What are your thoughts on having children?

[bazera]

@Miguel1

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We will see again in 3-5+ years but very possible I will not have children

What do you think needs to happen for you to reconsider that and have kids after those 3-5+ years?

When I think of myself, I can't imagine anything happening that will make me want to have children. As I age, I lose interest in reproduction more and more.

[Ramasta9]

On 2/9/2026 at 0:43 PM, bazera said:

Hey,

I’ve just recently turned 30, and I’ve never wanted children in my life. Especially as I get older, I’m becoming more certain that it’s not something I need or want. I feel that I still have a lot to do in the areas of spirituality and survival mastery, and having a family—especially children—would be a major distraction from that. I also intuitively feel that I would regret it later in life.

The external pressure to start a family and have kids (as a kind of default life path) is also becoming increasingly annoying as I age.

What do you think? Do you yourself want or have a family or children? What do you consider a proper reason for having them, aside from pure survival? I do see it as a significant growth opportunity, but at the same time, a major distraction from consciousness work—which, if someone wants to pursue seriously, should probably make them think twice about having kids.

I’m especially interested in hearing opinions from women in this community, since culturally the pressure to have children tends to be stronger for women.

It would be a beautiful and rich experience to raise a family and have my own little minions one day running around and challenging my consciousness as little divine imprints and creative bubbles of love, but at the same time not living in an ideal environment and having your own land and home and and safe space of love to raise them in, ideally in a natural setting full of wild-life, exposure to nature, animals and a healthy community, it would definitely not be wise in my eyes.

My recent partner and I were on this path and very close to having children, but we had to split and push this aside which was very heartbreaking for both of us because we realized unfortunately everywhere we go, money is one of the main things we need to have our own land, home, and safe space. We were almost considering selling everything we own and going to the wild and living entirely off grid and doing it that way, but we too felt we had more to do in the modern world so we felt to follow and honour that first and until we are both ready and have the resources to raise a family, if it ever aligns again.

2025 was one of the hardest years for me, a lot of heartbreaks happened in all areas of life. Its very unfortunate we have to pay to live, being the most intelligent creatures on this planet, we are the only ones that deal with money, and because we are mostly raised in these mostly artificial environments, we struggle to know how to live naturally and more freely as the indigenous and native people do so effortlessly. I have lived with natives a few times, but they are way stronger and more adaptive to the wild than most people raised in the city ever can be, it could take decades to adapt and be at peace with it.

I was even considering venturing off to the Himalayas and leaving behind the phone, wallet and wandering into the forest and never returning. I still feel this call deep within me, if things don't change, i might actually just do that cause this world is severely messed up in some ways and i haven't seen much change in the 35 or so years I've been walking upon it.

To have to pay to live is the most unnatural feeling ever, ever since i was born i felt something is terribly wrong with this system. Its severely sick and people just bow their heads and accept it, but i guess most people are sick themselves and under the spell.

 

Edited 5 hours ago by Ramasta9

[LoneWonderer]

At this point in my life I am too selfish to think about having to give up my current life to care for children. Maybe with age I'll change.