and a healthy community, it would definitely not be wise in my eyes.

My recent partner and I were on this path and very close to having children, but we had to split and push this aside which was very heartbreaking for both of us because we realized unfortunately everywhere we go, money is one of the main things we need to have our own land, home, and safe space. We were almost considering selling everything we own and going to the wild and living entirely off grid and doing it that way, but we too felt we had more to do in the modern world so we felt to follow and honour that first and until we are both ready and have the resources to raise a family, if it ever aligns again.

2025 was one of the hardest years for me, a lot of heartbreaks happened in all areas of life. Its very unfortunate we have to pay to live, being the most intelligent creatures on this planet, we are the only ones that deal with money, and because we are mostly raised in these mostly artificial environments, we struggle to know how to live naturally and more freely as the indigenous and native people do so effortlessly. I have lived with natives a few times, but they are way stronger and more adaptive to the wild than most people raised in the city ever can be, it could take decades to adapt and be at peace with it.

I was even considering venturing off to the Himalayas and leaving behind the phone, wallet and wandering into the forest and never returning. I still feel this call deep within me, if things don't change, i might actually just do that cause this world is severely messed up in some ways and i haven't seen much change in the 35 or so years I've been walking upon it.

To have to pay to live is the most unnatural feeling ever, ever since i was born i felt something is terribly wrong with this system. Its severely sick and people just bow their heads and accept it, but i guess most people are sick themselves and under the spell.

 

Edited 12 hours ago by Ramasta9

[LoneWonderer]

At this point in my life I am too selfish to think about having to give up my current life to care for children. Maybe with age I'll change.

[Miguel1]

7 hours ago, bazera said:

What do you think needs to happen for you to reconsider that and have kids after those 3-5+ years?

Good question.

Solid and stable career that generates great income, and on top of that I find a really great woman to be my life partner and a great mother to my child(ren) (this is the more tricky one).

[Lyubov]

8 hours ago, bazera said:

@Lyubov

In what way? Just the fact that you made a living breathing thing that can be shaped in multiple ways? And that it's all your responsibility mostly and it takes growth and development on your part to succeed in that, yeah I get it. But still, if you have some unanswered questions and unfinished things in your growth journey that you want to handle, having a kid will make that process harder.

You can use the same reductive questioning to diminish anything. In what way is consciousness work even important? Just the fact you saw some lights and changed states sometimes and had some mystical stuff happen? What are you even trying to solve? Aren't you just making problems for yourself by chasing something that's already here and now? You're already in heaven so what's the point? You only see barriers in having kids so of course it's going to limit you if you view it that way. Maybe there is a deeper cultural pressure to have kids on you for a reason? I'm not saying you should have kids I'm just sparking discussion. I think it comes down if it's authentic for you and you see value in it (I do). Distractions and challenges aren't always viewed as problems by me and I don't see children as such a huge hurdle as you do. 

 

[bazera]

@Lyubov

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I think it comes down if it's authentic for you and you see value in it (I do).

Yes I think so. I don't. Maybe it's also depended on personality type, lifestyle preference, and maybe some people just don't like children in general, who knows. For example, one of my friends who is my age has 2 children and is super happy, he always wanted to have children, since when he himself was a child. I think his upbringing made him want it, or it was brainwashing, but who knows, maybe it was deeper than that.

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Aren't you just making problems for yourself by chasing something that's already here and now? You're already in heaven so what's the point?

It's not that simple, I don't feel myself being in heaven, it's not in my experience. And if I don't do something about it, it won't ever be.

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Distractions and challenges aren't always viewed as problems by me

I don't either, it just comes down to priorities. If you want something, then challanges need to be faced and distractions avoided to achieve that thing. My point was that some things that I still want out of life, to achieve those I need to be focused on them sometimes exclusively, and having children and family would be distraction because of that. If family and children is something you want, of course maybe even spirituality becomes distraction for you. So sure, distraction and challenges are relative to what you want out of life at the current moment (can also change in the future).

[Basman]

13 hours ago, bazera said:

@Basman

Did that force you to grow in ways you wouldn't be able to if you had proper emotional upbringing? Or did that make you more distant, avoidant and vulnerable from others people and relationships for example. 

That feels like a leading question, but it is a bit of both.

Edited 43 minutes ago by Basman