Loneliness

[enchanted]

3 hours ago, Natasha Tori Maru said:

I don't view loneliness as something I have to deal with per se (as in, it doesn't require me to do anything in particular). It is just another emotion. It's fine. Passes very quickly like all emotions.

Resisting it, avoiding it, distracting - amplifies it. My experience of it. 

It depends where it arrives from, lonilesss isn't totally clear cut to me. Is it just the longing for physically being with another? Is it wanting to be seen or known? Is it wanting conversation? Is it just wanting to be needed, or wanted, by another? 

I normally go into the feeling with enquiry.

💯 This perspective wassnt stated yet. You don't have to do anything about it. 

[Natasha Tori Maru]

17 minutes ago, enchanted said:

💯 This perspective wassnt stated yet. You don't have to do anything about it. 

Sometimes we treat emotional states as "things to be solved". It might not always be the right approach 😊

[Inliytened1]

On 8/24/2026 at 2:04 PM, Miguel1 said:

How do you guys deal with loneliness?

Fall is arriving here in Finland, it’s getting darker, wetter and colder each day.

I have a ton of people in my circle, but none my true friend, which just makes it all the worst.

How do you deal with it? I deal with it via art, music, crying, dancing and the little surface level socializing I do.

Loneliness is a choice.  I used to be terrified of being alone, now I relish it. But it took many decades.   In time it will fall away.  You can still enjoy another's company, but you no longer need it, and you will cherish your alone time.

Edited August 26 by Inliytened1

[Riccurdo]

Hello! I'm also from Finland, Helsinki if you wanna catch up one day  . It would be cool to meet a likeminded person who knows about spirituality!

[Yimpa]

hug me :3 

[LordFall]

19 minutes ago, Yimpa said:

hug me :3 

[Inliytened1]

Just now, LordFall said:

Are we even allowed in this section anymore.  I'm afraid to talk.

[LordFall]

58 minutes ago, Inliytened1 said:

Are we even allowed in this section anymore.  I'm afraid to talk.

You should be, you don't seem capable of productive dating conversation without saying wildly inappropriate stuff. Calibration is one of the foundational concepts in game for a reason. 

[Zenterus]

6 hours ago, Inliytened1 said:

Are we even allowed in this section anymore.  I'm afraid to talk.

What happened to your thread?

[Joseph Maynor]

Don't let them grind you down lol.  
 

 

Edited 20 hours ago by Joseph Maynor

[Joseph Maynor]

@Inliytened1  I love you bro.  Don't sweat it.  Keep being you.  

[Mellowmarsh]

On 24/08/2026 at 8:04 PM, Miguel1 said:

How do you guys deal with loneliness?

I leave it alone. 

[Miguel1]

52 minutes ago, Zenterus said:

What happened to your thread?

You are seriously asking?

[Zenterus]

1 hour ago, Miguel1 said:

You are seriously asking?

Cash me ousside how bou dat

[Miguel1]

12 minutes ago, Zenterus said:

Cash me ousside how bou dat

I dm’d you.

[Spiral]

@Miguel1 For me loneliness is not really about friendships. That’s a trap. A trap I was in for a long time. Notice when you are lonely. Is it at random parts of the day on random days? Or is it Friday evening when you don’t have any plans. And “everyone else” is out having fun?

I get lonely when I haven’t socialized enough through out the week. Can that be at work? Talking to colleagues, sure. Maybe you grab lunch together? Great.

If I’m working from home everyday or there is no one is at the office if I do go there. It gets lonely. It’s about getting your social needs met. Do you feel lonely on Wednesday at 14:32 at the office when you’re are at work. Probably not, it accumulates and show up later. Also make plans, like on Friday if you don’t have friends to get wasted with, go out, catch a movie or something. It doesn’t have to social at all.

Edited 8 hours ago by Spiral

[Miguel1]

@Spiral Thank you for the comment and wisdom.

I think I figured out the lonely part quite well actually.

The way I am fixing it is that I am just deep on my life purpose, which itself is very fulfilling, but involves a lot of people not only in the art spaces, but also in the healing spaces - as my purpose is to combine dance art + dance therapy & healing + inner growth.

So even tho most people I interact with are not super conscious, but they are conscious enough! And I get to do such fulfilling work with them, touching people deeply, transforming them, inspiring them.

And this is just the start. I am building something that will compound in the decades to come. Such a fulfilling life atm, wow. Even tho it is getting pitch black, cold and wet here.

My godness I get emotional thinking of the beauty that I will create for humanity.

- - - - -

The loneliness from me was due to breaking up a year ago and building friendships with completely wrong people (club people). I let that shit go in the summer and started building a much more aligned social circle, as was recommended here by others.

This thread was started a while back and I am in a much more aligned place right now.

Thank you everyone.

 

[Yimpa]

@Miguel1

19 hours ago, LordFall said:

That hug was meant for Miguel  

[Miguel1]

@Yimpa Much love Yimpa! Your love and positivity makes me happy 🥰

[Basman]

You will be less lonely when your busy developing your talents and absorbed in working on projects. It can be more meaningful than socializing if you find something fascinating and important to strive for and your building a big ticket item over the long-term. 

Being alone is a fact. Being lonely is a subjective feeling. It's a kind of present moment FOMO. You can be lonely in a crowd.