Where Have You Had Sex?

[Natasha Tori Maru]

@Inliytened1 I sincerely apologise if you read that as an attack - it is more an attempt to moderate and help other users who feel something unjust has happened and has been allowed.

I linked and raised your apology to emphasis this part the most - and emphasised also that we need to be charitable and good faith toward you <3

Edited 2 hours ago by Natasha Tori Maru

[Inliytened1]

1 minute ago, Leo Gura said:

That's not how we do things here. Mods are not punished just because someone doesn't like them.

I'm sorry you even had to waste your time on this.  I have never really been in this section so I'm letting loose.

[Natasha Tori Maru]

Just now, Inliytened1 said:

I'm sorry you even had to waste your time on this.  I have never really been in this section so I'm letting loose.

Lies - you've been in this section forever! Just in real life lol

[Inliytened1]

1 minute ago, Natasha Tori Maru said:

@Inliytened1 I sincerely apologise if you read that as an attack - it is more an attempt to moderate and help other users who feel something unjust has happened. 

I linked and raised your apology to emphasis this part the most - and emphasised also that we need to be charitable and good faith toward you <3

I sincerely apologize as well.  The way I talked was not the example I wish to set for the younger guys here, and I acknowledge that.

I will try to be better.

[Natasha Tori Maru]

Just now, Inliytened1 said:

I sincerely apologize as well.  The way I talked was not the example I wish to set for the younger guys here, and I acknowledge that.

I will try to be better.

You are already doing that !!!

[Inliytened1]

2 minutes ago, Natasha Tori Maru said:

Lies - you've been in this section forever! Just in real life lol

haha, yeah i guess you can say that!  

[Natasha Tori Maru]

Anyway if you want my sex story - but I won't go into details.

Mile high club 

UNCOMFORTABLE. LOUD. CRAMPED

[Oppositionless]

1 hour ago, LordFall said:

Don't throw yourself under the bus before someone can even manage to do it for you.

You're giving a lot of power to random dudes that offer this forum less value than you do. 

@Oppositionless Which part of leading a cult appeals to you? If you are looking to build a powerful community with members that value your input then you should look into social circle game and event hosting.

Meditation makes you more grounded, it literally has been shown to lower the fear response from the amygdala. Most humans are like rabits they are overly anxious and flip flop in views every week. If you do a lot of introspection and meditate a lot I can see how just that alone would make a person with a deeper presence than most other humans.

If you add rallying people together towards a cause that ignites their emotions then you're well on your way to becoming the next Jim Jones. Just leave the kool-aid at home and focus on bettering the world and not just creating a cult for the sake of feeding your ego and just having control over people. 

Also if it's just to have submissive women to fuck you and the idea of building a community doesn't particularly appeal to you just get into BDSM. Plenty of women are into it and there are popular events in most major cities in the world. Fetlife is a good site to find events in your city and Reddit has many good subreddits on BDSM.

https://www.reddit.com/r/BDSMcommunity/

I used to be the manager of a coffee shop in Downtown Toronto that had a college in the same building. I talked to many girls from there and one of them spoke french like me so we bonded over that. I got her Instagram on a late afternoon when she popped by before one of her classes and we started talking and flirting over text. The next day she came over to my place after I closed down the cafe and she finished her classes. She brought a collar and a leash in her backpack to my place. Good times. 

Not a literal cult more like the charisma of a cult leader, I want to be one of the good ones. Charisma has two meanings. The conventional meaning has to do with confidence, extroversion and charm. But the other meaning of the word, which is actually the older original meaning, is a spiritual meaning. "

Meaning of Charisma in Scripture

Root Word: Derives from charis, the Greek word for grace.

Spiritual Gifts: Refers to supernatural capabilities like healing, prophecy, teaching, or leadership granted by the Holy Spirit.

Purpose: Designed for the common good, service, and love, rather than ordinary social magnetism. [1, 2, 3, 4, 5] "

This is, I think, what Leo meant by his blog post "the highest form of game is God", by the way.

I want to have both types of charisma of course. I'll look into bdsm events. And ecstatic dance, which is a more conscious version of a standard rave. I've mostly been working on the production side of music but I'll probably also get into djing, it would be fun to throw some conscious parties. 

Edited 2 hours ago by Oppositionless

[Inliytened1]

1 minute ago, Natasha Tori Maru said:

Anyway if you want my sex story - but I won't go into details.

Mile high club 

UNCOMFORTABLE. LOUD. CRAMPED

Well it's almost Friday, hell let's hear it!

[Natasha Tori Maru]

At the end of the day conflict happens. It cannot be avoided.

Even in the best, most high consciousness pairings.

Even on forums.

We make mistakes.

We grow.

But mature relationships and genuine connection are revealed in how we repair. We can become more comfortable setting boundaries - and recognising that doing so involves authentic vulnerability. When you set a genuine boundary, you risk the other person rejecting it, disagreeing with you, or even rejecting you for having it.

But that risk is part of what makes the interaction authentic. We can do that here 

 

[questionreality]

I thought the issue was resolved by now, yet I come back 12 hours later and there are 20 more pages.

I decided to go through all the pages and this is what I found:

The same user @yetinetihas made roughly  70% of the all the posts in this thread, with seemingly endless trolling and attacks. He literally gave himself out earlier by calling @Inliytened1 old man twice, among other things. When he was called out, he toned it down and continued with more sophisitcated trolling. 

For the last 20 pages, this appears to be the only person who has had a problem with the thread. No one else.

It is sad that @Natasha Tori Maru has not been able to spot this. 

@Leo Gura Please review @yetineti 's post history in this thread.

[Natasha Tori Maru]

@questionreality To be clear - you are operating from an assessment that does not contain all data.

You aren't privy to private messages that have transpired between that user and others to remedy / moderate.

[Inliytened1]

1 minute ago, questionreality said:

I thought the issue was resolved by now, yet I come back 12 hours later and there are 20 more pages.

I decided to go through all the pages and this is what I found:

The same user @yetinetihas made roughly  70% of the all the posts in this thread, with seemingly endless trolling and attacks. He literally gave himself out earlier by calling @Inliytened1 old man twice, among other things. When he was called out, he toned it down and continued with more sophisitcated trolling. 

For the last 20 pages, this appears to be the only person who has had a problem with the thread. No one else.

It is sad that @Natasha Tori Maru has not been able to spot this. 

@Leo Gura Please review @yetineti 's post history in this thread.

Thanks for having my back man.  I appreciate it.

[questionreality]

 

1 minute ago, Natasha Tori Maru said:

@questionreality To be clear - you are operating from an assessment that does not contain all data.

You aren't privy to private messages that have transpired between that user and others to remedy / moderate.

I don't need to read the private messages to understand what that user is doing in this thread. Reading the last 20 pages of this thread alone is enough to make this conclusion. 

[questionreality]

2 minutes ago, Inliytened1 said:

Thanks for having my back man.  I appreciate it.

Of course! @LordFall is a rare gem btw, his advice could not be more true. Notice how he totally ignored the @yetineti troll and recognized that he added no value.

You can't win with discussions with trolls, they force you to step down to their level and thus bring you down with them. Ignoring users like that is the best approach, it is not possible to have genuine discussions with them. 

[Natasha Tori Maru]

10 minutes ago, Inliytened1 said:

Well it's almost Friday, hell let's hear it!

Economy seats are horrible for maneuverability

And I am sure no one who joins the mile high club gets away with it being unnoticed!

1 minute ago, questionreality said:

I don't need to read the private messages to understand what that user is doing in this thread. Reading the last 20 pages of this thread alone is enough to make this conclusion. 

I suspect you don't understand what I am saying - just based on this reply.

Edited 2 hours ago by Natasha Tori Maru

[Inliytened1]

@Natasha Tori Maru The whole guy mindset is all fucked up, that's what pickup is all about.  It's how many women you can get in bed.  Right? Isn't that what pickup is all about?  So as a guy then you have decided to see how many you can take home.  So, that whole thing is wrong to begin with, and I'll be the first to admit I partake in it just as any other guy does.  And I do it willingly because I love pussy.  

Edited 2 hours ago by Inliytened1

[LordFall]

26 minutes ago, Natasha Tori Maru said:

If you carefully read and analyse the rhetorical style @Inliytened1 engages in - you will notice that the explicit recognition of error happens, and it changes much faster than the relational frame.

This is one potential way others are interpreting the behaviour / words:

Words -

Page 5 - most damaging rhetoric

Page 8 - apology

The following pages are a combination or criticism, personal attacks and aversion by a few parties who engage. Ulax does the majority of the work assisting Inliytened1 understanding the error.

What users are sensing (just my opinion and read of the situation - and I qualify myself as being able to assess this due to facing similar situations continually working with men in construction) is that there appears to be a recurring rhetorical loop that can appear to make the conversation move away from moral accountability, despite the verbal apology. It appears to transmit this sort of message to others:

"People are overreacting; this is mostly sexual humour; I'm being targeted; these critics are moralising; Leo knows me; I'm basically just being authentic."

The move made is: controversial statement -|- joke/minimisation -|- reframing -|- counterattack/criticise the critics -|- invoke context or relationship -|- apology -|- resume substantially the same rhetorical frame

The overall effect is that the apology appears to address the boundary crossing (or phrasing) more readily than it addresses the underlying relational attitude embodied in the rhetoric.

Some of this comes down to users accepting words as truth and giving them more weight (charitable), and others assign more weight to broader rhetorical pattern as truth. When these two things are out of alignment a weird intuitive feeling is provoked internally.

I've seen it previously play out like this on job sites.

I don't think it begs to be stated that some of the above is psychological guesswork - but it is a theory on how others psychologically perceive the overall interaction and ensuing dialogue. Not my own judgement or assessment personally.

At the end of the day (and if we want to be good faith and charitable) and avoid mind-reading, words should be generally accepted at face value - unless we are given good reasons not to.

I hope this gives some users some closure or understanding.

Well if we're gonna go full analyzing people's shadows here I wanna make a complaint against you as well.

I feel that many times you don't engage with the points said and run away when challenged with in depth arguments that invalidate your opinion. You try to turn it into tone policing when insult was never meant but your status was challenged and you resort to literal insults yourself.

You did it to me in this thread invalidating my points by calling it Dunning–Kruger effect and refusing to elaborate when challenged 

You did it to me in this thread as well; accusing me of being condescending while being condescending yourself. 

And multiple users have complained you backhanding insulting them on this thread here 

@questionreality Appreciate you my man. I try to add value and be objective. 

Edited 2 hours ago by LordFall

[questionreality]

2 minutes ago, LordFall said:

Well if we're gonna go full analyzing people's shadows here I wanna make a complaint against you as well.

I feel that many times you don't engage with the points said and run away when challenged with in depth arguments that invalidate your opinion. You try to turn it into tone policing when insult was never meant but your status was challenged and you resort to literal insults yourself.

You did it to me in this thread invalidating my points by calling it Dunning–Kruger effect and refusing to elaborate when challenged 

You did it to me in this thread as well; accusing me of being condescending while being condescending yourself. 

And multiple users have complained you backhanding insulting them on this thread here 

 

@LordFall She did the same thing with me. Just ignored my main point, pretended like she didn't notice it. She made me repeat it and for the 3rd time she just said "declined" and did not go any further. I thought it was just with me, but looks like it's a pattern.

[Asayake]

5 minutes ago, questionreality said:

Of course! @LordFall is a rare gem btw, his advice could not be more true. Notice how he totally ignored the @yetineti troll and recognized that he added no value.

You can't win with discussions with trolls, they force you to step down to their level and thus bring you down with them. Ignoring users like that is the best approach, it is not possible to have genuine discussions with them. 

Why are you calling him a troll when hes clearly not, i dont understand how you work