Advice to succeed for my university

[jimwell]

On 12/25/2025 at 8:14 AM, sda said:

I recall a lot of traumatic events when I am daydreaming so that is what I feel bad about and my beliefs are centered around the traumatic events.

I remember you sharing about your traumatic experience in a Chinese university. You were mentally, emotionally, and financially bullied by two gang-member brothers, correct? That sounded very painful, and I grasp why you have been experiencing PTSD because of it. So I think I should try to help you again.

I also remember you transferred or were planning to transfer to a Canadian university to escape your traumatic Chinese university experience. Are you studying at a Canadian university now?

When I was in college, I was too internally destroyed; I could not focus on my lessons. Even when I forced myself, I couldn't do it. The rare times I was able to focus and learn, I would forget them the next day or 2. I was too overwhelmed by anxiety and depression to learn or accomplish anything significant. So I feel you even though your anxiety and trauma is milder than what I struggled with.

To succeed in anything in life, you need to possess solid foundations: decent amount of self-love, self-esteem, and self-worth; and a healthy (or at least clear and functional enough) mind. So focus on these foundations first. Don't worry about the time. Even if you pause everything else in life for 10 years, as long as you are building these foundations, you will be in a good situation (internally first and then externally) in the long run.

Important questions: Do you really need to go to university and obtain a degree? Is it because you are genuinely enthusiastic about it? Or is it because your parents want you to do it? Or are you simply conforming to the general life trajectory without even realizing it?

If your answer is NOT genuine enthusiasm then I recommend you stop going to university. Yes, it's a gutsy move. But in life, especially at critical moments, you need gutsy decisions and actions. If you accept this recommendation, start with building the foundations I mentioned earlier. Take 1 or 2 years to focus on them. This should be your top priority. I also recommend you read the book "You Can Heal Your Life" by Louise Hay. That was the book I read in my 20s that opened my mind to the foundations self-healing. I could be wrong with the book title because that was many years ago. But I am sure about the author's name. After reading and embodying the principles in the book, you will develop a stronger sense of self-love and self-respect. You’ll be able to define and enforce your personal boundaries, ensuring that nobody can bully you again. You’ll also gain clarity about your desires and pursue them unapologetically.

In the first 2 or 3 years of serious internal work, you will experience this transformation. After 10 years, you will reach around 70% to 90% embodiment which is amazing. If you feel you need external therapy along the way, you can pursue it. But it is secondary support, so don't make it your primary focus.

To handle the financial domain, you can learn a high-paying skill such as data analysis or video editing. These can be studied at home with just a computer and internet access. This complements the strategy I mentioned earlier, empowering you to do internal work while earning money from home. Another option is to deposit a large sum into a high-interest account, such as a Time Deposit or Certificate of Deposit. Your money will be locked for 6 months or 1 year (non-withdrawable), but it can earn a substantial 5% to 7% interest after taxes. This is a powerful strategy that can help you escape salary slavery for life. You simply need the capital. This works especially well if your parents are rich and willing to help you, and you live in a 3rd world country or an affordable place.

For example, if you deposited 120,000 USD into a time deposit account yielding 5% yearly interest, you would receive a 6,000 USD lump sum after one year. I have the impression you are from India. That would be about 556,062 INR after one year, which is equivalent to roughly 46,338.5 INR per month. I have never lived in India, but I guess that could provide a materially decent life there. You could even choose to spend 80% of the monthly 46,338.5 INR and reinvest the remaining 20% to let it compound. That is a sure way to escape Earth's ugly salary slavery.

This is much better than investing in currency, stocks, index funds, or crypto because of the very low risk. The only challenge is that the required capital is difficult to obtain. But as I mentioned earlier, if you have wealthy parents who are willing to help, then this is very doable. In my case, I don’t have rich parents. I also lost tens of thousands of USD in currency trading in 2024. I have the knowledge, the strategy, the exact banks I work with, and the will. But I don’t have the capital yet to permanently escape salary slavery.

But I believe in miracles.