How do you lock a woman in to where she isn't thinking about anyone else but you?

[Ulax]

4 hours ago, Miguel1 said:

Now I understand why I get rejected by the models, for I am more beautiful than them 

[Ulax]

@Emerald

I would value some tips on how to be more attainable to women please

[Davino]

By loving her, and by even loving the fact that she might think of other men and leave you.

And if you love her and she still leaves, then no amount of tricks would ever hold.

[LordFall]

On 8/3/2026 at 4:13 PM, Joshe said:

Yeah, you're right, it's not always true. But take the star you're most attracted to and imagine the scenario. You might still turn it down, but surely you'd deliberate, right? lol. And depending on how things were going at the time... 

My sister wouldn't do it either. But she's one of those types of girls who once they're locked in, they're locked in. I don't think most girls are like this though. I'm sure the percentage who would turn it down increases with age/maturity. But typically, 20s and early 30s, I think it's a very high percentage. 

In my scenario, I don't think it's really about the sex, but more the prospect of a better life. I think the majority more girls would turn the offer down if there was clearly no prospect of something more than a one-night stand. Like, if the dude said he wanted to spend the next month with her to get to know her, the percentage probably skyrockets.

I've always thought it was weird how girls with boyfriends openly talk about how attracted they are to some hunk on TV. My ex and her friend used to do that all the time with Jax Teller from Sons of Anarchy. Her friend was married and had a life-sized cardboard cutout of this dude in her house that her husband had to look at everyday. lol 

Bro that's actually so fucking funny lol. Isn't that crazy though? He shoulda put a life-sized cutout of his favorite pornstar next to it.

Homeboy is lucky he grew up in the generation before Instagram because nowadays girls can just DM these celebrities and get flown out to fuck them. That's part of why the pickup movement got co-opted by Redpill/Looksmaxxing because when cold approach was being developed in the 90s and popularized before the 2010s the world was still local. It has since become global and hot girls in our cities think of their dating market as global not just you and the other dudes that she knows in that town. 

I love it, as an intellectual using my brain to get laid is much more fun than cosplaying as an extrovert to pull a girl from cold approach. It's why I was always drawn to social media and online dating game because when you figure out what works then it's immediately obvious when you see the other men hitting their head on invisible walls while you get rewarded with tight pussy as an evolutionary reward. 

Edited Wednesday at 03:44 AM by LordFall

[Joshe]

14 hours ago, LordFall said:

Bro that's actually so fucking funny lol. Isn't that crazy though? He shoulda put a life-sized cutout of his favorite pornstar next to it.

lol, it's fuckin hilarious. 

15 hours ago, LordFall said:

Homeboy is lucky he grew up in the generation before Instagram because nowadays girls can just DM these celebrities and get flown out to fuck them. That's part of why the pickup movement got co-opted by Redpill/Looksmaxxing because when cold approach was being developed in the 90s and popularized before the 2010s the world was still local. It has since become global and hot girls in our cities think of their dating market as global not just you and the other dudes that she knows in that town. 

Yeah, I've seen this but not sure how prevalent it is. Crazy how things have changed. 

14 hours ago, LordFall said:

I love it, as an intellectual using my brain to get laid is much more fun than cosplaying as an extrovert to pull a girl from cold approach.

That's my preference too. Strange how this isn't really taught that much. 

 

[AION]

On 8/4/2026 at 0:08 AM, Davino said:

By loving her, and by even loving the fact that she might think of other men and leave you.

And if you love her and she still leaves, then no amount of tricks would ever hold.

That is so true, she will see what kind of white night you are, jump on your horse, and the two of you will ride towards the sunset, happily ever after. 

[Joseph Maynor]

On 8/3/2026 at 6:35 AM, Emerald said:

What actually draws a woman to a man (and to sex more generally) is the shared intimacy and the emotional experience of sex.

I'm not sure about this.  It is deeper than this IMO.  

[Jirh]

5 minutes ago, Joseph Maynor said:

I'm not sure about this.  It is deeper than this IMO.  

It is accurate. Long term intimacy trumps everything else. Women are emotional junkies.

For the short term, yes it might be something deeper, like trauma or something else.

[Inliytened1]

On 8/2/2026 at 1:37 PM, Joshe said:

Teaching men how to get laid is backwards. They need to first be taught how to be men. I’ve never seen any material that actually teaches this plainly. The way you’d teach this is to transfer the appropriate internal responses to various situations - how to emotionally deal with things. Not just “how to respond internally”, but why. Without the why, they often just fake it. The why has to be sufficiently internalized. 

It would work the same way you teach a child to navigate their emotional landscape. Learning how to not be afraid of the dark or not cry over trivial things is no different than learning how to deal with your girlfriend making eyes at another. When you have dozens of these emotionally challenging situations solved such that you internally manage them well, you join the ranks of men. 

To work through neediness, cowardice, bitterness, jealousy, self-pity, etc. These are the trials by which you genuinely become a man women are attracted to. If you suppress these trials or continually fail at them, you will forever have to fake being a man. Teaching how to navigate these trials is IMO the highest value things you could teach regarding courtship. 

I suppose they call this “inner game”, lol. One issue with this frame is it doesn’t seem to sufficiently acknowledge the emotional fragility of men, and the term “game” gives a false sense of control over their emotions, which biases them toward conquest of their emotions rather than letting them be what they are and to endure them until they lift while in the meantime seeking a healthy resolution via reason.

Men should be taught from the outset the shape of the emotional challenges that lay ahead, and be given good resources/guidance for how to navigate them, and what proper resolution looks like.

@aurum not sure if these thoughts could be useful.

 

Yes this is very true but not how you think. They want a masculine man.  A guy who is handy. Can fix things.  Can be strong.  Caring too of course. But they need a man's man.  In the bedroom too.  That's the bottom line.  And level headed and calm.

[LordFall]

4 minutes ago, Inliytened1 said:

Yes this is very true but not how you think. They want a masculine man.  A guy who is handy. Can fix things.  Can be strong.  Caring too of course. But they need a man's man.  In the bedroom too.  That's the bottom line.  And level headed and calm.

Yes in one sentence a man that adds value to their lives and helps them solve their problems as opposed to adding new ones. 

[Inliytened1]

On 8/3/2026 at 8:35 AM, Emerald said:

One thing I would mention is that the thing that draws a woman to a man (and to sex more generally) isn't really about the physical sensations during sex or about his penis.

As a side note and caveat... Of course, orgasms are enjoyable for women. And women will want to have them during sexual encounters. And if there's a huge orgasm gap between her and her male partner, she will likely feel the unfairness of this disparity and what it means about the guy's values.

But the thing that actually makes a woman think about a man doesn't have very much to do with orgasms or the techniques he does with his penis.

What actually draws a woman to a man (and to sex more generally) is the shared intimacy and the emotional experience of sex.

So, if you have "Man #1" who is a master at sexual techniques and giving women orgasms...

And you have "Man #2" who is just okay at sex from a technical standpoint, but he's someone that the woman wants to be close to and who is able to connect to her emotionally during sex and hits the right emotional buttons...

Most women will choose "Man #2" every time.

So, it's important to recognize that women generally aren't drawn to the same things as a man is during sex.

Men and very visual and very orgasm-focused. And it's very much about the physical body of a woman in terms of what turns him on... and very much about the physical body (ejaculation) in terms of what makes it satisfying. And a man won't feel satisfied with the sex without these components.

But being too orgasm-focused or physicality-focused actually makes sex less interesting for a woman because it's too point a to point b and too material in its focus. It can feel a little "lather, rinse, repeat" to a woman, if the deeper emotional layer isn't activated.

Of course, orgasms are good and important. But they shouldn't be the primary North Star of sex, if you want it to be enjoyable for the woman.

Consider this... most men feel the drive towards orgasm daily or every other day. And men masturbate frequently when they are by themselves. And women tend to masturbate a lot less than that. I looked up the statistics, and it estimated about once per week. But even that seems a bit high to me.

So, there's just a lesser drive towards the physical sensations themselves for women.

Instead, think of the woman like an emotional instrument... like a harp. But each string on the harp is a different feeling state.

And during sex, what makes it interesting is when a guy is able to be very present and is able to operate in a way that plucks the strings skillfully. And this doesn't have much to do with sex techniques. It's really just about him being who he is in his highest integrity form.

On a physical level... there's basically only 3 ways to have sex. And on a physical level, the path to orgasm is just about sensation in the right places at the right rhythm. And women aren't as motivated to sex when sex is only that.

But on an emotional level, there are many facets to the sexual experience. And that's what women are usually looking for... and what makes her want to get closer to a man.

Men aren't really orgasm oriented. Actually.  Women are.  But you're right it's not the motion or the size that creates the orgasim, its something ineffable. It has to be the perfect storm. Like the perfect miracle that made earth inhabitable compared to billions of other planets.  It had all the ingredients. But the orgasm the woman has is the end result.  That's what locks her.  

Welcome back - it's about time.

Edited 1 hour ago by Inliytened1

[LordFall]

3 minutes ago, Inliytened1 said:

Men aren't really orgasm oriented. Actually.  Women are.  But your right its not the motion or the size that creates the orgasim, its something ineffable. But the orgasm the woman has is the end result.  That's what locks her.  

Plenty of dudes give women multiple orgasms every night and still get left, ghosted, or cheated on. Physical climax isn't a leash. If orgasms were what locked in a woman, no woman would ever leave a high-performing hookup partner.

What locks a woman in long-term is high value, safety, and emotional investment. Not just dopamine from a good orgasm and great sex. As a matter of fact there is a lot of women that don't like it when men focus on them orgasming because it makes the process mechanical and too logical as opposed to a true roller coaster of emotions which is felt throughout her life.

If you use sex as an analogy for a relationship, then bondage is kind of what they want. They want to feel an adventure that's a bit dangerous but actually safe and pushes their comfort but in way where they're in control.

Just focusing on orgasms is like doing the missionary position over and over again and she cums each time but she still dumps you because it's boring. 

[Inliytened1]

1 minute ago, LordFall said:

Plenty of dudes give women multiple orgasms every night and still get left, ghosted, or cheated on. Physical climax isn't a leash. If orgasms were what locked in a woman, no woman would ever leave a high-performing hookup partner.

What locks a woman in long-term is high value, safety, and emotional investment. Not just dopamine from a good orgasm and great sex. As a matter of fact there is a lot of women that don't like it when men focus on them orgasming because it makes the process mechanical and too logical as opposed to a true roller coaster of emotions which is felt throughout her life.

If you use sex as an analogy for a relationship, then bondage is kind of what they want. They want to feel an adventure that's a bit dangerous but actually safe and pushes their comfort but in way where they're in control.

Just focusing on orgasms is like doing the missionary position over and over again and she cums each time but she still dumps you because it's boring. 

If you're talking about soulless whores sure.  Porn stars have closed themselves off to it because orgasm is their way of living.

[Inliytened1]

3 minutes ago, LordFall said:

Plenty of dudes give women multiple orgasms every night and still get left, ghosted, or cheated on. Physical climax isn't a leash. If orgasms were what locked in a woman, no woman would ever leave a high-performing hookup partner.

What locks a woman in long-term is high value, safety, and emotional investment. Not just dopamine from a good orgasm and great sex. As a matter of fact there is a lot of women that don't like it when men focus on them orgasming because it makes the process mechanical and too logical as opposed to a true roller coaster of emotions which is felt throughout her life.

If you use sex as an analogy for a relationship, then bondage is kind of what they want. They want to feel an adventure that's a bit dangerous but actually safe and pushes their comfort but in way where they're in control.

Just focusing on orgasms is like doing the missionary position over and over again and she cums each time but she still dumps you because it's boring. 

All that means nothing if you can't make her cum

 

[LordFall]

Just now, Inliytened1 said:

If you're talking about soulless whores sure.  Porn stars have closed themselves off to it because orgasm is their way of living.

No I think it's a pretty wide generalization. Women don't care that much about the destination they want an adventure. 

"Pack your bags baby, we're leaving for Italy in 3 hours!" 

An adventure with question marks along the way but she knows its gonna be safe and awesome with you because you're the man. 

[Inliytened1]

Just now, LordFall said:

No I think it's a pretty wide generalization. Women don't care that much about the destination they want an adventure. 

"Pack your bags baby, we're leaving for Italy in 3 hours!" 

An adventure with question marks along the way but she knows its gonna be safe and awesome with you because you're the man. 

All of what you said means nothing if you can't make her cum. That's why the nice guy never wins 

 

[LordFall]

3 minutes ago, Inliytened1 said:

All of what you said means nothing if you can't make her cum. That's why the nice guy never wins 

 

Sure I'm just saying that's a low bar. Go down on her or get a vibrator if the dick doesn't work. Like 70% of women can't cum from solely vaginal sex. 

I agree that cumming in your girl while she also cums is a deep bonding experience that weighs a lot I'm just saying there is more to it then that to be attractive to a wide range of women especially if you like women who are in demand who have access to all kinds of dudes like promoters, DJs, musicians, etc that fuck a lot but aren't great relationship partners. 

Edited 1 hour ago by LordFall

[Inliytened1]

2 minutes ago, LordFall said:

Sure I'm just saying that's a low bar. Go down on her or get a vibrator if the dick doesn't work. Like 70% of women can't cum from solely vaginal sex. 

I agree that cumming in your girl while she also cums is a deep bonding experience that weighs a lot I'm just saying there is more to it then that to be attractive to a wide range of women especially if you like really women in demand that have access to all kinds of dudes like promoters, DJs, musicians, etc that fuck a lot but aren't great relationship partners. 

Sure I'm not disagreeing. Its the whole package.  If you get her in the sexual way you can do anything you want but not forever.  Eventually you can ruin that but you have to try extremely hard.  I've had women i can fuck over countless times and they will still come back. But eventually you will lose them unless they are completely codependent.  If you don't have the total package 

 

Edited 1 hour ago by Inliytened1

[LordFall]

4 minutes ago, Inliytened1 said:

Sure I'm not disagreeing. Its the whole package.  If you get her to in the sexual way you can do anything you want but not forever.  Eventually you can ruin that but you have to try extremely hard.  I've had women i can fuck over countless times and they will still come back. But eventually you will lose them unless they are completely codependent.  If you don't have the total package 

 

Yeah when you put it like that I agree.

You can't really practice sex outside of a relationship outside of doing a bunch of hookups which don't tend to produce great sex anyway from my experience so working on the package is the day to day logical move. When you're with a girl then yeah make sure she cums often and in varied ways and she'll feel like you're irreplaceable. 

Also being really attracted to the girl you're fucking makes for better sex I find since you become an animal and ravish her and that comes from having a high SMV to be able to pull hotties. I've banged girls I was not really into and like sometimes I can't even stay hard cuz I don't actually wanna be there and start questioning my decisions in the middle of it and it makes the process even softer  . Also it makes it so I really want them to leave where as if I'm really into the girl I can fuck 3-4 times and afterwards we just collapse into bliss and pass out together even if I barely know her. 

Edited 1 hour ago by LordFall

[Inliytened1]

6 minutes ago, LordFall said:

Yeah when you put it like that I agree.

You can't really practice sex outside of a relationship outside of doing a bunch of hookups which don't tend to produce great sex anyway from my experience so working on the package is the day to day logical move. When you're with a girl then yeah make sure she cums often and in varied ways and she'll feel like you're irreplaceable. 

Also being really attracted to the girl you're fucking makes for better sex I find since you become an animal and ravish her and that comes from having a high SMV to be able to pull hotties. I've banged girls I was not really into and like sometimes I can't even stay hard cuz I don't actually wanna be there and start questioning my decisions in the middle of it and it makes the process even softer  . Also it makes it so I really want them to leave where as if I'm really into the girl I can fuck 3-4 times and afterwards we just collapse into bliss and pass out together even if I barely know her. 

It's a natural ability i believe.  It really is.  If you have to practice sex you've already lost.

Edited 1 hour ago by Inliytened1