The myth of “don’t give a fuck” energy attracting women

[Hojo]

25 minutes ago, Emotionalmosquito said:

But LordFall, that’s exactly what I’m doing. When I’m approaching I’m “self amusing,” another helpful thing the pickup crowd advises. I’m not looking for her to validate jack shit. I’m talking about what I find funny or interesting, yet it gets me no dates. 

Yes but you are getting angry. that means you are 'trying' to not give a fuck and thats not not giving a fuck. This will give so many tells to the woman as you are not being spontaneous about not giving a fuck. You are trying to not care and that dosent work cause by trying to not care is showing you care way more than someone who is trying to care.

You saying, this is not working is another tell. Whats not working? You clearly give a fuck and have a goal in mind.

Edited 1 hour ago by Hojo

[LordFall]

1 hour ago, Emotionalmosquito said:

But LordFall, that’s exactly what I’m doing. When I’m approaching I’m “self amusing,” another helpful thing the pickup crowd advises. I’m not looking for her to validate jack shit. I’m talking about what I find funny or interesting, yet it gets me no dates. To give some examples I’ll answer @amberlight’s question 

Yes I’m quite sure the reason I’m failing (when doing the dgaf method) is in fact because I come off as unhinged or creepy. That’s my entire point. Why should that matter if I’m supposed to not care what others think of me? 
 
As for your question:
I talked to a cutie working the register at an empty shop in the mall about how cool I think it would be to get naked and crawl up a dragon’s vagina and birth myself back out, I probably had more detail at the time but I do remember it was something along those lines. A woman at a bar with her friend told me she was married, to which I replied, “A ring don’t cover a hole.” My most recent was a month or two ago at the carnival. I opened a cute blonde with her friend by saying “don’t go into that portapotty. I just had a fat miscarriage in there, it’s pretty messy.” I was expecting them to look horrified but much to my shock they were receptive to the dork humor. They were like “good to know.” Then I said “just kidding I’m still pregnant with it”. This started a surprisingly lasting interaction that evolved into other areas where she just played into the bit continuously, but eventually they fist bumped me and left. Keep in mind I only open women this way as my own form of shit test to see if she’s some preppy little snowflake who will run away scared or can actually banter and because it’s the most fun. Not because I’m craving validation for being a character. Problem is, you say that type of shit at a pussy ass bar or club and you’re gone

Well the good news is that your problem is easily diagnosable my friend. You mostly lack calibration and flow in your game. 

A cold approach should basically go opener -> hook -> DHV -> asking her questions -> Teasing her -> screening for logistics -> instant date/pulling/get the IG close

If you use some principle like not giving a fuck without the proper sequence to frame it in then sure it will be unhinged or creepy.

You want your self amusing to be part of the hook/dhv/teasing her. You can try it straight from the open but that's mostly not gonna work as well as being calibrated for 5 seconds then saying something funny or weird. The unhinged shit is the push part and the pull is you being a genuinely interesting and charming man.

Try this format and report back. The cold approaching stats are pretty standardizable. For every about 10-40 approaches depending on how you look and your game level you will get an IG close and from there it should be about 1/3 turning dates and 30-60% of those turning into sex. Where would you say that your numbers are dropping off?