Most Dating Books/Teachers Aren't Exceptional

[Jirh]

14 minutes ago, Miguel1 said:

I have trained my brain to view them as children.

Maybe you should undo that training.

[Miguel1]

@Jirh I don’t see a reason for us to continue our conversation. There are much higher things to life than just following your taste buds unconsciously.

[Jirh]

20 minutes ago, Miguel1 said:

There are much higher things to life than just following your taste buds unconsciously.

I agree. Never implied otherwise.

I'm just saying maybe you should examine that "holier than thou" attitude of yours, and in effect withdraw the judgement about younger people.

You don't hate your childhood to become an adult. You integrate it. It becomes part of who you are, not the shadow you're scared of.

[Miguel1]

@Jirh It’s interesting when some of you think that I have a ”holier than thou” attitude. Becareful it is not a defence mechanism from you, a projection perhaps.

I used to have no problems seducing girls in relationships to cheat on their partners with me, and even got excited from it. I had many rationalizations for it,

Nowadays, if I find out that a girl is even willing to entertain such an idea, I get turned off.

Just because I have genuinely matured, does not mean that I have a bigger ego. It is ridiculous that this is even such a big problem with some of you guys.

[Jirh]

1 hour ago, Miguel1 said:

@Jirh It’s interesting when some of you think that I have a ”holier than thou” attitude. Becareful it is not a defence mechanism from you, a projection perhaps.

Why would it be a defence mechanism? I don't even know you or care about you per se. I'm just saying what I'm seeing.

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I used to have no problems seducing girls in relationships to cheat on their partners with me, and even got excited from it. I had many rationalizations for it,

Lack of integrity is not immaturity. It's corruption.

A child can have integrity, and an adult can be corrupt. The two are not mutually exclusive categories, they can overlap or exist separately. Immaturity doesn't guarantee corruption, and corruption doesn't require immaturity. Childhood is a phase of development, corruption is a choice.

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Just because I have genuinely matured, does not mean that I have a bigger ego. It is ridiculous that this is even such a big problem with some of you guys.

You were a corrupt child, and now you're no longer a child.

Saying "I was young, I'm more mature now." does not magically absolve you and cure you from corruption. Rather, it distracts from the actual work. You may be less corrupt now, but you can't call your past corruption immaturity just because it happened in parallel with it.

Edited 41 minutes ago by Jirh