What's with older guys (10+ yrs older) approaching much younger women?

[Preety_India]

I do not agree with some of the views on this thread. 

Plus I must admit that it's horribly biased against men. This is not okay. 

I chose a wrong man and he is my ex. Bad men happened to me too. 

But I do not generalize all men as bad. This is absolutely wrong and ridiculous. 

The thing is manipulation and exploitation is not dependent on age.  manipulative. 

You mean young guys don't manipulate? Of course they do. This has less to do with age and more to do with the character of a person.. 

You're simply dealing with a manipulative toxic guy. If an older man can manipulate you, the same things could have been said by a younger man too. 

There is no need to portray old men as creepy. That's petty generalization and that's hurtful. 

Every old man is not a creep. Yes an extremely old man in his 60s wanting an extremely young woman might look sleazy. But a man older than you even by 10 years is not a huge deal. And it doesn't mean that he is automatically going to exploit a woman because of age difference. That's ridiculous. 

My dad was much older than my mom but he always cared for her, guided her, protected her and provided her all her life and did everything a great husband does.. Always by her side whenever she needed him. 

He did not exploit or manipulate her. He was the ultimate caring husband. 

This demonization of older men is ridiculous 

Your bad experience with an older man doesn't mean every woman out there had a bad experience with older men. 

This is not okay. It's generalization and demonization of older men  and the phrase "brutal truth" does not help your case. 

I also dated toxic men.. But that doesn't mean that all men are toxic?? 

If you are never meeting a good man, then probably rethink your dating strategy as a woman. 

All men aren't creepy and manipulative. Don't project your handful of bad experiences on the entire male population. 

Also take responsibility as a woman for your dating life. You being young is no excuse to date toxic men. 

I'm young too. I have dated toxic men as well. But I don't sit around complaining that all men are bad. 

I improved my areas of self esteem, looked into why I was attracting bad men in my life, took responsibility for my own dating choices and finally avoided men who can be bad for my health. 

Your dating life is your choice and responsibility as a woman. Of course anybody can manipulate you,irrespective of age or any other factor. The sooner you realize this the better it is for your dating life 

Having bad experience with the opposite gender is no reason or excuse to malign an entire gender, there are good men too. 

And if you just cannot ever get a good man, it's high time you investigate why you never attract them. 

Who you date as a woman is partially your fault as well. 

Don't project your bad experiences on an entire gender. 

Good men exist, period. 

And you need to woman up and take responsibility for your bad dating choices.

 

[Etherial Cat]

34 minutes ago, Loba said:

 

 I am benefitting from the things that are repeating here - I've learned so much, I will literally 'never' allow a man near me again if he has interest.
I didn't actually know how bad men were until I spent a few years on this forum

@Loba I am sorry for reading about the number of abuses you've been through.

This forum - and especially this dating section, is in my opinion full of inexperienced dudes, late bloomers and guys who had a bunch of difficult relationships with females and are bitter/resentful.

I don't find it representative of what can be found in the real world. The worst thing that you can do is to let these guys poison your mind and subscribe to their worldview. Because it is simply not true. While Leo is not an incel, he's subscribing to worldview that aren't so far off.

And his gravity pool and leadership turns this dating section into something that matches his worldview, attract similar individuals and turn off those who do not resonate with it.

[Etherial Cat]

@Tristan12

Damn, you've just earned yourself a new subscriber! Incredible wisdom for someone born in 2000!  When I was your age, my head was full of air. Luck you!

 

[Tristan12]

@Etherial Cat Thank you

[somegirl]

100th comment.

[Federico del pueblo]

2 minutes ago, somegirl said:

100th comment.

Your threads always explode like atomic bombs ?

[somegirl]

17 minutes ago, Federico del pueblo said:

Your threads always explode like atomic bombs ?

Right? ?

[Federico del pueblo]

2 minutes ago, somegirl said:

Right? ?

 Yes.

The reason for this would be rather uncomfortable for you to know though!

In reality all the other profiles are dudes who are 20+ years older than you, thinking "if I write a good reply to somegirl, maybe I'll have a chance with her, muhahahaha".

So you must stay careful ?

[somegirl]

5 minutes ago, Federico del pueblo said:

The reason for this would be rather uncomfortable for you to know though!

In reality all the other profiles are dudes who are 20+ years older than you, thinking "if I write a good reply to somegirl, maybe I'll have a chance with her, muhahahaha".

Omg you're right. Then I'm offended! ?

Edited February 12, 2022 by somegirl

[mandyjw]

6 hours ago, somegirl said:

That doesn't make much sense. Can you elaborate? 

We just want to appreciate, and be appreciated. 

[somegirl]

@Preety_India I think you have made your point by the second paragraph. Glad you're owning up to your own dating life as well. Happy for you. 

[something_else]

Just now, Medhansh said:

@somegirl Can you answer my question?

Or any other girl on this thread?

it’s kind of a silly question, it’s a bit like asking if girls want to be approached by guys with beards

the factor that determines whether a girl wants to talk to you is not really your age, there are more important things and it varies per girl

unless there’s like a huge age gap, then maybe it will play into it a bit more

but I’ve had some good experiences with older women than me so of course some older woman will be into it

[K Ghoul]

6 minutes ago, Medhansh said:

Thank God there are still some sensible answers in this thread. 

I thought my answers were pretty good. I even quoted Charles Manson 

 

4 minutes ago, Medhansh said:

@somegirl Can you answer my question?

Or any other girl in this thread?

“do you like being approached by younger men?” - no, I like approaching them myself 

[Preety_India]

2 minutes ago, K Ghoul said:

I thought my answers were pretty good. I even quoted Charles Manson 

 

 

Girl you win! 

 

[somegirl]

10 hours ago, Medhansh said:

Do you girls like being approached by younger men?

I didn't get approached by younger men so far. Or at least they didn't let me know they like me, even if they do.
Though I wasn't talking about girl being older than a guy. I was talking about guys who are SAME age as girl, who do not approach said girl.. I mean... They are the same age, it's not like they are so much out of their league to be scared to approach. 
 

[somegirl]

I actually do not want to have negative  beliefs about this topic. And I mostly have positive experiences (I don't hold extreme negative beliefs at all) and wonderful male friends. But I just don't get intentions of much older guys... Why do they approach much younger girls? (apart from looks) What is wrong with girls their own age, or girls around their age range? Why they have a need to be with someone with much less experience than them? That obviously creates an imbalance in power and dynamics. He has more advantage than her in this case. He can easily use his accumulated knowledge and sell her any kinds of stories (because he knows that she doesn't know better because of her lack of experience), only if he wants to. And he has to be a saint not to do that. 
 

Edited February 12, 2022 by somegirl

[Roy]

13 hours ago, somegirl said:

Well it's not like guys in their early/mid/late twenties do not do anything. Some of them already have jobs, live on their own... 

True. It's not that it doesn't happen where the woman is the older one, it's just not as common. My last few partners have been a handful of years older than me, idk what I'm doing to break the norm haha.

[K Ghoul]

1 minute ago, Medhansh said:

Plus I don't know who Charles Manson is?

generation gap

[K Ghoul]

Just now, Medhansh said:

Thank you. I needed to hear this.

I hope you are serious about it though.

Younger men are shit-scared to approach older women. This gave me some confidence.

That's it fellas! Time to approach some hot older women?

 

Yea, legit. I don’t know how common this is thou some other girls might need to chime in to confirm if they’ve done it too. I once hit on a guy 10 years younger (I didn’t know first he lied about his age and told me he was 21 the motherfucker was 19) so I’m checking their IDs now 

[somegirl]

12 minutes ago, Roy said:

My last few partners have been a handful of years older than me

Did it ever bother you?
 

12 minutes ago, Roy said:

idk what I'm doing to break the norm

Seems like you're a catch to more experienced ladies hahah