Leo, what are the exact steps to start a family?

[Av2521]

Hi,

so I am male, 28 years old (soon 29), living in a town in germany. I have zero sexual experience, never had a gf and Im a virgin.

My plan is to settle down in a few years, get a wife, have children, working a job, buying a house.

What are the exact action steps?

Thanks.

[Emerald]

Leo might not be the best person to ask because he doesn't have a wife or children.

But the best thing you can do is to open yourself up to deeper connection with a woman... and develop a healthy social circle that includes both women and men.

That is probably going to be your best bet for developing deep friendship and connection with a woman, which is the basis of longterm pair-bonding.

So, I'd imagine that you might be in a position where you've never had a girlfriend because you haven't been socializing with women... or perhaps you haven't been socializing enough in general.

To remedy this, you'll want to get a lot more social.

[Jannes]

I guess there are many women who want to built a family, are more experienced and are skilled at picking out exactly the kind of guy they could do that with. So when you present yourself, that could be your chance. But its important to socialize, date, whatever you can to get more experience to have more self-efficacy. 

You need resources of course to built a family, so you would need to elaborate where you stand.

[samijiben]

Hey, just curious — I mean, I wouldn't mind a wife myself...

But WHY?

What will a wife provife for you in terms of betting your life & deepening your connection to whatever it is that you are after?

For the Wife is not the end goal. You don't even know what she looks like yet! That raises the question I was asking, "whatdya hope to get outta this, man?"

[samijiben]

I get the idea is attractive of being a family man, or simply just having a family, or baloney fucking sandwhiches wrapped in seran wrap that you eat on the curb outside chipotle where you work while smoking crack with your friend, Bob?

But the goal is never marriage itself, for that is a cultural implant — it means nothing. A woman, on the other hand, if she sticks around (after you put the ringer of the finger) can give you all sorts of things — we're talking consistent blowjobs (hopefully), baloney fucking sandwiches, affection & care, a sense of self-worth, and obviously children.

So, I take back what I said. That actually sounds quite nice. Best do some game & "play around." Then, afterwards, you can get serious. Or you can just skip the playing and get right to the real deal, or reverse the equation and JUST HAVE FUN, NOW!!!

[Leo Gura]

It's all explained in the How To Get Laid series. That's how you find a girlfriend.

[Majed]

@Leo Gura Leo we want more content on romantic relationships. 

[Something Funny]

1 hour ago, Majed said:

@Leo Gura Leo we want more content on romantic relationships. 

Leo isn't exactly a dating coach

[Rafael Thundercat]

Engage in Mórmon Church. Getting married is requisite part of their Doctrine,so you just need to alling yourself with the Community and be a good Man. 

Depending of how history goes they maube even go back to Poligamy Elon Musk style.

Edited July 2 by Rafael Thundercat

[Princess Arabia]

5 hours ago, Majed said:

@Leo Gura Leo we want more content on romantic relationships. 

Do you see Leo in one? Why some of you guys want Leo to be a superhuman who knows everything. He seems to concentrate on the things he knows best and dibble dabble in the ones he doesn't. There are other top tier content around that's in this department. 

[Av2521]

@Leo Gura Thank you, Leo. So if I watch the videos and apply it, I can be successful with women and find a gf?

What about looks? How important is that?

[freddyteisen]

@Av2521 Yes looks are important. Health = looks. The healthier you are the better you’ll look. Grassfed groundbeef, butter, fruit, white rice, some cucumber/salad and raw organic dairy as well as raw honey.

Lots of Sun—build your solar callus and get tanned af. And train functionally: one kettle bell and body weight.

And then, expose yourself to as many women as possible. Women will be naturally attracted to your health/looks/energy and your confidence in yourself

[Basman]

Becoming a functioning family man is a bunch of different things coming together, -atracting women and career. It's not a singular thing. 

Focus on the basics of dating and life purpose for now. Family is the reward of your personal development journey.

[Leo Gura]

13 hours ago, Av2521 said:

@Leo Gura Thank you, Leo. So if I watch the videos and apply it, I can be successful with women and find a gf?

It all depends on the effort you put it.

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What about looks? How important is that?

It depends on your looks and the caliber of girl you require.

The hotter the girl the harder she is to get.

But I've slept with models and 10's. It's not easy for me.

If your standards are low it's much easier.

Edited July 3 by Leo Gura

[StaraX]

@Leo Gura Two weeks ago you posted a video in your blog where Sadie Khan and Orion Taraban discuss about mating and relationship. The title is "The Harsh Realities Of Mating". 

Of course we are talking about survival and survival rarely includes compasison & heart. What kinda baffled me was that how come you agreed with Sadie Khan? Usually the stuff she sais isn't accurate. As a matter of fact, many people consider her to be a grifter.  You sense people's characters immediately as you say, how come you didn't sense here charatcter flaws? In that post you seemed to highly agree. No problem with that, but I'm assuming you wouldn't say "accurate insights here" if Andrew Tate or someone like him says that kind of stuff. 

Edited July 3 by StaraX

[Schizophonia]

1 hour ago, Leo Gura said:

 

The hotter the girl the harder she is to get.

In my experience it’s not systematically true at all.

 

Edited July 3 by Schizophonia

[Leo Gura]

11 hours ago, StaraX said:

@Leo Gura Two weeks ago you posted a video in your blog where Sadie Khan and Orion Taraban discuss about mating and relationship. The title is "The Harsh Realities Of Mating". 

Of course we are talking about survival and survival rarely includes compasison & heart. What kinda baffled me was that how come you agreed with Sadie Khan? Usually the stuff she sais isn't accurate. As a matter of fact, many people consider her to be a grifter.  You sense people's characters immediately as you say, how come you didn't sense here charatcter flaws? In that post you seemed to highly agree.

I only know of her what I saw in that one video. In that video she said many valid things.

11 hours ago, StaraX said:

No problem with that, but I'm assuming you wouldn't say "accurate insights here" if Andrew Tate or someone like him says that kind of stuff. 

Andrew Tate is deeply problematic and not of the quality of Sadie in that video.

10 hours ago, Schizophonia said:

In my experience it’s not systematically true at all.

How many 10s have you dated?

[Schizophonia]

6 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

 

How many 10s have you dated?

I wouldn't say I dated, but I got hit on several times by 7 or 8/10 girls, the girls who were most open to me were the prettiest.

When I said “hit” I'm not in a big virgin's delusion, it was very clear.

As I talk to them a little, they start following me here and there, sitting near me at the university, offering me meals out, etc.

I refused/walked away each time because I didn't have the energy due to insomnia and/or because I felt that there wasn't enough in common to risk getting involved in a relationship.

 

Edited July 3 by Schizophonia

[Leo Gura]

@Schizophonia You don't have enough experience to be making your claims.

[Schizophonia]

Just now, Leo Gura said:

@Schizophonia You don't have enough experience to be making your claims.

Maybe you didn’t read my edit.

I have experience, I talked to plenty of girls.

Each time the more open was the more attractives ones for some reasons.

Maybe it’s just a coincidence but those are facts.