This 600 pound guy has a Girlfriend

[Natasha Tori Maru]

16 minutes ago, LordFall said:

I don’t mean it’s necessary unstable just that it’s not for everyone and I recommend people experiment with alternative relationship types if they feel drawn towards it. 

Okay. That's a different claim to the original one - but thanks for clarifying!

[PenguinPablo]

4 hours ago, integral said:

I don't see why my life needs to be lived as some indirect Pursuit to just get more sex.

Make more money to get more sex.

Learn to socialize better to get more sex.

Increase inteligence to get more sex.

Take psychedelics to awaken to get more sex.

I will not spend my life this way.

Having that type of integrity is integral.

At the end of the day you’ll never be authentically yourself if you live that way, trying to morph yourself into something in order to get love from the world.

Like Oliver Tree said “Ugly is Beautiful”

It’s about accepting who and what you are. 
 

Do I look down on the geeky autistic guy that cannot socialize on a level playing field just because he can’t get laid like a frat dude?

Of course not… that’s preposterous and I would argue a futile pursuit for many guys like that.

Do I look down on them?

Or do I respect there individuality? Which looks different for every person, of course 

[NewKidOnTheBlock]

Seems like piggie managed to escape the farm, this isn't his natural habitat

[Jirh]

[integral]

11 hours ago, PenguinPablo said:

Having that type of integrity is integral.

At the end of the day you’ll never be authentically yourself if you live that way, trying to morph yourself into something in order to get love from the world.

Like Oliver Tree said “Ugly is Beautiful”

It’s about accepting who and what you are. 
 

Do I look down on the geeky autistic guy that cannot socialize on a level playing field just because he can’t get laid like a frat dude?

Of course not… that’s preposterous and I would argue a futile pursuit for many guys like that.

Do I look down on them?

Or do I respect there individuality? Which looks different for every person, of course 

I think there was a bit of a misunderstanding, I'm all for self development, and if you've never had a girlfriend and these things really bother you you have to go and do the work to try to resolve this.

I meant it like people who do it in excess and their whole life is just to get more sex, These pickup guys that are in the club every week and they just want to sleep with as many women as possible, the only reason they want a successful business is to get more status to get more sex.

Like your whole life purpose is just relationships and sex and everything else is a indirect way to get it

[Carl-Richard]

19 hours ago, Yimpa said:

Is he still alive?

And how does he shower or take a bath? 

Edit: Found out he died back in 2020

Just a little too late for Ozempic, or just fast a little.

Imagine choosing death over fasting a little or eating some veggies.

Edited 14 hours ago by Carl-Richard

[Carl-Richard]

23 hours ago, aurum said:

The Coolidge effect only matters when you introduce a new partner.

Your harem partners are not new or novel. You will have had sex with them tons of times and will have normalized to it all, in the same way that you normalize to one partner in monogamy.

Adding a new partner in a harem is rare.

Additionally, if you are relying on the Coolidge effect for your sex drive, what about the rest of the women in your harem? They will be unsatisfied. You'd mostly only be interested in hooking up with the new girl.

The initial question was about having sex more often, not specifically "sex drive". More women = higher seduction rates, plus you can simply build up a habit of having more sex even if you're not feeling it very much, just like some people have a habit of jerking it every night even if they're soft.

Edited 9 hours ago by Carl-Richard

[LordFall]

This is a good video on the upsides of doing geo-arbitrage i.e. international living and dating 

 

The quality of life that you can get yourself is much higher than in the west. 

Edited 9 hours ago by LordFall

[Mayonnaise]

@bazera

On 6/25/2026 at 1:32 AM, bazera said:

How do you manage having multiple girlfriends? Do they know about each other? How do you even find girls who are okay with that?

Even having one girlfriend was sometimes pain in the ass, can't imagine more then one.

Yeah, they should know about each other. It would prob be best to have a main wife, and then other girlfriends on the side. There are plenty of women out there who are ok with that. But its all about frame. She'd have to know who you are and what you're about. If you're monogamous initially then try to open it after to see other women, it will backfire badly. The proper frame and context has to be from the start before you get serious time investment. And in terms of managing , i'd just say see each girl once a week. Typically though you should always let her be the one to future pace. as in "where is this going?, what are we?" etc. then you can lay it out as best as you can while aiming to be considerate for her emotional state as well. Because at the same time you don't want to blatantly make them feel used. There are different types of relationships, all defined by the level of time investment. For example , a fuckbuddy is someone you meet once a week just for sex, you dont go out on dates (besides the initial meet if necessary), and you could have other girls to "date" where you might do other things with them outside the bedroom. And then you have serious time investment with a woman that you live with essentially (same thing as marriage minus the contract). 

as a side note: I watched a video the other day that explained very well that when you ask a guy "what do you have to do to make women attracted to you?" its referring to how to get them to want to have sex with you. where as if that same exact question was asked to a woman "what makes you attracted to a man?" its referring to what makes the best husband/provider. Women do not tell you upfront what makes them want to fuck a guy, they tell you what will make the best husband/father/provider. And those two things are completely opposite. The guys they want to fuck fast versus make him wait comes down to how controllable he is and how many other options he has. Not morality. The more options you have as a man the more indifferent you naturally are, making them want to do sex faster because he can go off with someone else, where the less options you have, the more compliant you are to her demands ,etc. pressing the make him wait button. But of course there is a spectrum, some women have rules before they have sex with a guy, so it really depends, but typically thats how it goes. More compliance = make him wait, less compliance = give him sex. Women are not sexually attracted to a man's morality whatsoever . they will not get horny because you are "a good person". But they are attracted to that for a husband/provider

[PenguinPablo]

@integral I dont even necessarily believe in self development very much.

I think its about removing all the excess BS and striving, till there is nothing left but your essence.

I think a lot of people have that. Like their own signature. 

Irrespective of how unglamourous what remains is. 

Self acceptance so deep and pervasive that all striving and seeking ends.

Just at peace with yourself.

I think from here a better life will flow to you anyways and it might not necessarily be a crazy social life, dating, millionaire status.

I see a lot of people go for the end result, the outcome and the more I get to know them, the less I want to be like them. In fact, I feel bad. 

Then there's guys that dont have any of those high status indicators or lifestyle but they have real friendship and family -- loved ones.

I think its important to understand what type of game we're playing.

Edited 5 hours ago by PenguinPablo

[bazera]

@Mayonnaise But how will that main wife be okay with you having other girlfriends?

Would you be okay if she had other boyfriends? 

[Leo Gura]

28 minutes ago, bazera said:

But how will that main wife be okay with you having other girlfriends?

It's called building a rotation.

Girls drop out of the rotation after a while and the guy replaces them.

[LordFall]

4 hours ago, PenguinPablo said:

@integral I dont even necessarily believe in self development very much.

I think its about removing all the excess BS and striving, till there is nothing left but your essence.

I think a lot of people have that. Like their own signature. 

Irrespective of how unglamourous what remains is. 

Self acceptance so deep and pervasive that all striving and seeking ends.

Just at peace with yourself.

I think from here a better life will flow to you anyways and it might not necessarily be a crazy social life, dating, millionaire status.

I see a lot of people go for the end result, the outcome and the more I get to know them, the less I want to be like them. In fact, I feel bad. 

Then there's guys that dont have any of those high status indicators or lifestyle but they have real friendship and family -- loved ones.

I think its important to understand what type of game we're playing.

Just be careful of this self-development is relative mindset. If the goal of life would be to just remain ourselves perhaps we'd still be a non physical spirit and not individual beings. All of reality is built on evolution. From the time you were born you didn't know how to speak and write, you had to self-develop to learn english. Know your own goals and don't let other people impose theirs on you but it is foolish to think you can live your greatest life potential without self-development. 

1 hour ago, bazera said:

@Mayonnaise But how will that main wife be okay with you having other girlfriends?

Would you be okay if she had other boyfriends? 

Your main wife should ideally be bisexual and enjoy seeing new women alongside you. 

 

[bazera]

35 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

It's called building a rotation.

Girls drop out of the rotation after a while and the guy replaces them.

So those girls are all aware that they are in some kind of a "rotation". If that works for them, fine. My point was that I don't think many girls will be okay with that, especially once they become your wife. But hey, I haven't had that experience, nor ever had a wife, so it's hard to say.

That's just very unusual around me as I look at people that I know in my life.