How Socialization Makes You Stupid

[Razard86]

Ego/Seperate Self/= The belief of superiority of the individual self as better than others. Its a belief of hierarchy as being equivalent to value and self-worth.

Per Leo's Old Video he made a request that hopefully we would let him know when he is acting out of ego. 

So here we go. Now is Leo incorrect that talking to others that are not as intelligent and lower consciousness can bring down your intelligence? Well it depends which intelligence you are talking about. Can it bring down your ability to think abstractly? Yes it can if you are being inundated with as he called conformist propaganda. So he is not incorrect about that. He brings to you the trade-off of how it can be a distraction and it can infiltrate your ability to think in new innovative ways.... which this is also true. He then tells you he has reached new levels of Super Human Intelligence and this is all great....but he is forgetting something. 

The trade off, of not socializing is he loses embodiment. As Leo will tell you Love and Intelligence are equal. The Highest Intelligence is to recognize that there is no difference at all. So there is no difference between Higher and Lower, shorter or taller, rich or poor. This is all illusionary and Leo himself knows this... additionally once you start making this distinction...it creates a fear. The more intelligent Leo becomes....the greater his fear of having that intelligence corrupted. It needs to be pure and pointed in one direction, unabated by distractions and petty drama of the chimps that surround him. 

But does this line up with what Leo said earlier about if a teaching doesn't point towards Self-Love then its not the highest teaching. When he says Self Love he means Love of ALL of reality as equal and as One. 

I think the best medicine is for Leo to rewatch his own videos. https://youtu.be/4OmMpYa7R_U?t=6323

^This is a good one too. 

Now at the same time....we can only be as we are in the present moment. So think of this as just a reminder of your own content. You can only do things at the rate you are comfortable with. But this is a good teachable moment for people to realize that nobody is perfect...we are all just learning to expand at different rates at whatever limitations we are currently dealing with since we are experiencing duality. 

This is just more evidence that God is just teaching us through the Leo avatar, but the Leo avatar has to go through the same duality that we all go through. Embodiment of love....is the hardest thing there is. 

This is what is currently at play in his life. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vp99hZJfBHg&t=3768s&ab_channel=Actualized.org

I'll end this with a video from Alan Watts as I don't want to make this post too long. 

 

[Tyler Robinson]

I strongly disagree with Leo on this. 

My personal experience is completely opposite of what Leo says. 

Actually it depends a lot on who you are socializing with. 

I've discussed this on this thread. 

Leo is partially right but only partially. 

 

 

Edited September 11, 2022 by Tyler Robinson

[Tyler Robinson]

@Leo Gura Leo if you talk to high IQ people you're going to be enriching yourself a lot. You have simply tricked yourself into believing that socializing dumbs you down. It's similar to books Leo. If you read shitty books, it's not going to be useful, you have to read books that are high on signal to noise ratio. That was the whole point.

 

Edited September 11, 2022 by Tyler Robinson

[Thought Art]

I watched the whole episode

Basically there is a trade off to being alone or socializing. 
 

You won’t learn as deeply about reality if you socialize all the time. And, most people aren’t highly intelligent and most human interaction is surface level and petty. But also, if you can’t socialize and rarely do you also aren’t intelligent. Spending time with others you generally have to conform to their framing.

He stresses the importance of sitting alone and thinking your own thoughts. That even reading, videos, podcasts etc can make you stupid if you never think your own original thoughts.

[Tyler Robinson]

The people who consistently call others narcissists are narcissists themselves. The only thing they lack is a mirror. How obtuse. 

For a hammer, everything and everyone looks like a nail. 

Do they really try to let go? 

Not really. 

Low IQ folks almost always contradict themselves and always fail to see their own hypocrisy. 

Such hypocrites can cause too much drama in your life and so it's best to be free of them. 

I agree that such socializing can completely damage you, not just make you stupid. 

Once you learn how to stay away from such people completely, you can be away from their perilous ways and get time to focus on your growth. 

Also its always dumb people who try to compete. Intelligent people don't weaponize rivalry. 

 

 

 

Edited September 12, 2022 by Tyler Robinson

[Byun Sean]

I think its a good message. 

He's putting a flashy/ potentially offensive title to draw attention on purpose.

People are quick to assume this means he's just being arrogant and judging socialization negatively.

 

In reality he's making a very nuanced point to draw awareness on a lot of the drawbacks of socialization since the benefits are more obvious to todays culture.

For someone stuck in the limitations of socialization. This video could be the major turning point for their life to explore more soloist aspects of self actualization.

[Tyler Robinson]

1 minute ago, Byun Sean said:

I think its a good message. 

He's putting a flashy/ potentially offensive title to draw attention on purpose.

People are quick to assume this means he's just being arrogant and judging socialization negatively.

 

In reality he's making a very nuanced point to draw awareness on a lot of the drawbacks of socialization since the benefits are more obvious to todays culture.

For someone stuck in the limitations of socialization. This video could be the major turning point for their life to explore more soloist aspects of self actualization.

If you lived in self isolation for too long, it can hamper critical social skills and this shouldn't be taken for granted.. 

[Byun Sean]

6 minutes ago, Tyler Robinson said:

If you lived in self isolation for too long, it can hamper critical social skills and this shouldn't be taken for granted.. 

Yes thats all very important to note, but that doesn't deny the drawbacks as well.

The solution is not to come up with a one size fits all saying everyone should always be 100 percent social or everyone should be isolated.

 

Rather we need to spread awareness about the potential benefits and drawbacks and help people choose consciously whats right for their development at the moment. Its all about conscious choice rather than compulsive.

I've personally observed in my own life I go through phases where I socialize a lot. And then it becomes beneficial to be alone more for the growth that Im doing. 

You can observe this alternating sequence in many developmental psychological models as well like Spiral Dynamics where the stages alternate between individual and communal focus as they progress.

Edited September 12, 2022 by Byun Sean

[Tyler Robinson]

5 minutes ago, Byun Sean said:

Yes thats all very important to note, but that doesn't deny the drawbacks as well.

The solution is not to come up with a one size fits all saying everyone should always be 100 percent social or everyone should be isolated.

 

Rather we need to spread awareness about the potential benefits and drawbacks and help people choose consciously whats right for their development at the moment. Its all about conscious choice rather than compulsive.

I've personally observed in my own life I go through phases where I socialize a lot. And then it becomes beneficial to be alone more for the growth that Im doing. 

You can observe this alternating sequence in many developmental psychological models as well like Spiral Dynamics where the stages alternate between individual and communal focus as they progress.

Yes I agree with you that alternating patterns of socializing and taking breaks definitely helps. Too much of anything is bad as they say. 

My question to you is - when do you feel like you want to go solo or take a break from socializing? What prompts you to do it? A specific situation? 

 

[TheOneReborn]

I like this new video. 

Anytime you engage in language you are distancing yourself from the Godhead. The joint venture we humans are engaged in with regards to common meaning making is the substrate against which the ego construct is born. 

[Razard86]

17 minutes ago, TheOneReborn said:

I like this new video. 

Anytime you engage in language you are distancing yourself from the Godhead. The joint venture we humans are engaged in with regards to common meaning making is the substrate against which the ego construct is born. 

You do realize...the ego was purposefully constructed right? You do realize that as long as you are saying something is better, or more profound, you are just playing the same guy right? You do realize that to have an up, you need a down, to have a left you need a right, so all labels are just relational. If everyone was Leo...there would be no Leo. You need different expressions to make the whole. 

All that is happening is Leo is becoming so in love with himself that now anything that isn't point in the same direction as him is less than. You can't say there are higher virtues....there are no higher virtues. That is a trap. Everything just is. As long as you think something is higher...you will continue to play the ego's game of attainment. There is nothing to attain. 

Go back and watch his radical implications of oneness. You will one day live your life as Leo. Leo will one day live his life as you. So picture how funny it is, to point to yourself and say...I have attained Super Intelligent levels far beyond blah blah blah. You are just playing an identity game with yourself. Is it fun? Sure the universe loves to play pretend.

Just don't get too lost in mirrors.

Edited September 12, 2022 by Razard86

[Danioover9000]

   Ladies and Gentlemen, every human being is individually unique, and do share similar and different types of intelligences, not to mention other developmental factors involved. Take for example this image:

 https://www.google.com/imgres?imgurl=https%3A%2F%2Fblog.adioma.com%2Fwp-content%2Fuploads%2F2014%2F03%2F9-types-of-intelligence-infographic.png&imgrefurl=https%3A%2F%2Fblog.adioma.com%2F9-types-of-intelligence-infographic%2F&tbnid=FRhRpGZZKgoJ7M&vet=12ahUKEwjn1aSvhI76AhUGeBoKHTi_DbEQMygAegUIARDZAQ..i&docid=IhMklD9_nrSmTM&w=1000&h=998&q=multiple types of intelligence&ved=2ahUKEwjn1aSvhI76AhUGeBoKHTi_DbEQMygAegUIARDZAQ

   Plus, neurodivergence of each person's mind, flavors whatever you interpret spirituality as.

   However, socialization has its benefits, Bodhisattvas still and do social gatherings to share what insights they have to those willing to listen. 

[Tyler Robinson]

It's generally the low consciousness people who like to demean others and call them fools. Because their fingers are always pointing outwards. 

Also low consciousness people think too highly of themselves. 

In fact people who are highly intelligent tend to doubt themselves very often and are generally humble because Humility is a very potent sign of a highly intelligent sane person 

 

It's the delusional types who always like to believe that they are somehow above the crowd. 

And these people copy others style and even follow them around but pretend like things are the other way round. 

They're like the housewives who constantly complain about how they don't like drama but exactly go looking for it by inserting themselves deliberately into other people's personal lives, stories and conflicts. 

Also low consciousness people love to gossip about other's lives and can't get enough of it. 

And when shit hits the fan and smacks them in their faces, they begin to backpedal and hide themselves in embarrassment because they simply can't have the Humility of being challenged on their drama. 

 

 

[Tyler Robinson]

Also low consciousness people have a "poor me" attitude. They take others disorders and attach it to themselves in an effort to play victim to a larger crowd. 

 

Edited September 12, 2022 by Tyler Robinson

[TheOneReborn]

@Razard86 on the one hand yes, there is love and truth to be had in being with others. But do you not realize that there are also social power dynamics and unconciousnes that is imposed through socialization? Do you not realize that "hanging out with friends" is a lot more than just "hanging out with friends"? 

Leo is engaging in more delusion, yes because he is speaking and thinking. Worse than speaking and thinking to yourself is doing so with others. 

Delusion is unavoidable but that doesn't mean that in the world of delusion there are not delusions which allow you to be closer to truth. 

Edited September 12, 2022 by TheOneReborn

[Byun Sean]

1 hour ago, Tyler Robinson said:

Yes I agree with you that alternating patterns of socializing and taking breaks definitely helps. Too much of anything is bad as they say. 

My question to you is - when do you feel like you want to go solo or take a break from socializing? What prompts you to do it? A specific situation? 

i'll just feel like self reflection, introspection. meditation, etc feels more beneficial in the moment. Its not that socialization feels bad per se. I can enjoy it too.

Its just that there is a different level of growth that can only blossom within a human being when they are alone sometimes. 

 

And Leo is right. There are tradeoffs to socialization. You cannot do solo spiritual work / introspection work as efficiently when you are engaging with the outside world constantly sometimes.

The chatter has to die down a bit and then the flower can blossom with more ease.

 

There have also been phases where I've felt called to socialize more to grow my social awareness or become more open.

Its all situational in the end.

[michaelcycle00]

You say this:

9 minutes ago, Tyler Robinson said:

It's generally the low consciousness people who like to demean others and call them fools.

 

and then you go and type an entire paragraph demeaning "low-consciousness" people. 

10 minutes ago, Tyler Robinson said:

It's the delusional types who always like to believe that they are somehow above the crowd.

You use the word "delusional" and these other people use the word "fool". Two sides of the same coin. 

 

14 minutes ago, Tyler Robinson said:

In fact people who are highly intelligent tend to doubt themselves very often and are generally humble because Humility is a very potent sign of a highly intelligent sane person 

 

In fact, this is wrong. The reason highly intelligent people tend to doubt themselves is because they are usually uncomprehended all throughout their life and develop that as a coping mechanism, which is just insecurity. I can agree with the humility part when speaking of a "sane" person, but even narcissists can be intellectually gifted. 

Also, I'm pretty sure @Razard86 is referring to normal day-to-day socialization. Not one in Mensa's private headquarters. Talking to average people has done jack shit for me.

[Tyler Robinson]

Low consciousness people are very predatory. Dealing with them is a source of lifetime of torment. Once you have the misfortune of running into them, there's no catching break. They'll always hound you and make sure you suffer, that's why I call them predatory. They're the apex predator in the crowd and they will use every opportunity to sadistically abuse and exploit you. 

These predatory people have a Karen mentality where they simply cannot have someone who is trying to go about with their lives. They will call 911 on a black man who is doing nothing but simply standing in a park. Such predatory people exploit those who are weak or vulnerable in order to play victim every chance they get. They actually act like victims but in reality they act too entitled and privileged and unable to see their entitlement because they are narcissistic as hell. 

They will destroy your life by constantly hounding you. They will find you wherever you are and look for an opportunity to attack your Vulnerability. They will scour through your personal life to find that one piece of information that they can use against you, fucking predators. They are like child abusers and use your naive innocence to abuse you and when they are confronted they will go back to their victim playing nonsense. 

They will make a mountain out of a molehill. And this is a fundamental characteristic of these low consciousness predators.. They will invent stories upon stories to set you up and when you actually look into the details, you'll realize there was hardly anything that such a big fuss was made out of. 

How to deal with low consciousness freaky predators who are always hell bent on ruining your peace of mind - 

First is that you learn nothing from them other than that you were too naive to trust them in the first place. That's always your first and only fault. This is probably the biggest learning lesson. 

You can't simply avoid these people since you don't know how to detect or screen them in a crowd. 

But you could still use some ways to deal with these people and their frustrating nonsense if you are dealing with one. 

 

Keep an eye out for the following toxic traits:

• Jittery, nervous energy.
• Constant whining and complaining
• Clinginess and dependency
• Criticism, usually aimed everywhere
• Negative or cynical worldview
• And in extreme cases, abuse

 

 

• The most important point here to remember is how these people constantly whine about the same thing or person over and over and can never get over it. They engage in constant complaining and whining. We all have our down days. But when it comes to toxic people, the blues are a constant rain cloud. And they want everyone to be just as wet and miserable as them. If you never see emotions other than anger, sadness, and jealousy, it is best to steer clear of that personality. 

Low consciousness people can never be happy for others even if that other person has long moved on and doesn't want anything to do with them. But such low consciousness predators simply cannot see others moving on or being happy. This is a hallmark of such destructive behavior 

• Trust your gut-  if someone makes you upset and uncomfortable, make some space.  You can see it, even feel it, in your interaction. Once you get the feeling of awkwardness around these people, just believe yourself and move away. You can always tell something is off and you know when something is off, and you know to avoid such people. One indicator is that they will suddenly ghost you out of nowhere and you'll be left clueless. The problem with such people they can never have relationships with true emotions. That's why it's so easy for them to be so cold towards you, they are so hollow from inside and they lack empathy for your emotions and its totally visible in their narcissistic ghosting behavior. 

These people hardly ever change, even if they do, they simply do it for social approval.. They never own up how they screw up things in a dynamic. It's always the other person's fault. 

• They are very narcissistic so they will find every opportunity to one up you. Instead of trying to collaborate with you they will engage in stupid toxic rivalry with you. Because for such people stupid rivalry is more important than learning something new. 
• These people have nothing unique or original about themselves. They closely stalk and follow members of their own species to even copy their writing style or their disorders. They constantly have this poor me attitude and they will always find something new to add to their poor me arsenal. They will never call themselves a narcissist because it hurts their pride. Anything that makes them look like a proper victim to the public is actually good.  Do you know someone who finds the darkness in everything? Much like your parents on Thanksgiving, misery loves company. These people will always complain about something, never see the good in anything, and claim they hate everything. It's exhausting just thinking about it, which is why they'll try to drag you into their little pity party. 

  People with very negative worldview will often be competitive about their misery, trying to outdo other people's sadness. This is the worst.

  When you talk about your problems, they go back to talking about their problems trying to outcompete you. Again the vulnerable narcissist.. They are always looking for people to pity meanwhile acting like they are trying to empower others. Watch out for people who constantly, even gleefully, talk about their failures and sadness. Anyone who criticizes the failures of others, or seems overly cynical, might have a toxic personality worth avoiding.

 

• They will never take responsibility for hurting you. Forget about closure or apologies, they will simply come up with excuses like they were drunk or they were high on drugs for all the abuse and pain and suffering they put you through. 

It's like a woman who rams her car into another vehicle carrying a child and ends up hurting the baby and her "poor me" excuse is that she was simply drunk instead of taking responsibility for the hurt and damage they caused. But their sense of entitlement is so severe that they can scarcely comprehend the amount of damage they cause to other people, instead they will try to find a way to escape their accountability and get away with it with lame fucking excuses like "being drunk." it's always about how they are so innocent. 

• They will constantly prey on your flaws, your mistakes, your scars, your wounds, they will rummage through even the most minor insignificant details of your life to find something on you and paint you as a target so that you get humiliated by everyone and they can sit back and watch the whole thing go down meanwhile pretending like they don't like drama. This is like a person who watches a house burn up in flames, comes around and pours gasoline and immediately runs away and comes back and makes it look like they had nothing to do with it. They are always the prime participants in a drama but when it gets too much especially when it begins to come in their direction, they begin to backpedal their way out of it. Basically they are shit starters but always claim they had no part in it. 

You can never be Vulnerable or open to them about your flaws. They will use this as an opportunity to put you down and basically prey on you so that you suffer. Instead of being forgiving, they will relentlessly use your flaws to prey on your sanctity. 

• They are never forgiving. You can see this video that explains this kind of Vulnerable toxic narcissism. If you run into a problem with such people a year ago, they will use something that happened over a long period of time, be totally unforgiving and constantly bring up that and maintain a permanent grudge against you and use that to attack you over and over. They just cannot ever give up.. They can never forgive. Like Grande suggests, they will victimize you over something that is insignificant and happened over a long time ago and use that as a weapon against you to continue tormenting you. Like I said they are vicious predators. 

Feel lucky and celebrate if you are free from their vampirish clutches.. They never let go. 

The video that explains how unforgiving these vicious predators are. 

 

 

 

[Tyler Robinson]

3 hours ago, michaelcycle00 said:

You say this:

and then you go and type an entire paragraph demeaning "low-consciousness" people. 

Because I have dealt with low consciousness people and only I know how much that can hurt. I'm not demeaning them. I'm pointing to out  what they do. You're thinking that I'm insulting them. Pointing out how I suffered because of someone's actions is not the same as demeaning them. I usually do not prefer to say bad things about others or to others. But if someone has caused me deep pain and suffering then I am going to dish out some precious things to them, why not. And you can say that I'm doing the same thing that they are doing. But this is precisely the reason why you should avoid them, because they reduce you to their level of bad behavior. It's like they gossip and then you are forced to play their game in order to deal with them. In other words they bring out the worst in you. In order to deal with their attacks you have to attack them. Obviously it will make you look bad. But that's the whole point. If you cut off these people out of your life, you won't need to become like them. 

Like I said I'm not interested in demeaning them but I am forced to attack when I'm under attack. 

It's like you have to punch someone finally when they don't stop punching you. 

So the solution? Just cut them out  otherwise you will begin to engage in the same behavior you criticize them for which I was doing right now. 

3 hours ago, michaelcycle00 said:

You use the word "delusional" and these other people use the word "fool". Two sides of the same coin.

Nah. Delusional and fools are not the same. Maybe same for you. Not in my mind. Fools is a derogatory way of referring to someone. It means you consider them worthless. But delusional is not the same. Delusional does not mean they are worthless. A fool is unconscious. A delusional person is not unconscious. They are well aware of what they are doing but choose to do it anyway because they think they are doing something good in the world, meanwhile achieving the opposite. They really believe that they are better than everyone. They are not better than anyone. By calling someone a thief, I don't become a thief. I am simply calling a spade a spade. 

3 hours ago, michaelcycle00 said:

In fact, this is wrong. The reason highly intelligent people tend to doubt themselves is because they are usually uncomprehended all throughout their life and develop that as a coping mechanism, which is just insecurity. I can agree with the humility part when speaking of a "sane" person, but even narcissists can be intellectually gifted. 

I don't know their reasoning. But I know that they are generally humble about it. They don't brag about how  intelligent they are. That's the last thing they do. 

I'm not an intellectually gifted person.. I have been diagnosed with autism. I have been repeatedly targeted and labeled as a "fool" by these so called intelligent people. But from my personal experience of dealing with intelligent folks, they never called me a fool. Granted they didn't call me intelligent and I'm not that smart, you can see from my replies that I'm not smart. But at least I wasn't called a fool. And these were highly intelligent people. That's why I said that highly intelligent people don't go around calling others fools. That's not a sign of intelligence. 

3 hours ago, michaelcycle00 said:

Also, I'm pretty sure @Razard86 is referring to normal day-to-day socialization. Not one in Mensa's private headquarters. Talking to average people has done jack shit for me.

I think from my experience I only wish to deal with highly intelligent people. You're making a mistake. You're conflating intelligent with intellectual. It's one thing to score high IQ and be intellectually gifted and another thing to be truly intelligent. Like Leo says intelligence cannot be measured by IQ. Although intellectual people are also nice to hang out with, I would be careful about intellectual folks with narcissistic qualities. I have had my fair share dealing with the types you are referring to. And they took me on a hell ride completely abusing my trust. I can spot them. Easily. You only have to see their boasting and you know right away. They keep telling how much they are contributing to the world. I had the misery of dealing with these highly intellectual narcissistic types and they made me sign invisible contracts to shut my mouth. And I like a loser signed the contract allowing the abuse to go on for months. Finally I broke the terms of the contract. I don't know what I was doing or why I took me so long to break the contract. But finally I succeeded. I learned a lot of lessons, first not to sign such contracts with people. I was like a donkey being lead on. I admit that I am not the wisest in the crowd. But I'm also not a fool. I did out of emotions. I was made to believe that I am protecting someone. I was exploited for months and months until I began to suffer physically and finally told the other person about the contract. And I got freedom that day. It's very difficult for people like me because I am too autistic. My autism is what people take advantage of. 

But I'm not going to deal with such people again. I'm only going to talk to intelligent people like Leo. Because such people don't exploit me. They understand my weaknesses. They don't call me a fool for my weakness. They don't set up traps for me.. One sign is that they will not dictate me on how to do or what to Do. They don't treat me like a donkey. They are generally protective of me. 

I'm safe with such people is what I observed. 

 

[Tyler Robinson]

@michaelcycle00 one of the best ways to avoid such people is to detect signs of victimhood in such people. If anybody plays victim, then avoid. 

That's what those two people did to me. Also people who help you can be abusive too. Two people who played victim to me and two people who tried to help me. All four were abusive and exploitive.

They had one thing in common. They were all low IQ. Maybe they did all this unconsciously. 

So this is how it went. 2 people whined and played victim by telling me how another person was abusing them. One made me sign a contract which I did. Another made me go attack another innocent person which I did on their behalf because they told me all these stories how they were abused. And they encouraged me to attack. I got into savior mode and went after the person who abused them. Afterward the other person told me that such thing had never happened. They showed me evidence. Then I felt betrayed.. I apologized to the person I had attacked. The second person did the same trick but made me sign a contract. They spoke very sweetly to me and I'm such a sucker for sweet talk. So I believed that them. They told me that everything was for good reasons. I had a great friendship with the other person. This second person kept feeding me a lot of garbage for months and months and I began to realize that something might not be true. That's when I broke the contract and told the other person about it. Instantly the second person blocked me calling me a psychopath because I broke their contract. I could see their manipulation. Next two people were who spoke sweetly to me and told me how much they love me. One person ghosted me because they didn't need me anymore. It was out of the blue. The other person, they manipulated me and then used me as a punching bag for their needs and issues. 

I realized that any person who is helping me might also have an agenda. 

Only one person out of the four was high IQ but he was a fucking narcissist who played his game well. 

Now I try to avoid three  types of people during socializing - 1) people who try to get too close to me super fast, I can feel that they want something out of me and it's probably not something nice. They give me creeps. Because something is not right. Why they want me so bad? 

Earlier I used to believe them. Now I don't trust people who come close to me. They are first to be off my list. I know it's no good if they want me too badly. 

2) people who bitch to me and gossip about how someone did this that to them. These people are feeding on my "savior" personality. I generally become like mama bear and get protective of people who are abused. But I think I have been exploited because of this. I was fed lot of stories upon stories and after believing them I was told to protect these people. Which I did and got into a lot of trouble. Because those stories were made up. 

3) people who try to fix me or help me. These are very dangerous people. They come to me telling me how much they care about me and make me emotional. Afterward they start playing games. Then they take advantage of my weakness and start exploiting it by treating me badly. 

I met one high iQ man and although he was a total psychopath he wasn't that bad. He did not take advantage of me. He helped me without harming me. He also had an agenda which I came to know about in the end. But he was at least civil with me. 

So high IQ are a safe bet. They don't exploit or start shit. They don't twist things. They don't play victim or try to help. They keep proper distance and don't get too close. At least nobody is exploiting in the name of helping. So I think socializing with high iQ actually benefited me great deal. They did not exploit me and I also got to learn from them. 

Although some of them can be narcissistic, but that's okay, you can filter out those ones. There are lots of high iQ people who are not narcissists. Choose those.