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  1. Way better than before, at least. Now I will frequently find myself whistling a fine tune when strolling down the road, sometimes having small bursts of laughter because I happened to think of something funny, just to give you an example. Yeah, it's so different from before ... and the negativity that does arise nowadays is way more subtle than the negativity I used to experience, probably to the point where most people wouldn't label it "negative". And I don't really see any "limit" to how far it can go, either, as there's certainly still lots of blocks to bust through. So yeah, probably a 2/10, lol. I hope that could motivate you to do the work, if that's what you're looking for
  2. @Lento I don't think pushing beyond your limits is healthy, no. I do however think that most people severely underestimate their own capacities. So I think you should get to know your limits really well, and not simply assume that you won't be able to handle the internal resistance of doing what you want. Because resistance is not necessarily the same as limits. You can be facing massive internal resistance without even being close to your limits. At the same time, one can face resistance towards not pushing past your limits. So it goes both ways. Are you always tense, forgetting to eat and ignoring sleep? Probably time to chill out a bit and get your priorities straight. And having lots of balls in the air doesn't necessarily mean you're having 16 hour workdays. It's mostly just a matter of scheduling. Like, working on three projects every day for two hours each vs. working on one project every day for one month and then cycling each month or something. What works best usually depends on the goal and your own work style. @EddieEddie1995 Yeah, that's to be expected. The good thing is that the next time you might be more prepared and know how to handle it better. For example with scheduling, a strong work ethic and mindfulness.
  3. I certainly think you can have a lot of balls in the air at the same time. The main problem is just that most people tend to get a massive ego backlash when going there, and they might fail at implementing even small things due to overwhelm. Ego backlash is way more manageable when you make less drastic changes. That said, don't use ego backlash as a limiting belief from taking massive action. Doing one thing at a time can certainly be beneficial, but at the same time doing multiple things can be even more powerful as it pushes your subconscious to work even harder. I feel like there's a certain limit to how much your brain can improve at one thing in one day, so if you do multiple things in one day then that would increase the total degree of improvement.
  4. Trust your inner truth. Get in touch with your anger. Put blame where it belongs. Stand up for yourself. Don't take shit from other people. Don't let anyone convince you of anything but your inner truth. Anger is in my view the antithesis to a weak ego. You don't necessarily want to be running around like the hulk all the time, just to get it out somewhere. Like a journal or boxing bag. These things are only really a problem if done unconsciously. But maybe most importantly, get in touch with your desires. Get in touch with what you authentically want, and focus on that like a laser beam. Instead of avoiding difficult situations, take the challenge. Run at it like a bull. Don't believe disempowering thoughts. When you have an unshakeable sense of who you are, you know you're there. So get to know yourself. Who are you authentically, when no one are there to invalidate you? What are you authentically feeling? If you have been avoiding this for too long, it might not be pretty. In that case allow yourself to process it, give it a mouthpiece. Cry, laugh, journal, whatever. Remember, every thought and feeling that you have has truth in it. So get to know that truth.
  5. @Girzo Thanks! I've been wanting to read "How Not to Die" for a while. Didn't know there was a separate cookbook.
  6. I just figured out D&S at officially typed you as FF Ni/Te BS/P(C) some time ago. They use the scientific method and a more nuanced version of MBTI (512 personality types). That makes you the exact same type as Marie Forleo and Tai Lopez. Just some interesting trivia for you
  7. Yes, it does work. There's no limit to how many words you can use, as long as you do it every day. I have about two pages of affirmations that I read every day. The most important thing for me really is that the affirmations spark positive emotions.
  8. @brugluiz Thanks, I'll look into them
  9. I've struggled with this feeling a lot. I never feel like I had the normal teen experience. However, I like to tell myself that I would never have been where I am today hadn't it been for all that suffering and loneliness. I probably never would have gotten into personal development, and I wouldn't be pushed to do the deep work. And I probably never would have thought of actually realising my full potential. All of that comes from deep suffering, and is not something I would have opened my mind to had I been living in comfort. I'm now at a point where I feel more healthy than most people, both emotionally and cognitively. And I have all the tools and habits in place to keep the trajectory going upwards. Where would I been if things had been comfortable and I hadn't been pushed into personal development? Probably like my dad. Living in my comfort zone with all my fears and worries. You have not missed out. You have been taught valuable life lessons that other people have not, lessons that make you so uniquely you. Honor your history, take pride in it. And as a final note, you're never too old to let loose and make mistakes. If that's something you want, then by all means, go for it.
  10. We all dislike uncertainty, but if you're a traditionally controlling person (like me) you're going to hate it even more. This is really something you will have to face if you want to live life to the fullest. You got to get to the point where you'll be able to trust your ability to handle whatever kind of shit life throws at you, RIGHT THEN AND THERE. You already have all the tools available to handle uncertainty, you only need to work it and learn to trust it. And not let your controlling tendencies come in and interfere. It takes courage, that's for sure. Start small, in amounts you can handle, and build yourself up from there. One huge hurdle for me was not really knowing what I truly wanted out of a situation. For example, when socializing, I would be too preoccupied with making a good impression, rather than actually enjoying the moment and making the best out of it. You know, just talking about things you like for the sake of your own enjoyment, doing things you think would be fun. This might sound obvious to some people, but to me it was a huge revelation. Focus on what brings you joy, and not all the problems you believe to be there. When you're rooted in joy, that's such a strong motivator to push through uncertainty.
  11. @sgn Yes, I've used it as a foundation for most of my inner work. What I like about it is that it corresponds well with neuroscience and even goes well along with spirituality. I remember reading about it in "Healing the Fragmented Selves of Trauma Survivors" by Janina Fisher, a book built on cutting-edge trauma research. It was made clear that the model is very effective in treatment of treatment-resistant patients, something which I don't doubt since it matches my own experience. Note that I did not learn this from any therapist, but instead used is as a powerful tool for self-therapy. I do not use it as much anymore, at least not consciously, as I feel pretty integrated and I have a lot of other stuff to think about. But it was absolutely essential understanding for me in order to stop fighting with myself, and to develop self-compassion. The reason I say this goes well along with spirituality, is that it makes you more aware of who you ACTUALLY are beyond all that inner turmoil. Because the whole point of the model is really to not get sucked into the limited consciousness of one part. It helped me get in touch with that healing, compassionate presence inside of me that has a very wide perspective, and is me in its totality. Whereas before I was always worrying, which was only really a small fragment of who I am. And yet it was ruling my life. The model helped me find my grounding, which I wasn't ever aware of before. That is really the main focus in my life right now. To fully embody that inner presence. Always grounding, grounding, grounding. Whenever I notice a part flaring up, like worrying about being accepted, I notice it, and put my attention back again at my body and the joy of the present moment. Because that's really the end-goal of any trauma treatment: to be here and not there. I feel like one trap of this model is to falsely believe that you should just let your parts run wild. I remember I would give the flaring part my full attention, talk to it compassionately, and hope that it would oblige. It's way better than fighting with yourself at least, but at the same time I allowed myself to become destabilized. You want to trust that you can return to the present moment at any time and remain in control. Don't turn this into a limiting belief. Whenever you notice a part flaring up, notice it, accept it as a part of you, take in its perspective, but DON'T let it suck you in. Stay grounded in the present moment and in your body, as much as possible. If you find yourself getting stuck in a part consistently, you might want to do some journaling and give it your full attention, let it speak its truth fully, and try to alleviate its fears with positive talk. But don't let it consume you in your day-to-day life. That should be the goal at least.
  12. I remember having similar concerns before buying the course. This is what he replied:
  13. @MAYA EL I'd like to rephrase that sentiment more accurately. Let's say the people in your tribe were currently starving. Would it then be wise to have more kids? Also, people in the past did generally not make excuses to not have kids. More than anything, it has been glorified. @Spinoza And I'd like to add that if you were to have a child, I'd probably choose to adopt or something. There's enough of homeless children out there. And with adoption you also have the added "benefit" of not risking getting a retarded child, for those of you that are worried about that.
  14. Oh, tell us about your time in the mafia. Didn't that work out with your LP?
  15. In my opinion there are two very good reasons to not have kids: Our Earth is already incredibly strained. The money you don't spend on raising kids (which is a lot) could instead be spent on a good cause. Having a kid in this day and age is in my view a very selfish decision. You can achieve a lot more in the world when you don't have to spend time raising a kid. Raising a child takes 18 years of your life, and to be fair, it probably isn't over after those 18 years either. Whatever kind of meaning you'd imagine from having a kid, can be increased ten-fold by getting out there and doing the real work. Most people usually just get kids to meet their unmet needs, to fill a certain void inside of them. Don't be that guy. It will fuck up your kids. If you were to have kids, you should 100% be coming from a place of abundance.