How many women did you meet before you found a girlfriend?

[Thought Art]

This motivates me! My life makes it hard to socialize right now between my life purpose goals and travelling for work. But, I’ll figure it out!

[Miguel1]

6 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

I have a good looking friend who just runs a script on every girl he sees that he finds attractive to get a phone number. He only runs the script. And he gets girls fly in to sleep with him because he is good looking. He is just a script machine and he will run that script on any girl he sees, any place, any time, no matter what.

Man, this is like hell in every possible way lol 

I wouldn’t even be able to get an erection if sex became this mechanical and robotic.

Edited November 4 by Miguel1

[max duewel]

I started approaching this spring again and found a Gf on my 83rd approach. (I did around 600 approaches before that)

[Thought Art]

@max duewel Hey that’s good man

[max duewel]

@Thought Art Thanks

[joeyi99]

What's the script?

[EternalForest]

On 11/1/2025 at 1:34 AM, Emerald said:

No. Just start socializing in groups with men and women in them. (school, hobby groups, or any other place that you frequent)

Make friends and acquaintances with the men and the women in the group.

And over time, if you are authentic, a small but sizable percentage of women in the group will be interested in you.... and you can spark up something when you sense chemistry. 

This doesn't work if you have male only friend groups like me.

[Emerald]

On 11/10/2025 at 10:54 PM, EternalForest said:

This doesn't work if you have male only friend groups like me.

That's where you're going wrong. 

Get some female friends and acquaintances in your social circle, simply for the sake of building a robust social circle. Every person should aim to do that, imo.

Hanging out too much of one type of person can be a bit socially stunting. So, if you only hang out with other young/youngish guys, it's going to make you disconnected because that's a very specific social bubble. And operating too much in that zone will make interactions with women feel alien and awkward... or as purely agenda driven.

And as a perk of creating a more robust social circle, some percentage of those female friends and acquaintances that you interact with will be interested in you. 

Honestly, too many guys on this forum are sleeping on the benefits of having a strong and varied social support system... and some of those benefits include romantic benefits.

[Kid A]

8 hours ago, Emerald said:

Hanging out too much of one type of person can be a bit socially stunting. So, if you only hang out with other young/youngish guys, it's going to make you disconnected because that's a very specific social bubble. And operating too much in that zone will make interactions with women feel alien and awkward... or as purely agenda driven.

I can confirm this 100%.
 

Not prioritizing having female friends has been one of the really really big mistakes that I’ve made in life. 

[EternalForest]

13 hours ago, Emerald said:

That's where you're going wrong. 

Get some female friends and acquaintances in your social circle, simply for the sake of building a robust social circle. Every person should aim to do that, imo.

Hanging out too much of one type of person can be a bit socially stunting. So, if you only hang out with other young/youngish guys, it's going to make you disconnected because that's a very specific social bubble. And operating too much in that zone will make interactions with women feel alien and awkward... or as purely agenda driven.

And as a perk of creating a more robust social circle, some percentage of those female friends and acquaintances that you interact with will be interested in you. 

Honestly, too many guys on this forum are sleeping on the benefits of having a strong and varied social support system... and some of those benefits include romantic benefits.

Obviously this is something I'd like to have in theory.

But I already love my circle. Why should I bring women in just for the sake of it? Does the strength in a social circle really hinge on its diversity?

I'd rather be part of an all male or all female social circle that's loyal, fun and uncensored over one that's diverse and mediocre.

Edited 1 hour ago by EternalForest

[Emerald]

29 minutes ago, EternalForest said:

Obviously this is something I'd like to have in theory.

But I already love my circle. Why should I bring women in just for the sake of it? Does the strength in a social circle really hinge on its diversity?

I'd rather be part of an all male or all female social circle that's loyal, fun and uncensored over one that's diverse and mediocre.

It's because it operates like the village, which is what social circles have always naturally been. So, diversity in one's social circle is part of the need.

It's mostly adolescents that operate in same-sex social circles, as subsets within the greater village before they're ready to step into adult participation within the entire village.

So, it's a more mature and adult way to operate socially. And as a plus, women tend to respond very well to men who are less adolescent-seeming and more adult-seeming... which involves having a strong community and varied social network.

Also, why relate diversity to mediocrity?

As someone who has a varied social circle of people in many parts of the world, many cultural backgrounds, ages across the spectrum, and including men, women, and even a few non-binary people... I can tell you that there are very interesting people in every single group.

The main goal that I have is to find others on the same wavelength and to cultivate the village around myself.

What I find is, in cliques of young men or cliques of young women, things can be a little one-note and insular. There's a lot more growth to be had if you create the village around yourself.

And a side benefit of that is that you'll have more opportunities to find a partner. Another couple side benefits is (if you decide to do pick-up), you will have lots of social practice with interacting with women in non-agenda driven ways AND you won't be starving for human connection as your cup will be filled.

If you do pick-up without having your cup filled of your need for the village, you will unconsciously see every female prospect as a substitute for the missing parts of the village. And it will add a lot of pressure. 

[Emerald]

5 hours ago, Kid A said:

I can confirm this 100%.
 

Not prioritizing having female friends has been one of the really really big mistakes that I’ve made in life. 

Yes. I tend to find that men who have no female acquaintances or friends can be a bit socially disconnected, as they're used to only operating in the specific ways that groups of young men tend to operate. 

The same could be said for women who only interact with other women... but this is a bit less common.