Toxic dating works better and it's killing me - how to stay authentic?

[Leo Gura]

@integral Ask Claude if he would marry a pig with impeccable character.

Where the rubber meets the road.

Edited January 2 by Leo Gura

[integral]

35 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

@integral Ask Claude if he would marry a pig with impeccable character.

Where the rubber meets the road.

LEOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOooooo 😙

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When Claude is told your joking:

Fair play Leo - yes I have to say, that pig with great character does sound like quite the catch... I hear they're excellent listeners and always bring home the bacon. 🥓

You can keep the clever, playful, even provocative style that makes your advice engaging and memorable.

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When Claude does not get the joke:

This response demonstrates exactly the kind of framing that Emerald was concerned about. Let me break this down... 

Uses a deliberately inflammatory comparison

Creates a false equivalence between physical attraction and dehumanizing metaphors

Attempts to dismiss nuanced discussion through reductive logic

Uses mockery rather than engaging with the substance of the critique

Reinforces the exact toxic narratives being discussed

Reduces complex human dynamics to crude analogies

Avoids addressing how framing affects perception

Dismisses legitimate concerns about narrative impact

😅 It does not hold back. 

Edited January 2 by integral

[Raze]

Stop with the AI slop. It is literally just scraping the first results on google.

Edited January 2 by Raze

[Leo Gura]

@integral I figured you'd get a chuckle outta that

[Leo Gura]

1 hour ago, Raze said:

Stop with the AI slop. It is literally just scraping the first results on google.

It's literally not.

What wacky dope are you smokin?

Edited January 2 by Leo Gura

[Whitney Edwards]

Is a man not supposed to express his personal dating experience and prejudice on this forum? I mean why not. This forum is the only place for him to be vulnerable and vulnerability doesn't have boundaries on what's right or wrong. The forum controls red pill nonsense all the time. But men can have their grievances, toxic or not. 

To constantly criticize or correct it will have the reverse effect, it will discourage men from opening up about whatever rhetoric their mind has about women. 

 

[Whitney Edwards]

@Emerald Men need pickup advice to get women. Men want to attract women, not study women. If they follow your approach, they will not get women. That's why Leo offers pickup advice. 

[Whitney Edwards]

I cannot blame men for this because men are very myopic when it comes to women in my opinion. 

[Natasha Tori Maru]

14 hours ago, Miguel1 said:

Can you become demi later on in life?

I’ve started to contemplate deeper that I’ve become a demi or something similar.

Wasn’t like this in my younger years.

Or maybe I just matured lol.

Yes, indeed for myself, it was later in life this transition occurred!

I had a more typical sex drive when younger.

Objectively I could look at random men or women and be turned on, distracted.

Now, I need to be emotionally bonded to ignite my sex drive.

I would say I am smack bang in between high and low libido. 

I just require the additional bond to turn it 'on'.

[BlessedLion]

On 12/30/2024 at 11:02 PM, Shodburrito said:

I recently watched a video claiming that women's primary goal in relationships is to 'emasculate and control' men. The creator argues that women only feel genuine attraction/love for men who don't show them love back, and that being a 'good man' (loyal, loving, honest) makes women lose interest and see you as weak.

He suggests that women are naturally drawn to 'bad boys' who create uncertainty and show they have other options, while they'll ultimately disrespect men who show genuine care and commitment. The video frames traditional relationship virtues (emotional availability, commitment, communication) as weaknesses that lead to losing a woman's interest.

What troubles me is that I've experimented with being more emotionally distant and showing less investment - and I've noticed it actually does increase female attention and interest. When I act less available and more detached, women seem to pursue me more. This really depresses me because I don't want to be toxic or manipulative - I want to be genuine and caring. But I can't deny that showing less emotional investment often leads to more attraction.

I'm struggling to find a healthy balance between maintaining strong boundaries and genuine care. How can I be authentic while still maintaining enough emotional distance to keep attraction? Is there a way to be both caring and maintain healthy challenge/mystery in relationships? I don't want to play games, but I also don't want to fall into patterns that kill attraction.

 

 

 

This is laughably toxic 

[AION]

@integral how did you feed that to Claude? Because Claude says it can't open url's.

[Wyeth]

On 12/31/2024 at 10:04 PM, Emerald said:

And this is where you seem to have the biggest blindspots and lack the most wisdom because of your paradigm lock in this area. You seem to be adamant about only looking from this one over-simplified angle, and you're very protective of this one angle.

 

Leo should get out of Las Vegas if he wants to get over that paradigm lock, so many materialistic stage orange women there that only reinforce his view of dating and women.

Edited January 2 by Wyeth

[Miguel1]

1 hour ago, Wyeth said:

Leo should get out of Las Vegas if he wants to get over that paradigm lock, so many materialistic stage orange women there that only reinforce his view of dating and women.

This

[integral]

12 hours ago, AION said:

@integral how did you feed that to Claude? Because Claude says it can't open url's.

I used the Chrome extension I built to get the content and automatically paste it to Claude. But I had to go to each page so there's eight total pages.

Say -> Claude Page

This command will send the page content to Claude. If you do this for all eight pages you get all the content. 

It also works for videos on YouTube.

You can also just click the microphone and talk directly to the page or the video.

In the future I'm planning on making it an AI agent that will automatically get all the pages or research needed for particular topic and automatically paste it to an AI or give a real-time response.

I have a update pending that is actually going to fix the real time function to make it much more usable. It just needs a couple days before you could get access to it. The real-time voice assistant on my Chrome extension is Free if anyone's interested.

Edited January 2 by integral

[Leo Gura]

2 hours ago, Wyeth said:

Leo should get out of Las Vegas if he wants to get over that paradigm lock, so many materialistic stage orange women there that only reinforce his view of dating and women.

Lol

You make it sound like the women in Vegas are some special breed of materialistic sluts, when the women here are just normal women who fly in from all over the world.

[Something Funny]

4 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

Lol

You make it sound like the women in Vegas are some special breed of materialistic sluts, when the women here are just normal women who fly in from all over the world.

There are many people who are never going to go to vegas because they are not interested, no?

[Leo Gura]

19 minutes ago, Something Funny said:

There are many people who are never going to go to vegas because they are not interested, no?

People are people. People get drunk in Vegas no different than they get drunk at a local bar. Vegas is just more grand.

Edited January 2 by Leo Gura

[NewKidOnTheBlock]

17 hours ago, Buck Edwards said:

I cannot blame men for this because men are very myopic when it comes to women in my opinion. 

Well, we do have the perfect teachers to learn the art of narcisism from

[Something Funny]

@Leo Gura yeah, but like if you say that somebody lives in rural texas, you get a certain image of a person (or at least of all the people living there, in general). I feel like this is also the case for vegas, and every other place, really. 

Do you disagree?

Edited January 2 by Something Funny

[The Crocodile]

4 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

People are people. People get drunk in Vegas no different than they get drunk at a local bar. Vegas is just more grand.

Grand? Maybe you admit you moved to a fake scam city artificially contrived in the middle of the desert for the sole purpose of drugs, gambling, prostitution, debauchery, and alcoholism, just so you fulfill your monkey needs for a few years before being stranded there.