The Purpose Of A Girlfriend Is To Dream Deeper Into The Matrix

[Alexop]

33 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

I don't.

I don't pursue women much.

Finding a woman who is actually worth dating is extremely hard for me. So much so that I barely think about it.

 

[Leo Gura]

13 minutes ago, Alexop said:

 

I am exhausted just imagining what it would be like to date her.

The only way to date her is to be her man-servant and yes-man.

Edited Monday at 11:21 PM by Leo Gura

[r0ckyreed]

38 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

I don't.

I don't pursue women much.

Finding a woman who is actually worth dating is extremely hard for me. So much so that I barely think about it.

I feel like that is where I’m at. I see the market. I’ve been on Hinge, approached at the bars. But I don’t see anyone worth dating and being vulnerable with again.

[Alexop]

19 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

I am exhausted just imagining what it would be like to date her.

The only way to date her is to be her man-servant and yes-man.

Wow, interesting take! Because she actually talks about how much she hates yes-men and nice guys.

Edited Monday at 11:30 PM by Leo Gura

[Alexop]

@r0ckyreed finding a woman who will follow your personal development path is virtually impossible. Finding a cute, feminine, loving girl is possible. They usually have boyfriends, healthy women have social circles and choose the best guy in those circles as their partner, finding one on hinge would be highly unprobable. Think for a strategy to infiltrate in such circles or otherwise cold approach like hell.

[Leo Gura]

12 minutes ago, Alexop said:

Because she actually talks about how much she hates yes-men and nice guys.

She might hate it but not as much as she will hate getting contradicted.

Nothing pisses off a New Age woman more than deconstructing her spiritual fantasies.

Edited Monday at 11:34 PM by Leo Gura

[vinc3nc]

The more time you postpone getting a gf, the more chance you have at becoming successful in life. Why? Because you will have more time and money, and if used properly, you can get far in life.

Just look around yourself. Most men have gfs, but they're broke, unfit, unsuccessful, unambitous, unhappy. They get complacent and stay mediocre. They probably don't have a life you would want to have or live.

That said, relationships do make you grow a lot, if you have some self-awareness. But still most people never learn much from them, and they keep repeating the same mistakes and keep wasting their time.

It's better to chase money in life than girls. At least money will buy you time and might even make you free forever. You can always get a gf later, right?

Edited Monday at 11:54 PM by vinc3nc

[Keryo Koffa]

1 hour ago, vinc3nc said:

The more time you postpone getting a gf, the more chance you have at becoming successful in life.
Why? You can always get a gf later, right?

Postponed Gratification Speedrun:

Create life, responsible morality later.
Conquer the world, godhood later.
Focus on politics, conquest later.
Have a family, do politics later.
Focus on gf, postpone kids.
Get a job instead of a gf.
Study instead of a job.
Do self-actualization.
Become Buddhist.
Un-reincarnate.
Stop caring.
Be truth.
Leo.
*

Edited Tuesday at 01:01 AM by Keryo Koffa

[integration journey]

1 hour ago, Keryo Koffa said:

Postponed Gratification Speedrun:

Create life, responsible morality later.
Conquer the world, godhood later.
Focus on politics, conquest later.
Have a family, do politics later.
Focus on gf, postpone kids.
Get a job instead of a gf.
Study instead of a job.
Do self-actualization.
Become Buddhist.
Un-reincarnate.
Stop caring.
Be truth.
Leo.
*

I love you 

[Puer Aeternus]

24 minutes ago, integration journey said:

I love you 

Love?! 

Responding on behalf of my client @Keryo Koffa

[integration journey]

17 minutes ago, Puer Aeternus said:

Love?! 

Responding on behalf of my client @Keryo Koffa

In a metaphysical epistemological way😂

[Puer Aeternus]

10 minutes ago, integration journey said:

In a metaphysical epistemological way😂

No homo and definitely no homosapien! Unless you and my client kissed while on 5-meo, then it's just the universe kissing itself and perfectly solipsisexual.

[Princess Arabia]

7 hours ago, r0ckyreed said:

Relationships are attachments.

Spirituality is an attachment. Truth seeking is an attachment. You're kidding yourself. You're not looking for a gf with same interests as you, you're looking for an attachment buddy. Someone to do drugs with so you can have a partner to hold unto while you hang on for dear life. You curse what you think gets in the way of your constructed little bubble and seek out anything that can add to it. It feels lonely trying to stay afloat where there is no ground and nothing to hold unto.

You don't want truth or are seeking truth, you're resisting what is. You think that gf who seeks truth with you will be the answer to your relief. You seek relief from yourself but can't seem to be relieved no matter what you do, and you think it's the matrix's fault. You want to escape the matrix to find relief from the sense of separation you feel. If you were really seeking truth for it's own sake, you wouldn't care if you had a gf who didn't care about that stuff. Do you need to have a gf that eats the same foods you eat, uses the same soap, sleep on the same side you sleep on, you only care that she's a truth seeker to help to keep you stable. Others are dependents for your stability. Needing others to be conscious is seeking, it's a form of neurosis. Everything is life validates separation. You turn your back on freedom and liberation when you resist what is and truth seeking is a form of resistance. All seeking is. It's what you are. The seeking energy. It looks for company to validate itself and it's a way of avoiding it's death. To be truly free and liberated as a separated self is to die and you don't want that so you seek for truth. You cannot find truth because it's not accessible to the seeker. How can it be. A seeker cannot stop seeking it can only fall away or die to reveal it's own absence and you don't want that. You hide behind spirituality and truth seeking to not die. Now you want a stay-alive-buddy to keep you awake in the dream. Your truth seeking is no different than someone on crack, it's a dependency. It's a high you get from feeling separate where there is no separation and you want to keep it that way. 

 

[Schizophonia]

Something I noticed, and my mentor noticed as well, is that the people who most pretend to be or seek to separate themselves from the dream the most are actually the ones with the strongest egos.

If you had little ego you would be peaceful and benevolent, because you would seek to integrate; One can only touch the “1” by integrating, never by intersecting.

But you are not looking for love here, you don't want to give love you are looking for a girl you can use as proof that you are powerful.

Because "truth-seeking" is just a survival strategy, basically a way to show off in front of your parents, it's no more important than any phallic substitute. But since you're fearful, probably because of a poor resolution of the Oedipus complex, you try to foist the phallus on the woman, to use it to narcissify yourself.

So when you think you're against the dream, you're actually being more narcissistic than most other humans.
 

The only way to decrease ego, to « win » the dream is to stop fighting the dream.

Because fighting the dream

 

is in the dream !!

[Schizophonia]

14 hours ago, Sugarcoat said:

It’s because it’s hard finding the right girl. So this will be the case for most girls. Or humans in general. It’s very rare but I believe it’s possible to find a woman who also seeks “truth” similarly to you who you’d resonate with
 

You can also think about how you prioritize in your life. As long as you have an ego your interactions with others will be on the ego/dream level. This you have to be honest with yourself about. So most of the time you’re living in the dream like everybody else. But you prioritize truth, and maybe that’s your highest priority, but you could also if you find it important, to make space for egoic desires. Like sex and relationships. And allow those to be on dream level so you don’t expect your partner to align with your truth seeking. It’s a matter of how you prioritize it in your life, a relationship won’t give you permanent bliss, nothing on the worldly level will, but you can still value the short term and more long term (yet still not permanent) happiness it can give. And since it’s on the dream level for you , you accept that your partner is operating on dream level.

Then if you one day find the truth and things like relationships are no longer on dream level for you, that is something that has to happen within you, and once it happens nobody outside yourself can pull you back into the dream, so maybe it won’t matter if partner is in the dream because it won’t affect you

Love is the most conscious emotion.

The weaker the ego, the easier love (or even libido, on another way) is; it is ego defense mechanisms that block it, even if it is not easy to see because repressed.

It's as if a rat thought it had conquered life by isolating itself under an old cupboard while waiting to die.

Low ego is not energy loss and calcification, it is actually high ego; Low ego is love and integration, like under 5 MeO DMT.
Or closer to the state you were when you was a child/teenager; youngness, vitality.

 

[PenguinPablo]

@Schizophonia Interesting, sounds very similar to the phenomenon Dr K. was talking about from Carl Jung. The Forever Child basically.

 

Edited Tuesday at 06:18 AM by PenguinPablo

[emil1234]

 

On 15.6.2025 at 9:41 PM, r0ckyreed said:

I have deconstructed the fantasy of a hot witch truth-seeking girlfriend. 

i want this fantasy tho

Edited Tuesday at 07:11 AM by emil1234

[meta_male]

10 hours ago, r0ckyreed said:

Relationships are a self-deception.

When you finally see that isolating yourself in truth seeking is the same trap as losing yourself in relationships, that’s when the real insights start.

[Alexop]

9 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

She might hate it but not as much as she will hate getting contradicted.

Nothing pisses off a New Age woman more than deconstructing her spiritual fantasies.

Yeah, I only watch her relationships/femininity/masculinity videos. The ones with angels and shit feel like nonsense.

If even a smart woman like her can fall into newage, the average kid has 0 chance to properly pursue spirituality. 

Edited Tuesday at 08:36 AM by Alexop

[Leo Gura]

Teal has this girl-boss energy such that it will be hard for her to ever submit to a man.