The Power of saying NO

[Terell Kirby]

On the heels of the latest Actualized.org video on conforming, I'm now realizing how empowering it feels to say NO.

Saying NO to unhealthy things, is saying YES to healthy.

This entire year, I've been assessing what has worked for my personal development and growth, and what hasn't (includes people, activities, ways of thinking, etc). It has become all too clear now the ways in which I limit myself and my growth for the sake of being liked and approved of.

Saying NO is one powerful, under utilized tool in this work. I hope to get better at it as I age and develop.

[Natasha Tori Maru]

Yep.

Big one for so many people. It usually comes down to boundaries. ESPECIALLY WOMEN.

'No' is a complete sentence.

Edited Monday at 03:16 AM by Natasha Tori Maru

[Rishabh R]

In my experience saying no is tough but worth it. I need to work on it.

[AntonK]

I think  that instead of short yes or no, people should use "о, yes!)" and "no, because ...".

Edited Monday at 11:24 AM by AntonK

[UnbornTao]

Everytime you say "no", remember Bugs Bunny:

[Alexop]

On 10/11/2025 at 4:15 AM, Natasha Tori Maru said:

Yep.

Big one for so many people. It usually comes down to boundaries. ESPECIALLY WOMEN.

'No' is a complete sentence.

Women sometimes say no to healthy things. She might say no to a cool guy like Leo because some video rubbed her the wrong way hehe. An saying yes to some people pleaser nice guy wimp instead that will slowly ruin her life.

Edited 8 hours ago by Alexop

[Natasha Tori Maru]

@Alexop Yes that is true - I will stipulate that my reply was more applicable to women saying no within already established interpersonal relationships! I think once family, friend and romantic relationships are established - THAT is when women struggle to say no  

In terms of dating, due to the nature of the dynamic, women do not struggle to say no as much when approached !

[Alexop]

That is very true. They are ruthless when dating but overwhelmingly indulgent when already in a relationship. Maybe this is a reason for being ruthless when dating, because they foresee that.

[pursuitofspirit]

Saying no is a superpower. Most people are too needy and desperate for approval to effectively say no and mean it.