Most Dating Books/Teachers Aren't Exceptional

[Ulax]

6 hours ago, Jirh said:

Me too, somehow, but it aged me backwards 😂

loool

[something_else]

1 hour ago, AION said:

If we use that definition, everybody has some bias including women. Because I don't see women looking at men from men's POV

Yea, that was the exact point being made. Most people are incredibly biased. That's the default. 

Being wise involves being acutely aware of your own biases, not denying their existence or claiming that you're above them. That is delusion.

Bias is incredibly subtle and tricky. It grabs the balls of your rational mind and puts them in a vice, then forces it to produce an endless stream of very logical reasons for why your biases are the right biases.

Edited 29 minutes ago by something_else

[AION]

3 minutes ago, something_else said:

Yea, that was the exact point being made. Most people are incredibly biased. That's the default. 

Being wise involves being acutely aware of your own biases, not denying their existence or claiming that you're above them. That is delusion.

Bias is incredibly subtle and tricky. It grabs the balls of your rational mind and puts them in a vice, then forces it to produce an endless stream of very logical reasons for why your biases are the right biases.

Everybody has a bias for survival. And it is ok to know that and also ok to act upon that. So if somebody comes inside of your room and tries to rape your ass it is ok to defend yourself and act upon your bias for survival. I think you guys are conflating a lot of things. 

[Miguel1]

14 minutes ago, AION said:

So if somebody comes inside of your room and tries to rape your ass it is ok to defend yourself and act upon your bias for survival.

The problem comes when you act this way even in a normal comfortable situation, because your mind is just that biased.