Do Women Prefer Long Hair or Short Hair on Men?

[Zenterus]

Just now, LordFall said:

@Zenterus Yeah I know I'm huge on social circle game and social media to scale your impact. I host events in different cities across Canada and soon to scale to the US later in the year. Power, money and status are much more important to dating than looks. Looks matter as well. I know I've tried the difference. When I looksmaxxed I've had girls come to me in the club saying wow you're like really hot and when I don't it doesn't happen.

All this stuff about not worrying about being attractive and focusing on yourself has a solid foundation of reality  on it and layers of cope on top of it in my experience. Most guys I see saying they've evolved past game have mostly given up with no results to show for it or settled in a mediocre relationship. If you're different feel free to share. I don't really value opinions or philosophies these days, even my own, only results. 

From your paradigm it sure sounds like cope.

When a fish hears the bird can breathe outside of the water, it thinks its delusional until it evolves to be able to do so as well or bares witness to it.

[bazera]

13 hours ago, LordFall said:

t's not that expensive and only takes like 6 months to heal and regrow to more than you had before. Also harmless.

Finasteride famously has a wierd side-effect in some men that it affects libido and erections poorly.

Would you take that risk?

You'll need finasteride to be able to maintain transplanted hair as well.

 

[Valach]

1 hour ago, Zenterus said:

@LordFall Brother, what I'm about to say is gonna come across as if I'm talking down on you when I'm really not -- there's a lot that i respect about you based on what you shared about your dating journey.

However, I've been where you're mentally and while it is true that working on your looks does get you better initial attraction online and in-person -- getting a hair transplant, for example -- it actually hinders your power long term because you're building an identity that's fueled by how attractive you are to women, which is weak at its core.

One of my biggest insights during my journey to transcend pickup was the fact that you cannot be at your most powerful as a man when you're valuing how attractive you are to women. The most powerful, attractive men are men who dont give a fuck and are, therefore, more unique, polarizing and cultivated as individuals because they cultivated their own personality according to THEIR values, interests, sense of humour, etc.

This is what makes a leader. A man who is so unique, authentic and resolute in his being that some might think he is weird, or unrelatable, but others are completely mesmerized by him.

You cannot be a man like that when caring about "how attractive you are" to women.

Yes, work on yourself. Have basic hygiene. Groom yourself. Make some money so that you're not homeless, etc etc. Take care of the very basics, but after that, just cultivate the experience of YOU.

You cannot do that while caring how women perceive you. This is the type of "game" you develop after you transcend the desire to game or attract women or have a strong desire for sex.

It's the ultimate frame control. You're one of one.

You do this right and your biggest problem will be that communities and people start forming around you to such an extend that it resembles a cult.

 

 

Fascinating. I attended a healing retreat on attachment and almost word-to-word this is what the "therapist" said on the retreat. He did not view it in the sense of attraction since he is not involved in PUA but this is how he described a "healthy person". Interestingly, he also told me that he numerously saw that as people healed through their inner work, their sex drives dropped - often massively. 

[Zenterus]

7 minutes ago, Valach said:

Fascinating. I attended a healing retreat on attachment and almost word-to-word this is what the "therapist" said on the retreat. He did not view it in the sense of attraction since he is not involved in PUA but this is how he described a "healthy person". Interestingly, he also told me that he numerously saw that as people healed through their inner work, their sex drives dropped - often massively. 

Very interesting point around sex drive because I actually do feel less horny now than I did when i was deep in pickup.

In fact, I know somebody who also used to be obsessed with PUA and transcended it years before me and he also mentioned that when a person is wounded, their body tricks itself into feeling more lustful than it actually is in order to motivate itself to go out and get the validation that the subconscious wound craves.

In retrospect, I can totally see that being the case.

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[Valach]

13 minutes ago, Zenterus said:

Very interesting point around sex drive because I actually do feel less horny now than I did when i was deep in pickup.

In fact, I know somebody who also used to be obsessed with PUA and transcended it years before me and he also mentioned that when a person is wounded, their body tricks itself into feeling more lustful than it actually is in order to motivate itself to go out and get the validation that the subconscious wound craves.

In retrospect, I can totally see that being the case.

Yeah, that is what the guy saud. The inner wound creates a general sense of anxiety and the feeling of not being safe. One of the ways to cope with this is to get the validation of another human being, the more attractive this human being is, the better soothing this wound gets. Once you began to heal this wound you might find yourself with way lower sex drive. But I am still on the journey - though I totally can say that sex is way more psychological than physical.