Just Went Through A Breakup, Need Some Certainty

[Ryan M]

I just broke up with my girlfriend that i've been with for 5 years and honestly one of the hardest part about it is not knowing when I'll find a new girlfriend. It's not something I'm trying to rush into as fast as possible, I realize I need some time, but I feel like as a guy it's easy to think that the rest of my life will be nothing but struggle and rejections when it comes to dating lol. I have a lot going for me -- I live in Las Vegas, 33 years old, good looking, make multiple 6 figures online and can basically do anything at anytime, but I'm wondering how I'm even supposed to meet a bunch of attractive girls that I could go on some dates with.. Am I supposed to supposed to find wingmen and talk to 100s or 1000s of girls on Fremont and on the strip just to have a dating life? The only way I could see a guy getting girls is to life a pickup-artist lifestyle where you go out of your way to talk to an insane amount of girls, or have some big advantage like working in nightlife basically. Anything online isn't very useful because it's not like you can match with attractive girls on dating apps or DM girls on Instagram and expect them to respond really lol. Being a single guy is so weird, even when I have a lot going for myself, I feel like the only path is to start doing pickup which feels kind of low value in a way. Other than that I can try to make a bunch of friends and meet girls through a social circle but that seems like a low probability way to meet a girl that's just your type. What should I do and what should be my mindset throughout all of this to have any sort of confidence that it will all work out?

[aurum]

@Ryan M If you make that much money, you should be able to set up a social circle situation.

Network in Vegas and use your money to attend events where you can meet women. You could also host events.

Get creative.

 

[Raze]

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Edited Wednesday at 11:15 PM by Raze

[CARDOZZO]

Making 6 figures online and living in the US? Think about moving out or travelling a bit.

Colombia, Brazil, Eastern Europe, Indonesia, Taiwan.

You will have a lot of fun on this places.

[Hojo]

@Ryan M figure out which groups have the most women in them and join them and act interested.

Smile the whole time and say im so excited to be here. This is so interesting.

Then trip over your own shoe lace make a big scene and say darn it.

Edited Thursday at 01:23 AM by Hojo

[theleelajoker]

10 hours ago, Ryan M said:

I just broke up with my girlfriend that i've been with for 5 years and honestly one of the hardest part about it is not knowing when I'll find a new girlfriend.

My 50 cents:

Your problem and your solution lies in this first sentence. 

Forget about else you wrote, that's just stories you adapted to distract yourself. 

Edited Thursday at 04:54 AM by theleelajoker

[Lyubov]

The only certainty we get in life is god. Align with this truth, grieve the change, and allow for a new chapter to begin 

[meta_male]

Give yourself some time to heal and get comfortable with not knowing. Notice how when you had a girlfriend that certainty was mostly an illusion. You will have a girlfriend again but no relationship removes uncertainty.

15 hours ago, Ryan M said:

The only way I could see a guy getting girls is to life a pickup-artist lifestyle where you go out of your way to talk to an insane amount of girls, or have some big advantage like working in nightlife basically.

That's just one narrative and not a very accurate one, it's mostly anxiety speaking.

[Nick_98]

On 14/01/2026 at 8:30 PM, Ryan M said:

I just broke up with my girlfriend that i've been with for 5 years and honestly one of the hardest part about it is not knowing when I'll find a new girlfriend. It's not something I'm trying to rush into as fast as possible, I realize I need some time, but I feel like as a guy it's easy to think that the rest of my life will be nothing but struggle and rejections when it comes to dating lol. I have a lot going for me -- I live in Las Vegas, 33 years old, good looking, make multiple 6 figures online and can basically do anything at anytime, but I'm wondering how I'm even supposed to meet a bunch of attractive girls that I could go on some dates with.. Am I supposed to supposed to find wingmen and talk to 100s or 1000s of girls on Fremont and on the strip just to have a dating life? The only way I could see a guy getting girls is to life a pickup-artist lifestyle where you go out of your way to talk to an insane amount of girls, or have some big advantage like working in nightlife basically. Anything online isn't very useful because it's not like you can match with attractive girls on dating apps or DM girls on Instagram and expect them to respond really lol. Being a single guy is so weird, even when I have a lot going for myself, I feel like the only path is to start doing pickup which feels kind of low value in a way. Other than that I can try to make a bunch of friends and meet girls through a social circle but that seems like a low probability way to meet a girl that's just your type. What should I do and what should be my mindset throughout all of this to have any sort of confidence that it will all work out?

I’m sorry you had to go through a breakup.

my advice to you is to relax.. it is not the end of the world! Take a break from searching for a girl you need a break you can’t let these thoughts of wanting to get a rebound control you relax relax relax you need to relax😁

[Ramasta9]

On 1/15/2026 at 5:30 AM, Ryan M said:

I just broke up with my girlfriend that i've been with for 5 years and honestly one of the hardest part about it is not knowing when I'll find a new girlfriend. It's not something I'm trying to rush into as fast as possible, I realize I need some time, but I feel like as a guy it's easy to think that the rest of my life will be nothing but struggle and rejections when it comes to dating lol. I have a lot going for me -- I live in Las Vegas, 33 years old, good looking, make multiple 6 figures online and can basically do anything at anytime, but I'm wondering how I'm even supposed to meet a bunch of attractive girls that I could go on some dates with.. Am I supposed to supposed to find wingmen and talk to 100s or 1000s of girls on Fremont and on the strip just to have a dating life? The only way I could see a guy getting girls is to life a pickup-artist lifestyle where you go out of your way to talk to an insane amount of girls, or have some big advantage like working in nightlife basically. Anything online isn't very useful because it's not like you can match with attractive girls on dating apps or DM girls on Instagram and expect them to respond really lol. Being a single guy is so weird, even when I have a lot going for myself, I feel like the only path is to start doing pickup which feels kind of low value in a way. Other than that I can try to make a bunch of friends and meet girls through a social circle but that seems like a low probability way to meet a girl that's just your type. What should I do and what should be my mindset throughout all of this to have any sort of confidence that it will all work out?

Sorry to hear this, I will give you some pointers though. The point in relationships is to help one another rise and eventually walk as individuals on ones own two feet, not to replace the last girl with the next, cause then its a cycle, and you trade yourself for someone else, the point is to remember the love we have for each other and aim that back at yourself without getting attached to the "other" as the sole cause of the "love you feel" because its you who loves that person so much as they reflect another aspect of yourself you can literally make physical love with which causes the entanglement and attachment and i feel that's where most of us get into trouble, including myself. I am still mastering this art too and I know how hard, painful and challenging it can be, but those moments when you truly reunite with your true sovereign self again, no other person can ever place that, if anything they only get in the way and dilutes your power, love and purity. The point is to rise above being single and not single, but to be freely and dangerously yourself, as an individual, and partners come and go, but you remain free and whole, this is the highest form of love and relationship, a type of union and marriage with self. This may be a bit far fetched and spiritually advanced but I believe its the inevitable path of Self-mastery for all of us.

I only make the lower 5 figures and not worried at all, if that makes you feel better