Commodent

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  1. @Bill W I have taken several blood tests over the years and all of them have been fine. Doctors are not interested in me and I'm not interested in whatever solutions they might come up with. Those were really just a few examples but I can answer your questions: Hair: Yes, but on your eyebrows and eyelashes too? Hearbeat: Stress and anxiety maybe. I also have very shallow, poor breathing. Metabolism: I have a REALLY hard time putting on weight. If I eat normally I lose weight to the point where I'm really skinny. I'm not asking for any diagnosis, and I'm not gonna do any reckless interventions. I'm just gonna take your suggestions and see what works. Greek yogurt has done wonders to my gut health and health in general, and I wondered if there might be something similar for the neck and thyroid? I know, it's kinda vague. But I figured it might be worth a try.
  2. You need to take a leap of faith and trust that you don't actually need these neuroses. Think of something enjoyable instead. Notice that it's really hard, but do it anyway. And then, after a couple of weeks / months of doing this, you will know if it worked. Again, you must take a leap of faith, as your neuroses will give you thousands of reasons to not do this.
  3. Hello, I have many signs of an unhealthy thyroid. Like thinning hair (also on my face), rapid heartbeat, very high metabolism etc. I have an inkling that it might be fluctuating between underactive and overactive, but that it's mostly overactive. A couple of days ago I litterally had a dream where I could see my thyroid shining bright blue, which convinced me to write this post. Are there any foods, exercises, visualizations etc. that I can use to improve thyroid health? Sidenote: I also have lots of muscle tensions around my neck, and I often have thick mucus in the back of my throat, among other things. So I definitely have some larger imbalances in the neck/head area that probably should be dealt with.
  4. You might want to read "Understanding the Borderline Mother" by Christine Ann Lawson. That was the first thing that came to mind while reading your post, as it goes really well into the dilemma you're facing. As in, should you sacrifice your own well-being in order to take care of emotionally immature parents who can't help themselves? (Hint: it's not..)
  5. Yes, I totally get that. It's a criticism he gets a lot so I'm sure he's pretty aware of it himself. The thing about him though is that he consistently sides with the child. This is so unheard of in a world where children are so often blamed and treated as if there's something inherently "flawed" about them, and that their behavior is not just a completely natural response to growing up in a dysfunctional home environment. I personally find his views about psychotherapy and coaching to be accurate, although it might no resonate with everybody. Particularly not those who have had predominantly positive encounters with the mental health field. I've found this to be rare though, as people often report of having to sift through several therapists in order to find a good one. Also, the mental health field does in general has very low success rate in dealing with even the most common mental health disorders. Personally I think talking to someone else can only be effective up to a certain point. Most people have so much unhealed trauma themselves, and there is so much collective trauma in our culture that is nearly impossible to heal from just by talking to others. In my case self-therapy has been such an extremely valuable skill to have, and it has offered me support when no one else could. Here's his critique of JBP if anyone are interested:
  6. A book about U.G. Krishnamurti and his teachings. This book is truly radical. PDF I read this book a couple of years ago after having read tons of spiritual books, and it was a true earthquake to my spiritual self-image. It led to a period of deep, deep confusion and it was overall a very discouraging read. It shatters any spiritual dogma you might have, and leaves you with absolutely NOTHING to grasp onto. So it is definitely not for anyone but the most openminded truth-seekers. There is really nothing to be gained here.
  7. @studentofthegame I do both First I write down anything significant that happened during the day and how I felt about it, in addition to any important insights. Just writing down my whole experience of the day. And then if there's any inner conflict that has been going on for some time I adress that troubled part of me like in the example I gave you. The former is very useful for awareness and emotional health in general, and the latter is very useful if you feel stuck in some way. Again, when adressing a part of you it's very important that you do not let ANY other parts interfere. For example if you're feeling rageful over something then give the rageful part of you the sole attention. The right brain / left brain dichotomy can be a bit unnuanced, as sometimes a condeming left brain part for example might try to interfere. This notion might be a bit confusing, but when the Higher Self (as you might call it) is talking you really feel it. It's positive, solution-oriented, validating and wants the best for everyone. Like you ideally would talk to a small child or a loved one. But yeah, simply adressing the right brain (or Inner Child) is a very good way to go on with the practice. It's just worth having in the back of your mind that there might be multiple parts of you trying to interfere. Like, a harsh and cold left brain part trying to take the place of the Higher Self, or a guilty part getting upset with the rageful part. With time you will notice the Higher Self increasingly becoming your default state of mind in all facets of life. It's really amazing how well this form of self-therapy extends to external relationships.
  8. You're not that which you can observe. At the same time, there's clearly a guy sitting there on the computer. So it's a quite paradoxical thing, really.
  9. Writing down my authentic experiences and feeling in my journal has done wonders in me getting in touch with myself. It was not very helpful when the journaling was just neurotic and full of self-criticism. @linxx This is a good one, but I'd like to recommend a variant: You write down the worldview you would like to have and then you read it every day in the morning. A practical tip for getting your ideal worlview down would be to go through recurring experiences in your life that are causing distress and then you visualize what kind of mindset you would like to have in this situation to handle it better. I think this is a bit easier, as it only requires some initial effort and then you can just read over it every day. It's a really powerful way of reframing your worldview.
  10. Link to channel: https://www.youtube.com/user/dmackler58/ This channel has in my case been a true goldmine, and I think he himself describes the content of his channel pretty well: "Interests: childhood trauma and its effects, self-therapy, emotional healing without pills, becoming a true self, being an artist, and taking the risk -- terrifying but true!!" Notable videos:
  11. http://www.kriyayogainfo.net/Eng_Downloads1.html A free book containing the most important techniques in order to get going with Kriya Yoga.
  12. A documentary on the importance of grounding, also called Earthing.
  13. I'm from Norway, albeit not Oslo, and I have been struggling with a similar situation. It's hard to find people with similar interests, but they do exist. EmmaSofia is an organization advocading the legalization of psychedelics, and I'm sure you would find a lot of like-minded people there (if you have the slightest interest in psychedelics). They're based in Oslo and they have occasional gatherings. There's also different yoga and meditation groups. This one for example, they have weekly gatherings which are free. You could also expand your interests. Personally I think BJJ is quite fun and the people where I'm going are super nice. Even if you weren't to do that, you could always just own it. "Heck yeah, I'm into spirituality!" I know it's hard to do when coming from such a vulnerable place with little to no friends, but it's definitely something worth striving for in the long run. Unapologetically sharing your worldview. Know that your unique perspective is really one of your greatest assets, and it can be a source of great pride if you let it. Also, don't turn spirituality into an ideology. I think partly the reason why I had such a hard time talking with people about it was because I was so emotionally attached to the spritual ideas. That made it very hard to share, because the ideas were very likely to get rejected and it was so painful when it happened. They were ideology, and not rooted in direct experience. Which brings me to my second point; stick to direct experience. Whenever you speak from direct experience that makes what you're saying so much more relatable. I know it's scary, particularly if you feel there's something inherently flawed about yourself, but speaking your personal truth is so worth it. Not only is it appreaciated by most people, but it's also super enjoyable to just be yourself fully. That's really the most important thing. No form of peer approval comes close to the satisfaction of simply living your truth, and that is something no one can take from you. I wish you the best of luck. There's truly so much to be learned from this kind of situation, as it's such a great opportunity to connect with who you truly are. The path towards self-acceptance is a long path, and in my view it's best found in the woods. So disconnect from the Internet and take long walks in nature, and attend a local group whenever you feel the need for socialization. Og hvis du skulle ta turen til Trondheim er det bare å ta kontakt
  14. Are you putting yourself in overwhelming situations? Overwhelm shuts down the prefrontal cortex.