I Slept With 100 Men in One Day | Jesus xd

[something_else]

14 hours ago, Jannes said:

True. But having a "decent lay count" itself is valuable because it means you have more crucial experience which contributes to a certain overall social confidence.

Mine is not low and I'm still cripplingly socially anxious sometimes. High body count doesn't make you instantly confident.

[Jannes]

2 hours ago, Sugarcoat said:

Yours was somewhat elaborate and showed you have self awareness 

Nice. 

2 hours ago, Sugarcoat said:

Maybe developing a neutral attitude towards your own lust so just allowing it to be there when it arises. So to avoid all that conflict inside. Then if you wanna take it into action that’s up to you to decide. But the decision being made from that conflict free state. 

Yeah when you have the opportunity to do that that seems to be the way to go. 

2 hours ago, Sugarcoat said:

If that’s your own mindset and not what society taught you then for sure if you feel it’s valuable you can pursue it. You could question though why you think it contributes to social confidence. Why you perhaps base some of your self esteem on lay count, if you do

Sure that's a conditioning to undo. But experience itself is important and lay count is a measurement of that. So when I have a higher lay count I will be more confident, not because of the lay count but because of the experience under my belt. 

[Jannes]

1 hour ago, something_else said:

Mine is not low and I'm still cripplingly socially anxious sometimes. High body count doesn't make you instantly confident.

No but you probably have more social experience in things like chatting up people, reading body signs, creating attraction. Better have these skills when you are socially anxious then not. 

[Sugarcoat]

1 hour ago, Jannes said:

Sure that's a conditioning to undo. But experience itself is important and lay count is a measurement of that. So when I have a higher lay count I will be more confident, not because of the lay count but because of the experience under my belt. 

Confident in the context of attracting women and “performance” in bed you mean? 

[Jannes]

58 minutes ago, Sugarcoat said:

Confident in the context of attracting women and “performance” in bed you mean? 

I wouldnt say that a lot of sex makes you more confident but the process of attracting someone teaches you many social skills very well as a byproduct. 

You learn body language, inner game, physical escalation, ... way better because you put yourself in an harsh environment where you loose when your game isnt on point and you often get immediate feedback for what was cool and what wasn't. You can have small talk with your boss for 10 years and never lean anything deep about social skills because mistakes are way more acceptable. 

[Princess Arabia]

14 hours ago, Recursoinominado said:

Men have to go out hunting and compete with other hunters to have sex, it's brutal.

Women have only to say yes or no to propositions.

Even the average woman gets offered sex on a daily basis by doing nothing.

The average male will die a virgin if he does nothing. 

 

Hey there lady, will you like to have sex with me. Errkk, no I don't know you. Hey woman, what's going on, my name is Pete, would you like to have sex with me. Excuse me, I'm from London on a business trip, would you like to have sex with me, and oh BTW, my name is John, what's yours. Hey there little girlie, I'm offering up some sex, would you like some. 

You are living in fantasy land, buddy. You don't go to the store and expect nothing to be handed to you. You go to school, learn a trade, get a job, to be able to afford the things you want in life. But you want sex to be handed out to you on a silver platter. Even women have to put in work to get a provider man, a man who's worth having a relationship with and a man that's loving and caring.

All you want is sex, so it will be harder unless it's from a pro because it takes more than just an offer on the table. If you want companionship, someone to share experiences with, to hold hands, to walk in the park to go on dates to laugh with to enjoy life with etcetcetc, then it becomes much easier because you are now engaging with life and not just looking for sex. That woman that you genuinely like to be with will feel that energy and maybe want to have sex with you. Men who succeed at this are usually the men that genuinely love women, players or not, users or not, one_night stand or not. I'm saying they genuinely enjoy women's company and the sex is a by-product.

Edited December 17, 2024 by Princess Arabia

[Lucasxp64]

11 minutes ago, Princess Arabia said:

Hey there lady, will you like to have sex with me. Errkk, no I don't know you. Hey woman, what's going on, my name is Pete, would you like to have sex with me. Excuse me, I'm from London on a business trip, would you like to have sex with me, and oh BTW, my name is John, what's yours. Hey there little girlie, I'm offering up some sex, would you like some. 

Wtf? Where do women get asked like that? Tinder? Social media DMs?

[Princess Arabia]

Just now, Lucasxp64 said:

Wtf? Where do women get asked like that? Tinder? Social media DMs?

I was being sarcastic in response to the quote I quoted. Didn't you see the comment made how women gets offered sex on a daily basis. I was showing how it's done. Yeah, ridiculous ain't it. That's how sex is being offered to us. I guess, in his mind we get offered sex. 

[aurum]

5 hours ago, RendHeaven said:

You can only be bitter about a woman's sexuality if it threatens you.

Your framing of the issue is still off.

Slut-shaming is not just about a bunch of bitter guys who can’t get laid. This is a failure to understand the phenomenon.

[Sugarcoat]

1 hour ago, Jannes said:

I wouldnt say that a lot of sex makes you more confident but the process of attracting someone teaches you many social skills very well as a byproduct. 

You learn body language, inner game, physical escalation, ... way better because you put yourself in an harsh environment where you loose when your game isnt on point and you often get immediate feedback for what was cool and what wasn't. You can have small talk with your boss for 10 years and never lean anything deep about social skills because mistakes are way more acceptable. 

Ok I understand.

Edited December 17, 2024 by Sugarcoat

[Tenebroso]

3 hours ago, Princess Arabia said:

Hey there lady, will you like to have sex with me. Errkk, no I don't know you. Hey woman, what's going on, my name is Pete, would you like to have sex with me. Excuse me, I'm from London on a business trip, would you like to have sex with me, and oh BTW, my name is John, what's yours. Hey there little girlie, I'm offering up some sex, would you like some. 

You are living in fantasy land, buddy. You don't go to the store and expect nothing to be handed to you. You go to school, learn a trade, get a job, to be able to afford the things you want in life. But you want sex to be handed out to you on a silver platter. Even women have to put in work to get a provider man, a man who's worth having a relationship with and a man that's loving and caring.

All you want is sex, so it will be harder unless it's from a pro because it takes more than just an offer on the table. If you want companionship, someone to share experiences with, to hold hands, to walk in the park to go on dates to laugh with to enjoy life with etcetcetc, then it becomes much easier because you are now engaging with life and not just looking for sex. That woman that you genuinely like to be with will feel that energy and maybe want to have sex with you. Men who succeed at this are usually the men that genuinely love women, players or not, users or not, one_night stand or not. I'm saying they genuinely enjoy women's company and the sex is a by-product.

At the bolded. Women's biggest complaint across social media is the guys they DO find attractive don't seem to see them as people, don't offer commitment or get to know them. Women openly acknowledge that the men they find most attractive, are indifferent to them. So how true is this really?

I have never observed in my personal experience or anecdotally, that genuinely getting to know a woman or enjoying her company leads to attraction. It seems to me that attraction comes first for men and women but women want to push a narrative that their attraction is more complicated and based on the whole person when in reality, raw physical attraction is just as important to women. The problem is that few men who trigger real raw attraction in women have no incentive to play the role women want because they have so many options.

Basically seeing women as people, getting to know them is healthy and good but it will not make you more attractive, actually it can lead to the nice guy entitlement that women complain so much about.

[Guest Nilsi]

On 14.12.2024 at 11:41 PM, Emerald said:

I'm not being disingenuous. I'm reading it again now.

Though I see what you meant that he didn't make a direct comparison (which I missed)... he is using a lot of strongly disapproving language like one would use with a mass murderer or terrorist... and acting as though her having sex with a bunch of guys is so intensely depraved.

Like, this is quite strong for the actions he's condemning... is it not?

"Of course, she is a profoundly perverse individual, and I refuse to degrade myself - or her - by pretending to feel pity."

"This cheap barrier doesn’t safeguard us from her transgression; it invites us in."

I’m not condemning her actions, just as I wouldn’t condemn most terrorists. To me, this is a profound encounter with the Real. It’s fascinating to watch society struggle to contain it, as if by denying its existence they can ward off its destabilizing force.

There’s no legal basis to shut this down. Whereas the standard response is to pretend there’s no trouble in paradise, while moralizing and condemning those who break through the media’s carefully curated boundaries. The so-called “civilized world” strains to maintain strict divisions, always drawn in opposition to what it perceives as destabilizing.

Hegel is likely rolling in his grave. The dialectical reasoning that once underpinned Western thought seems to be fracturing in the face of something so seemingly banal - and yet so fundamentally disruptive.

Quote

"Right is in general freedom as Idea… Law is the existence of the free will, its existence as an object, and hence in a form that is independent of the mere arbitrary will.” - G.F.W. Hegel

No longer, old man.

Edited December 17, 2024 by Nilsi

[Princess Arabia]

4 hours ago, Tenebroso said:

At the bolded. Women's biggest complaint across social media is the guys they DO find attractive don't seem to see them as people, don't offer commitment or get to know them. Women openly acknowledge that the men they find most attractive, are indifferent to them. So how true is this really?

I have never observed in my personal experience or anecdotally, that genuinely getting to know a woman or enjoying her company leads to attraction. It seems to me that attraction comes first for men and women but women want to push a narrative that their attraction is more complicated and based on the whole person when in reality, raw physical attraction is just as important to women. The problem is that few men who trigger real raw attraction in women have no incentive to play the role women want because they have so many options.

Basically seeing women as people, getting to know them is healthy and good but it will not make you more attractive, actually it can lead to the nice guy entitlement that women complain so much about.

That's not what I'm really saying. Women are different. Some will sleep the first night, some a few days, a few months, after bf status, after marriage etc. 

I'm not saying you need to see us as people but usually it takes interaction of some sort, not just hey let's go to bed from just first time meeting. I'm not even talking about commitment. Most of the guys I frivously slept with in my earlier days, I knew them casually first. Once or twice, when I went to the club I would have a one-night stand. This is in my 20's. The guys I slept with were neighborhood guys I partied with, or knew and liked. Stuff like that. It wasn't as complicated as it is now. So what I'm saying is be friendly, hang out, be sociable if you just want to have fun getting laid. I didn't care about commitment then. I just didn't sleep with strangers.

Edited December 18, 2024 by Princess Arabia

[hoodrow trillson]

2 hours ago, Tenebroso said:

 

I have never observed in my personal experience or anecdotally, that genuinely getting to know a woman or enjoying her company leads to attraction. It seems to me that attraction comes first for men and women but women want to push a narrative that their attraction is more complicated and based on the whole person when in reality, raw physical attraction is just as important to women. The problem is that few men who trigger real raw attraction in women have no incentive to play the role women want because they have so many options.

 

Because in reality, that's always been absolute bullshit lol.  They say this because they have a lot more to lose if they get pregnant by the wrong guy (they don't actually consciously say this, it makes perfect sense).  We are still animals in this dream, no matter how you slice it or how conscious you become.  Women know within 2 seconds of meeting you if they'd sleep with you or not.  The rest is icing on the cake.  A man cannot control this, you can make good first impressions but that guarantees absolutely nothing.  You can trick someone with psychopathy or being a sociopath but that's straight up emotional abuse and very manipulative--this will bite you in the ass later.  You truly have to be a total insufferable fucking idiot to fuck it up or an absolute coward -- either way, many will still overlook this if the raw attraction is still there.

[LordFall]

On 12/13/2024 at 2:03 PM, Nilsi said:

Of course, she is a profoundly perverse individual, and I refuse to degrade myself - or her - by pretending to feel pity.

Yet what’s truly unsettling, and undeniably fascinating, is how she has weaponized her own existence to become a radically transgressive figure - a grotesque media spectacle typically reserved for terrorists and mass murderers.

But unlike those for whom we craft neatly moralized narratives and build airtight prison cells, she can’t be simply locked away to contain the horrors of human depravity. There is no concrete cell holding her back, no apparatus of law or force; there’s only a pathetic $5 paywall on her OnlyFans. This cheap barrier doesn’t safeguard us from her transgression; it invites us in.

Here, our moral coordinates go haywire, leaving us to confront the raw and unmediated abysses of human desire without the comforting anesthesia of justice or the moral high ground of condemnation. In doing so, she forces us to acknowledge the emptiness of our moral architecture, exposed and ineffectual in the face of a depravity that demands not walls and laws but our own willful participation.

What are you talking about? I don't think she's particularly perverse, perhaps you're mostly experiencing an ego backlash moment when you see someone live outside the confines of what's societally acceptable. I don't think it has anything to do with whats' objectively good or bad for her or the world. 

[Princess Arabia]

1 hour ago, hoodrow trillson said:

Women know within 2 seconds of meeting you if they'd sleep with you or not.

Right on! No guy ever said anything to me to make me sleep with him. I just wanted to in the beginning and he never changed my mind. That's way back when. Now, I don't even want to sleep with any unless he's my man. Been there done that. It's out of my system. Don't hate.

[Emerald]

7 hours ago, hoodrow trillson said:

Women know within 2 seconds of meeting you if they'd sleep with you or not.  The rest is icing on the cake.  A man cannot control this, you can make good first impressions but that guarantees absolutely nothing. 

That might be true for some women, but it's definitely not true for me. I haven't had an instant attraction since I was in middle school.

And the only reason why the instant attraction worked for me back then is because I was just interested in having some kind of exploration of my budding sexuality, and I didn't need such a deep level of chemistry and intimacy to feel attracted. 

It was mostly like a "I like how he looks and dresses" that would grab my attention in those pre-teen and early teen years. And I'd have some kind of projected idealized fantasy of how it would be to have typical teenage boyfriend/girlfriend experiences with him.

But once I got into high school, I was more in touch with the realities of dating and was less enamored by the idea of just having a boyfriend.

Currently, I feel platonic feelings towards all men when I first meet them.... even if I can recognize that a guy looks attractive to me.

Then, if am to develop an attraction to a guy, it usually takes me at least a month or two of regularly interacting with him to begin to feel the chemistry and the potential for connection and intimacy that's there.

But it's always been a surprise to me when I've developed an attraction towards someone. It's always like, "Hmmm... him? That's interesting."

[RendHeaven]

On 12/18/2024 at 1:18 AM, aurum said:

Your framing of the issue is still off.

Slut-shaming is not just about a bunch of bitter guys who can’t get laid. This is a failure to understand the phenomenon.

Read my statement again. It is bulletproof and irrefutable. You're doing a lot of projecting

[aurum]

1 hour ago, RendHeaven said:

Read my statement again. It is bulletproof and irrefutable. You're doing a lot of projecting

Your statement is PUA nonsense.

If you can explain why slut-shaming exists without using PUA narratives, then I'll believe you.

[RendHeaven]

4 hours ago, aurum said:

Your statement is PUA nonsense.

If you can explain why slut-shaming exists without using PUA narratives, then I'll believe you.

The claim is:

"You can only be bitter about a [woman's sexuality] if it threatens you."

Threat is a core mechanic of shame. You can replace "women's sexuality" in brackets with anything you wish. This is infinitely profound and true.

Your dismissal is disappointing. I have nothing to do with PUA.