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How to have Sociopathic levels of detachment with girls and dating

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Looks play a big role. A lot of people ignore that. 

A guys looks can say a lot. 

It's not just handsome. A guy can be handsome yet boring. 

But another guy can be handsome but have that romantic glint in his eyes. 

The face can convey a lot of things plus it's the seat of facial expressions,the seat of emotions, the eyes peep into the heart. 

I remember when I used to have arguments with my guy, but his eyes used to make me forget them. 

Looks are important in both men and women. 

But obviously character decides the overall and final outcome of a relationship.

 

 


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@Preety_India Looks will help you get your foot in the door, but if you start displaying neediness or any other unattractive behavior, your good looks won't mean shit.  She may sleep with the guy a few times, but she will never consider him as a serious long-term partner.

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3 minutes ago, Beginner Mind said:

@Preety_India Looks will help you get your foot in the door, but if you start displaying neediness or any other unattractive behavior, your good looks won't mean shit.  She may sleep with the guy a few times, but she will never consider him as a serious long-term partner.

That's exactly what I said in the last para. Looks are important but character meaning behavior will ultimately decide the outcome of a relationship. 


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Just now, Beginner Mind said:

@Preety_India Looks will help you get your foot in the door, but if you start displaying neediness or any other unattractive behavior, your good looks won't mean shit.  She may sleep with the guy a few times, but she will never consider him as a serious long-term partner.

Yup! She might find it cute for, um, a whole 2 weeks, then she would get sick of it quickly. 

Women don't even like their own children hanging all over them constantly, let alone a grown man. 

 

 


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@Beginner Mind I'd say looks, character, behavior and maturity play a huge role. 

But most importantly willingness. No matter whatever the flaws,if the partner is ready to work on them,that's the only way a relationship will be fulfilled. 

Things can be taken care of. But no willingness to communicate,sit down or discuss problems or no willingness to solve conflicts is a disaster and in such a case, everything from looks to achievements, talents, personality, character goes to the drain

 

 

 


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51 minutes ago, Anna1 said:

Yup! She might find it cute for, um, a whole 2 weeks, then she would get sick of it quickly. 

Women don't even like their own children hanging all over them constantly, let alone a grown man. 

Yep.  Reminds me of one of my past relationships.  I would compliment her too much, text too much, and just generally try to inject myself into her life as much as possible.  She put up with it for a few months, but eventually she gave me the boot.

52 minutes ago, Preety_India said:

@Beginner Mind I'd say looks, character, behavior and maturity play a huge role. 

But most importantly willingness. No matter whatever the flaws,if the partner is ready to work on them,that's the only way a relationship will be fulfilled. 

Things can be taken care of. But no willingness to communicate,sit down or discuss problems or no willingness to solve conflicts is a disaster and in such a case, everything from looks to achievements, talents, personality, character goes to the drain

Agreed. Maturity and communication are also important.

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2 hours ago, Preety_India said:

 

Neediness should be there, like wanting or possessiveness. That's what makes the relationship passionate. Or it gets mundane 

But too much neediness is a psychological disorder in both men and women

Often times the reason a partner is acting needy is not because they don't have boundaries or immaturity but because the other partner has kept them deprived for long. That's called negligence. 

I agree with you. It's not wrong to want a needy girlfriend or a needy boyfriend. 

People should not have to dictate whether your choices are bad or good as long as they are within the confines of morality. And you don't have to change a thing. 

What you like and or dislike is what makes you uniquely different than others. 

If everyone had the same attitude and style towards a relationship then we would all look like factory potato chips, all cut out in the same shape and all same flavor. 

It's completely okay to have a certain neediness,  a certain passion, a certain ferociousness in a relationship, it's a part of connecting to your animal side

The only difference is everything should be in moderation. It shouldn't cross limits and become pathological. That's where you have to pay attention. 

As long as you are 100 percent committed to making a relationship work, every flaw you have , you can conquer it and work on it for the better health of your partner and they can do the same. So there is nothing to worry. 

When you have true love and willpower to make a relationship work, you both will dedicate yourselves to seek and cultivate the best in each other. 

Yes.

Fuck romantic relationships, it's 100% selfish activity anyway. Quite disgusting. You women are needy of the man's un-neediness.

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41 minutes ago, Beginner Mind said:

I would compliment her too much, text too much, and just generally try to inject myself into her life as much as possible. 

Yeah, there's a balance you need to find with the compliments, texting, etc.

You don't want too much or too little, ...more like a happy medium. 

Pretty much all things that can be desired are like this... (ie, eat too much good food and get fat, smother your GF and she runs). Too much of a good thing, is a bad thing, eventually.


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Neediness is not just an issue that exists within a certain category of life. It's something deeper than that, a general feeling of not feeling complete. That means that if your relationships/attraction with the opposite sex isn't going well, you can choose to focus on the parts of your life that are going well. The neediness will start to dissolve on its own and then you can revisit the subject (dating/attraction) with less self sabotaging.

That's probably why people with successful relationships often meet each other through work or shared interests. If you're going to a club or a bar, there's a dynamic there that makes the game and the "rules" of attraction very obvious and competitive. 


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28 minutes ago, Mikael89 said:

Yes.

Fuck romantic relationships, it's 100% selfish activity anyway. Quite disgusting. You women are needy of the mans un-needyness.

At least you are right about something. xD

 

 

 

 

 


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25 minutes ago, Mikael89 said:

You women are needy of the mans un-needyness.

Well if you think about it, why do we not like to have needy partners? Because we don't want to be responsible for anyone else's happiness. We want to be seen for who we truly are and not seen through the lens of what someone needs us to be for them. Because we know we will fail to be that. If they have put that expectation on us, on needing us to make them happy, then we might as well end the relationship sooner rather than later because there's no way that person won't continue to be miserable. Only if we stay we will risk being blamed as the cause for their own misery. Basically it feels as if they are seeing us through such a cloudy lens that we aren't even there, we aren't even seen as a soul or a being in ourselves and might as well just be a blow up doll sitting next to them. 

 


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@mandyjw Go have a relationship with a stone then. A stone is completely un-needy of you, it's fine without you, totally detached and indifferent. Exactly what you love so much.

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1 minute ago, Mikael89 said:

@mandyjw Go have a relationship with a stone then. A stone is completely un-needy of you, it's fine without you, totally detached and indifferent. Exactly what you love so much.

This forum is a goldmine for understanding women. I think if you listened, genuinely listen, you would learn so much from the women here. Simultaneously by really listening you would dramatically increase how attractive you are to a woman. They are simple creatures who only want to connect with people. It's not difficult. It's difficult if you programme yourself with all the dating BS out there on the internet. 

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4 minutes ago, Mikael89 said:

@mandyjw Go have a relationship with a stone then. A stone is completely un-needy of you, it's fine without you, totally detached and indifferent. Exactly what you love so much.

Hahaha.

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@Mikael89 Let me give you a tip on how it works. If you can learn to give a women what she needs, she will return the favour 5 fold.

She doesnt want someone who's needless, she just doesnt want an emotional vampire. 

To love and be loved. That's all women really want. 

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@Mikael89 I have relationships with many stones already, but I'm always happy to meet a new one! Leo told me to notice why I don't have a relationship with my vacuum cleaner, but it's hard not to be needy with the vacuum because I get really pissed off when it doesn't work the way I want it to. 

Honestly though, I've been married for 10 years, in a relationship with him for 14 years, close friends with him for 17 years and there's been LOTS of back and forth of neediness on both our parts during that entire time. Everyone is needy sometimes, eventually love is big enough to forgive it. But loving ourselves or love itself also dissolves neediness. 


Light on Earth “Do not be satisfied with the stories that come before you. Unfold your own myth.― Rumi

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7 hours ago, Preety_India said:

Or it gets mundane 

I gotta add something to this. Add decades to the relationship/marriage, and it will get "mundane." The question is: will the both of you adjust? There was this newlywed gal in my workplace. She wanted me to describe my marriage. I didn't really want to because I knew she would start saying something that is not really true. It would sound like she's criticizing and judging. I told her that I've been married for years and that's why we're detached. She told me, "my husband and I are not like that. We're attached and having fun." Then, she just walked away. We tried to avoid each other after that.

See, I think if you actually get married to someone, and it doesn't work the way anyone in society wants it to work, the average Joe will start avoiding you once he/she heard you talk. My favourite word: cockamamie (29:06).

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Or, better yet, the average Joe's favourite pastime: gossipping, joking, and spreading wrong info.

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4 minutes ago, Nickyy said:

she just doesnt want an emotional vampire. 

Haha. Yeah, the energy suckers. They will suck the life out of you!


Take what you like and leave the rest.

Namaste 🙏 🕉

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12 minutes ago, Key Elements said:

I gotta add something to this. Add decades to the relationship/marriage, and it will get "mundane." The question is: will the both of you adjust?

This. Life has enough spark on it's own, or rather the spark is within you, expecting a relationship to be the source of the fiery spark you're looking for in your life is the definition of neediness. 

Sometimes that spark appears within a relationship with another or it seems to come from a relationship and we mistakenly attribute it to another person. 

Hollywood has not helped us to dissolve these needy expectations of each other. 

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