Chew211

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  1. Depends on the situation. Like are you a working adult and she a university student? Does she want to pay? Are you feeling generous? Don't look for universal rules. Experiment and get an intuition of what to do.
  2. I first got into game because I was a failure with women and unconfident. Then I was able to get laid, and was making good progress with approaching before corona happened. So I've stopped game and focused energies elsewhere, and even though things have calmed down, I haven't gotten back to game yet. What I realized was that the physical pleasure of sex didn't motivate me, nor was there a desire to have a girlfriend or anything. Don't get me wrong, I enjoyed spending time with the women I've been involved with, and I also enjoyed having sex-- but it was mostly an ego thindlg. It was mostly to present myself as a successful male to the big Other (the entity that is always watching you... though doesn't actually exist, but even though we know it doesn't exist, we act as if it does). Even sex itself became a performance. I did it outdoors, I did it in the car, got roadhead while driving, etc-- but that was just so I could live up to the image of an adventurous super sexual alpha male. I was never satisfied. I was happy, but there were times when I was happy when I was a virgin. Game satisfying you and making you happy and you finding the perfect partner who will be perfect for you and satisfy all your needs is a fantasy. Sex making you happy is a fantasy. Everything is bullshit. I'll still play the field, because why the hell not. It's fun. There's nothing wrong with it, and it does help with shedding ego if I don't overthink it. I'll commit to a woman when I want to have a family-- but ultimately it's settling and accepting the other person's imperfections and their inability to satisfy me completely, and also my inability to satisfy them completely. But we'll be committed to the shared goal of raising a family. 4 months ago I stopped seeing a regular friend I get intimate with so I could focus on other stuff. I still meet up with her every once in a while to have dinner, but no didily. I'm practicing celibacy for the next year. That also means no porn/jerking off. I don't have sex on my mind, and right now, doing game would be a waste of precious time. I hope this comment is of use to you. I'm just happy I got to put some stuff into words.
  3. I recommend Twilight of the Idols to first get acquainted with him. Then Genealogy of Morals.
  4. I second this. My world view is close to Brahmanism, but Nietzsche is important in order to root out any slave morality that will be contaminating your spiritual work. A lot of people are driven to spiritual as a means of cope. They can't get what they want in the material world, so they immerse themselves in the spiritual-- as a result they never transcend. Think of the dude who can't get laid so he decides to be a monk. I recommend reading the first essay in the Genealogy of Morals (at least) to understand what slave morality is. I'd recommend going through Twilight of the Idols first though, in order to first get acquainted with him.
  5. 1 - 3 Dating more definitely does not save time Right now I'm only seeing one, because dating is not at all a priority. It's good to have female companionship once in a while, so I'm not going full monkmode. But I'm not going pickup mode either.
  6. I live in Japan, and I'm Indian (didn't grow up in India, but I have relatives there and been around a lot of people from India), and I'd say both places are unreliable if you are looking for some spiritual. The best bet is doing what Leo said, and guiding someone into it.
  7. If you want to understand the real dynamics of power and human relations then read Sublime Object if Ideology as a start. If that's too difficult, read Gorgias by Plato. Or read ancient texts, like the Bhagavad Gita. There are much more insightful books that you can be spending your time on, rather than mainstream, surface level, trash. My two cents.
  8. Quitting porn is the main thing that'll give you benefits.
  9. Secure. My issues don't have much to do with friends, family, and lovers. Or coworkers. Or people in general.
  10. From what I know of Hegel from reading Sublime Object of Ideology, I'd have to agree. Though Capital (or more accessibly, David Harvey's Companion to Capital) is a must read.
  11. Marxist and ML Theory and Analysis is pretty based. However, almost all the proposed solutions involve high state control. Luckily with technology we can explore different solutions. But yeah, my general take on MLs is that they are worth studying, but not emulating, because it wouldn't be appropriate. Also, Marxism is a materialist philosophy, so it's got it's limitations there.
  12. Gorgias by Plato is a good start.
  13. You don't need books on specific issues. You need books to help you see the bigger picture of things. But those books are dense and difficult, not easily consumable like self help books.
  14. Don't take words like "you're creepy" at face value. If you were actually perceived as creepy she would have noped the flip out of there.
  15. Relationship categories (boyfriend-girlfriend, fuck-buddies, etc), love = exclusivity, the general dynamic of tying oneself down to the other, essentially crippling both parties into some sort of codependency for the sake of security, the necessity of marriage as goal of a sexual relationship (it CAN be a goal, but it doesn't have to implicitly be the case). People model their relationships off of romcoms, Disney movies, or hook-up culture, and follow the respective implicit rules without even being fully aware of them. This is just from the top of my head.