What are you proud of?

[Natasha Tori Maru]

@LoneWonderer I'll add that the process was slow. Very painful. Uncomfortable.

Lots of emotional issues came up through it. I don't know why getting into business and making a career did this for me. I'm still trying to work it out 🥹

But it has been the best thing for me spiritually. Strangely.

Edited 4 hours ago by Natasha Tori Maru

[LoneWonderer]

10 minutes ago, Natasha Tori Maru said:

@LoneWonderer I'll add that the process was slow. Very painful. Uncomfortable.

Lots of emotional issues came up through it. 

Was this something that you forced upon yourself or was growth forced upon you eventually (like all the hens came home to roost typa deal)? I ask because I see it very difficult for me to go at it alone unless change in this domain is literally forced upon me by the hand of god himself! (Jk about the god part, but yeah I see it very difficult to change by my own will).

Also in regards to business, I know you have previously mentioned on this forum that it's a family business. If it had not been for a family and strong support network, would you say you'd have had the will to go at it in business alone? Would you still have been in the place of growth today had your circumstances not have been that you started the business with people you love and that support you? 

Edited 4 hours ago by LoneWonderer

[Natasha Tori Maru]

25 minutes ago, LoneWonderer said:

Was this something that you forced upon yourself or was growth forced upon you eventually (like all the hens came home to roost typa deal)? I ask because I see it very difficult for me to go at it alone unless change in this domain is literally forced upon me by the hand of god himself! (Jk about the god part, but yeah I see it very difficult to change by my own will).

Also in regards to business, I know you have previously mentioned on this forum that it's a family business. If it had not been for a family and strong support network, would you say you'd have had the will to go at it in business alone? Would you still have been in the place of growth today had your circumstances not have been that you started the business with people you love and that support you? 

Definitely felt like it was externally forced. 

I would never have chosen to engage in a business, let alone construction. Literally the opportunity came up and I just thought 'why the fuck not?'. But I had to be in a place to even want to accept the opportunity.

I wouldn't have been able to do this without nepotism. Learning from someone with 40 years of commercial construction experience. But also, I am proficient at the role, and excel without feeling like I force myself. So I am not in this position without some merit. I was selected for the role because I had a mechanical problem solving mind. Resiliance. Positivity. Persistence. 

Combined with being a woman - I think I had a unique advantage there.

So there is some luck involved. Some blessings. But I had to do the work on my end and learn on the job. And fast. No education. Sink or swim. Regardless of it being a family business, if I failed in the role I would have gotten the axe.

Edited 3 hours ago by Natasha Tori Maru

[LoneWonderer]

3 minutes ago, Natasha Tori Maru said:

Definitely felt like it was externally forced. 

I would never have chosen to engage in a business, let alone construction. Literally the opportunity came up and I just thought 'why the fuck not?'. But I had to be in a place to even want to accept the opportunity.

I wouldn't have been able to do this without nepotism. Learning from someone with 40 years of commercial construction experience. But also, I am proficient at the role, and excel without feeling like I force myself. So I am not in this position without some merit. I was selected for the role because I had a mechanical problem solving mind. Resiliance. Positivity. Persistence. 

Combined with being a woman - I think I had a unique advantage there.

So there is some luck involved. Some blessings. But I had to do the work on my end and learn on the job. And fast. No education. Sink or swim. Regardless of it being a family business, if I failed in the role I would have gotten the axe.

Thank you for sharing. Sounds like it's the right role for you and like you've found your purpose in it. 🙏

[Natasha Tori Maru]

@LoneWonderer keep floating on through life - your current path is rock solid if you ask me. There is not right or wrong. See where it takes you. 

My only advice would be to consider seriously all opportunities that come by, no matter how unappealing they may appear 😁