Texting a girl fast back

[felixk_priv]

Tbh I am insecure about texting a girl fast back I have been texting back faster but I think I might come across as well more invested I suppose . It's early on , I don't know if it's a turn off for most girls .. or if it varies or if it comes across as needy or soemting 

[felixk_priv]

Lol , maybe it would have been good to feel my emotions instead of posting this out of insecurity bahahh

[Olaf]

@felixk_priv Honestly I just don't give a shit anymore, I just hate the waiting the same amount as she texts. I just never double text thats my only rule, but many times when I see she responded I just directly text, because I don't want to put her so much on a pedestal that I will consciously spend 2 hours waiting before sending a message. Many times when you respond directly they also start to text more quickly so that is what I do, I used to wait hours, but I feel there is no point to it. 

Edited September 3 by Olaf

[Jirh]

I suggest organizing your time into blocks. When it's socialization time, you can reply and engage. Otherwise, you're busy and focused on whatever you're doing. You disappear without explanation. And you do not negotiate your time with anyone.

[Hasson_Miah]

search coach orey Wayne how to be a 3% man and watch your life change dude. 

[PsychedelicEagle]

It's a scientific fact that women are more attracted to men whose feelings are unclear.  ~ Corey Wayne.

[Olaf]

@PsychedelicEagle yes, if you wait 2 hours everytime she waits 2 hours it is kinda try hard, I think best is to text when you have time and when your busy just don´t text, but you got to be busy with other things or just not care or have so many people your texting that you don´t feel like replying. I genuinely don´t feel like replying many times.

[PsychedelicEagle]

Yes, ideally you should be busy with your life purpose.

And anyway the phone is for setting dates. On the phone, you just to the minimally-necessary texting for her to see you're not a crazy person, and then you book the date ASAP and get off the phone.

It's all laid out on Corey Wayne's book.

Edited September 11 by PsychedelicEagle

[Breakingthewall]

On 3/9/2026 at 9:18 PM, felixk_priv said:

Tbh I am insecure about texting a girl fast back I have been texting back faster but I think I might come across as well more invested I suppose . It's early on , I don't know if it's a turn off for most girls .. or if it varies or if it comes across as needy or soemting 

No no, your concern is not a stupidity, it's smart. Don't imagine what the girl is thinking, imagine what she's feeling.

She doesn't know why she suddenly sees you as an idiot or a Viking god; it just happens. So, if you respond immediately, the feeling you create is like a dog jumping around with its tongue hanging out, very happy because it's about to get a stick. That creates a feeling like: ohh he's so cute, but so unsexy..... But on the other hand, if you wait too long, then it seems like you're intentionally trying to appear like a Viking god, which automatically makes you an idiot.

The balance is delicate; it's a precise dance where each tempo builds the necessary framework so that the girl feels she wants you to be the man. You are not conquering her, you are creating the appropriate tempo and energy to make her enjoy the fact of being a woman, and for that you have to be a man, and that means respect for yourself, you first, above. Not above like a human, just in the plane man/ woman, that doesn't mean unrespect, just play the game that's needed 

Edited September 11 by Breakingthewall

[Joseph Maynor]

Am I the only one who hates texting?

[felixk_priv]

@Joseph Maynor nop but also I like it

[Leo Gura]

Don't be too available via text.

Keep texting short.

[Schizophonia]

On 11/09/2026 at 11:01 PM, Breakingthewall said:

No no, your concern is not a stupidity, it's smart. Don't imagine what the girl is thinking, imagine what she's feeling.

She doesn't know why she suddenly sees you as an idiot or a Viking god; it just happens. So, if you respond immediately, the feeling you create is like a dog jumping around with its tongue hanging out, very happy because it's about to get a stick. That creates a feeling like: ohh he's so cute, but so unsexy..... But on the other hand, if you wait too long, then it seems like you're intentionally trying to appear like a Viking god, which automatically makes you an idiot.

The balance is delicate; it's a precise dance where each tempo builds the necessary framework so that the girl feels she wants you to be the man. You are not conquering her, you are creating the appropriate tempo and energy to make her enjoy the fact of being a woman, and for that you have to be a man, and that means respect for yourself, you first, above. Not above like a human, just in the plane man/ woman, that doesn't mean unrespect, just play the game that's needed 

But you're still in this fucking "game".

Have you considered how strangely counter-intuitive all this is? It makes no sense for something as primal as seduction not to unfold smoothly. High-performance software is frictionless software.

What I believe is happening is that people are so mentally colonized by certain ideological, cultural, and religious egregores that they are abnormally anxious. 

Everything is already there inside you within your reward system; from how to reply to a message to other issues like what to eat, who to be friends with, or which career or activity suits you best. There’s no need to learn the "game" and end up being lunatif/hateful because of the sheer burden of that point of view on life/relationships, or to take psychedelics to figure out what to do while lying stoned in bed with your mind full of "machine-scapes."
But because of conditioning we’re convinced that if we don't watch ourselves, we’ll stop being loved; and paradoxically that actually leads to communicating in a less-than-ideal way.
That’s the main reason why I know, and I’ve told my crush this several times lol, that I dislike texting; because fear makes me write too much or say weird things, whereas if I just let my reward system take over I’d come across as much more "normal" and certainly more pleasant.

There’s a discussion in another thread about poor Ed Sheeran; if you injected him with some pure testosterone and maybe a bit of a benzodiazepine, he’d tell them all to go fuck themselves.

"I’m a nice guy maybe a bit awkward but you’re clearly doing this on purpose so please just leave." For the polite/well-mannered version lol.

But like everyone else, he was told to eat his broccoli and think the kind of politically correct thoughts I won't get into here, so his first instinct now is just to roll over and take it. That is where I part ways with traditional masculinism; I believe that "wanting to appear masculine" is a mistake, and that it mostly just makes you moody and self-centered. What I’m aiming for is a return to basics listening to the body and intuition, what my brains would love to do.

What I notice in myself is that it makes me both harsher and more judgmental, yet at the same time more loving in my desire to take care of my affairs and of others.

 

Edited 10 hours ago by Schizophonia

[Breakingthewall]

1 hour ago, Schizophonia said:

But you're still in this fucking "game".

Have you considered how strangely counter-intuitive all this is? It makes no sense for something as primal as seduction not to unfold smoothly. High-performance software is frictionless software.

What I believe is happening is that people are so mentally colonized by certain ideological, cultural, and religious egregores that they are abnormally anxious. 

Everything is already there inside you within your reward system; from how to reply to a message to other issues like what to eat, who to be friends with, or which career or activity suits you best. There’s no need to learn the "game" and end up being lunatif/hateful because of the sheer burden of that point of view on life/relationships, or to take psychedelics to figure out what to do while lying stoned in bed with your mind full of "machine-scapes."
But because of conditioning we’re convinced that if we don't watch ourselves, we’ll stop being loved; and paradoxically that actually leads to communicating in a less-than-ideal way.
That’s the main reason why I know, and I’ve told my crush this several times lol, that I dislike texting; because fear makes me write too much or say weird things, whereas if I just let my reward system take over I’d come across as much more "normal" and certainly more pleasant.

There’s a discussion in another thread about poor Ed Sheeran; if you injected him with some pure testosterone and maybe a bit of a benzodiazepine, he’d tell them all to go fuck themselves.

"I’m a nice guy maybe a bit awkward but you’re clearly doing this on purpose so please just leave." For the polite/well-mannered version lol.

But like everyone else, he was told to eat his broccoli and think the kind of politically correct thoughts I won't get into here, so his first instinct now is just to roll over and take it. That is where I part ways with traditional masculinism; I believe that "wanting to appear masculine" is a mistake, and that it mostly just makes you moody and self-centered. What I’m aiming for is a return to basics listening to the body and intuition, what my brains would love to do.

What I notice in myself is that it makes me both harsher and more judgmental, yet at the same time more loving in my desire to take care of my affairs and of others.

 

All that stuff you say about "clean" seduction is all well and good, but let's be honest with ourselves. We go around with our dicks in our hand pointing north, and when we're dealing with a girl, the idea is to get her on the bed and fuck her until she begs for mercy, and then her friends, and her mother, and her sisters. And right after we're done, we go home to masturbate while chatting on Tinder with another girl about sex or watching porn. So, this whole "clean" seduction thing is relative.

If we could, we'd do what gay guys do: fuck 750 people a year. Then, facing this uncontrolled, blind, stupid, inevitable, and uncontrollable torrent, we have the other side of the coin: women, who have a completely different sexual energy. The opposite, even. And things happen like if you show too much interest she automatically sees you as a moron, if you slap her face with your dick and then leave without saying goodbye she sees you as a god, and if you give her flowers she sees her as a miserable piece of shit lying on the ground. It's not what I like, it's what happens. So if you don't learn how it works, you will eat loads of shit that would make your life miserable. The difference between being aligned with sex or being let's say, lost in the fantasy, is absolute. Being a man requires understanding the game, because the fucking game is a trick of nature to make the genetic stronger, not something "clean" to makes you happy 

[Kalki Avatar]

@felixk_priv  Yes, there is a psychological rule. You should wait at least 15 min for reply. Because if you don’t control pace-energy frame right, the intensity will get out of hand and you will be too much to her unknowingly. It will repel her as desperation. Also, if a girl is consistently taking up to an hour, two hours or even a day to reply you need to MIRROR that same behaviour to keep the balance of power dynamic. If not, she will start disrespecting you in the back of her mind.   Unless y’all both already fast chatting back and forth each other you can enter in that continuum.. but if insecure, always wait at least 15 min. Texting is a whole different game which needs a lot of calculation and thought to pull it off right. Everytime you text with a girl the pin pong game has already started and you are both in mind of each other. So time is at play and mind is time. Always chat a little but always with the intention to set a date behind. If you try to seduce her there you can but it’s high risk and a big waste of time. 
 

When texting and trying to set the date you can read a lot of her mind based on her behaviour and responses. For example, I just got a girl that wants me to take her out now and we have been texting for a couple of days. At this point I’m not even sure if I really want to date her any more based on her psychological behaviour. I’m just saving myself hoops and bs from this girl.. 

Edited 7 hours ago by Kalki Avatar

[Schizophonia]

1 hour ago, Breakingthewall said:

All that stuff you say about "clean" seduction is all well and good, but let's be honest with ourselves. We go around with our dicks in our hand pointing north, and when we're dealing with a girl, the idea is to get her on the bed and fuck her until she begs for mercy, and then her friends, and her mother, and her sisters. And right after we're done, we go home to masturbate while chatting on Tinder with another girl about sex or watching porn. So, this whole "clean" seduction thing is relative.

Not at all, I mainly want someone to have a good time with and share love with. The libido is there but it's only a few times a week at most.

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If we could, we'd do what gay guys

do: fuck 750 people a year.

Then, facing this uncontrolled, blind, stupid, inevitable, and uncontrollable torrent, we have the other side of the coin: women, who have a completely different sexual energy. The opposite, even. And things happen like if you show too much interest she automatically sees you as a moron, if you slap her face with your dick and then leave without saying goodbye she sees you as a god, and if you give her flowers she sees her as a miserable piece of shit lying on the ground. It's not what I like, it's what happens. So if you don't learn how it works, you will eat loads of shit that would make your life miserable. The difference between being aligned with sex or being let's say, lost in the fantasy, is absolute. Being a man requires understanding the game, because the fucking game is a trick of nature to make the genetic stronger, not something "clean" to makes you happy 

The easiest thing for a man is to "let himself be seduced". The woman dictates the shape of the "hole" and you respond to it.
 

When you simp there is in fact a refusal to submit to this imperative (the proof is that otherwise you would not give "too much" interest, you would give the interest requested; in quality and quantity).

Because of the ego.

Edited 6 hours ago by Schizophonia