Chumbimba

1 Girl per day

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If I approach 1 girl per day. That will be 30 girls in a month. That's 365 girls in one year, that's 720 girls in 2 years. My objective is not to sleep with them. My objective is to just get more confident in interacting with them. 

 

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Nothing wrong with sleeping with them. That's just not my main priority. I want to create abundance. I just got out of a very toxic relationship and now I am going to fix my insecurities around women. More inner work than just sex. 

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Good strategy, now all you got to do is do it. 

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Yeah doing it is the hard part. BUT ITS ONLY ONE GIRL. but my mind is a bitch and doesent want me to change and manipulates me with fear

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Not a good plan. It's far too inefficient.

Better to spend 3 hours on the weekend to approach 10 girls in a row.

Learning these skills requires building momentum. Your first approach is going to bomb most of the time, especially as a noob. You can't learn effectively that way. It's like saying, "I'm going to lift one weight, once per day, for 2 years."


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@Leo Gura I have a belief that it is creepy to approach more than one girl at once in the same setting and that people will look down on me or see me as a creep. Thats why in college I didn't approach at all. I get the girls who come to me and they all tend to be shit. 

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1 hour ago, Chumbimba said:

If I approach 1 girl per day. That will be 30 girls in a month. That's 365 girls in one year, that's 720 girls in 2 years. My objective is not to sleep with them. My objective is to just get more confident in interacting with them. 

 

I'd say, approach a girl each time you've got an opportunity to. I always start chatting with people when I notice they are open for discussion. I don't care whether they are male of female. I don't come from a place where I want anything from them either. I'm happy enough for the interaction. This would also be the best approach if I were to look for a partner.

I think you should do the same. Maybe just try to look for girls who are receptive to your energy in daily life. To me that's the real abundance mentality.


“If you are irritated by every rub, how will you be polished?” - Rumi.

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@Etherial Cat The problem is it feels like no women are receptive to my energy except the shitty ones :( 

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36 minutes ago, Chumbimba said:

@Leo Gura I have a belief that it is creepy to approach more than one girl at once in the same setting and that people will look down on me or see me as a creep.

That's your whole problem.

You need to break that limiting belief to pieces.

You will never be good with girls so long as you subscribe to such silly beliefs. You need to not give a fuck how others perceive you, without becoming a devil.


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13 minutes ago, Chumbimba said:

@Etherial Cat The problem is it feels like no women are receptive to my energy except the shitty ones :( 

Is this more of a tell about the way you see yourself?

Mark Twain said something like... "I wouldn't belong to any club that would have me."

Could it be that, once a woman is interested in you, that you begin to see her as lesser because she's into you and you see yourself as lesser? Like projecting your own self-deprecation onto her?

Just something to consider...


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If you approach 3 women 2 times per week during the day, and then spend a few hours on the weekend doing more approaches, you'll gain far more than wasting your time going to a place to approach that 1 girl each day. You are losing life commuting to these places and walking around looking for that one perfect set. Also, every time you have a bad set, that is an entire day of feeling bad about yourself. If you have 2 bad interactions while building momentum and end the day with 1 good interaction, you will remember that 1 good interaction to help carry you over to the next time you do approaches. 

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42 minutes ago, Chumbimba said:

I have a belief that it is creepy to approach more than one girl at once in the same setting and that people will look down on me or see me as a creep.

I mean sure, if you're super uncalibrated.

That's why you go to bars and nightclubs. Everyone is drunk and sloppy and you can get away with it.

There is a point where you can damage your reputation, but that's not your problem. Your problem is you not approaching.

I used to have guys approach 50-100 people in a single night. Nothing bad ever happened.

1 hour ago, Chumbimba said:

I want to create abundance.

This is not actually how you create abundance. Ironically, it's often guys in scarcity that are surrounded by women. But that's a lesson I didn't realize until later.

Go forth and approach.


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3 hours ago, Chumbimba said:

@Etherial Cat The problem is it feels like no women are receptive to my energy except the shitty ones :( 

That's cause you are putting out shitty energy and/or not talking to enough women.

If you are approaching 1 girl per day you will never feel abundance and you will be forced to settle with the bottom of the barrel.

The whole point of pickup is that it teaches you how to put out better energy. It's not only about numbers. You become much more charming. But for that to happen you gotta be serious about it and hit the streets hard.

When you go out you should aim to approach 5-10 girls at least per day/night. And you should go out at least 3 nights a week.


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Posted (edited)

pick up is such a drag lol, especially if you are stuck in a rut

just move to a place where foreigners are rare and beauty is plentiful

sounds like a cop out but it's worlds better and more rewarding than having to slog through all the bullshit trying to impress a local girl that's going to be half as attractive and interested in you for being the unique person you are.

all relative I suppose.

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52 minutes ago, Lyubov said:

just move to a place where foreigners are rare and beauty is plentiful

You will still need game. Foreign girls will not come sit on your lap. You will still need to grow the balls to approach them.

Bottom line, if you gonna be a man, grow some balls.


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Posted (edited)

45 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

You will still need game. Foreign girls will not come sit on your lap. You will still need to grow the balls to approach them.

Bottom line, if you gonna be a man, grow some balls.

you are correct, that is true. I'm speaking from experience myself. you still will need to be developed and learn how to flirt and attract women but at least you will be interesting right off the bat and not have to do as many superficial backflips trying to impress a local girl that has a million guys after her just like you.

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1 hour ago, Chumbimba said:

@Etherial Cat The problem is it feels like no women are receptive to my energy except the shitty ones :( 

I wouldn't use such strong language to talk about other people. When you judge people so harshly, watch out because it backfires eventually on you. It becomes shadow material.

I see two ways there.

1) Is related to what girls you like and want to attract

2) Is related to you

Regarding 1)

You say that non of the women you like are receptive to you. Are you having undesirable standards? Are you attracted on purpose to girls that aren't attracted to you? You can ask yourself questions from this angle

Regarding 2)

There might be stuff you could change about yourself. And that would be removing negative conditioning as such as a negative self-image, or trying to be something or someone. Girls are receptive to a man's energy.

If they aren't, it probably means that your energy is still obscured by some deeply ingrained falsehood and beliefs about you not being enough or worthy.

In this case, fix your relationship with yourself.

You've got to learn how to love yourself and feel good in your shoes for other people to be attracted to you. Are you feeling this?

When you meet a girl, then, you just offer your authenticity and see if she sticks to it. And keep approaching each time you've got an opportunity to meet someone. One will be right eventually. 


“If you are irritated by every rub, how will you be polished?” - Rumi.

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Verbal part of game is tiny aspect of game. Focus on developing confidence and presence. I did that and opening a set will feel very different.

Of course women care what you say but it is much more important that you send out the right non-verbal signals.

Also don't focus on pickup but just on conversation as in human to human. If you do that, they can't reject you. If they are interested in talking to you could introduce some masculinity and see how she likes that.

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