Is socialization the key to have a romantic relationship?

[Never_give_up]

I go to certain clubs lately and socialize more than i have ever done in my whole life and I already meet a lot of people and women too. Most women ignore me but some are very polite and want to talk to me. It's like what Leo says that socializing gives you the opportunity to meet many people. 

I start to think that some day I am going to meet a woman and get to know her naturally and maybe it will evolve in something more. It almost seems not that difficult anymore (but time will tell). 

 

Is my intuition right? Is socialization the key to meet women and have a relationship?

[Schizophonia]

Women are mirrors.
You can't make huge quantum leaps, so socializing allows you to shift your frequency gradually, over a few hours, but in the same time in a particularly strong way.

Edited 2 hours ago by Schizophonia

[Leo Gura]

How else could it be??

[Sugarcoat]

Yes I think it’s good idea 

I find one challenge with socializing tho is that if you’re not naturally very social (gain a lot of dopamine from social interactions in general) then you’re gonna be quite selective about which people you click with, you’re only gonna gain significant satisfaction and feel flow when you click with someone

So when you meet people you’ll gonna go through a lot of convos that you feel aren’t flowing so good and you don’t click with them. And at times it can feel discouraging. But you gotta keep going because eventually you’ll find that person you click with well

 

Edited 2 hours ago by Sugarcoat

[NewKidOnTheBlock]

There's gotta be a more customized way to go about this rather than go to some fuckin clubs and try to do some fucken small talk or perform rizz, the way socialization works nowadays is completely fucked imo. It doesn't help how disguisting all of these places are

All party places are such a nasty peasant places to be in. Can't believe most people don't care but they really don't. LoL

Edited 1 hour ago by NewKidOnTheBlock

[aurum]

Of course.

It's very easy to believe your problem isn't being attractive enough, when in reality you're just not socializing enough.

 Socialization not only gives you actual opportunities, but also calibrates you over time if you learn the lessons.

[koops]

Yes, but if you are attractive you can use tinder or Instagram also.

Get a date ASAP and follow up from there in real life.

 

[AION]

3 minutes ago, NewKidOnTheBlock said:

There's gotta be a more customized way to go about this rather than go to some fuckin clubs and try to do some fucken small talk or perform rizz, the way socialization works nowadays is completely fucked imo. It doesn't help how disguisting all of these places are

It is funny because the music is so loud it is hard to understand each other. But on the other hand what you say is the least important anyway.

[NewKidOnTheBlock]

7 minutes ago, AION said:

It is funny because the music is so loud it is hard to understand each other. But on the other hand what you say is the least important anyway.

That's probably true althought I find it difficult to truly embody that since in most regular social situations what you say does actually matter a fair bit. Not sure about this PUA principle to be honest lol. But maybe it matters much less when music is loud and everyone around you is an effed up lib (most likely lol) ehm.. intelectual

[Miguel1]

Verbal game is a legit thing.

[AerisVahnEphelia]

2 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

How else could it be??

I know lot of people who find love on discord.

you guys have peasant dark age game.

how would you go out find your type, if you go in place that aren't your thing.

geography is the best way to fail at finding a good relationship.

value >>> all

if you want love, you'll never ever find it in your area, maybe even in your country.
 

Edited 28 minutes ago by AerisVahnEphelia

[something_else]

1 hour ago, Sugarcoat said:

So when you meet people you’ll gonna go through a lot of convos that you feel aren’t flowing so good and you don’t click with them. And at times it can feel discouraging. But you gotta keep going because eventually you’ll find that person you click with well

 

Exactly. This was one of the biggest insights I had regarding social skills. Eventually I realised that when this happens it is not a reflection on my own worth or social skills, it’s just a lack of chemistry. It isn’t my own fault.

Some people you will have chemistry with and some you will not. When you don’t have chemistry with a person 90% of the time it isn’t because you’ve done anything wrong, it’s just not meant to be.

[Peo]

12 minutes ago, AerisVahnEphelia said:

I know lot of people who find love on discord.

Leo said, that if you use online dating you are lazy. Must agree there. Face to face is much better, but also will be a challange so you can grow your social skills.

Also it rather difficult to read human body language through discord. 

 

[Leo Gura]

15 minutes ago, AerisVahnEphelia said:

I know lot of people who find love on discord.

Pathetic.

[something_else]

2 hours ago, NewKidOnTheBlock said:

There's gotta be a more customized way to go about this rather than go to some fuckin clubs and try to do some fucken small talk or perform rizz, the way socialization works nowadays is completely fucked imo. It doesn't help how disguisting all of these places are

All party places are such a nasty peasant places to be in. Can't believe most people don't care but they really don't. LoL

Clubs and bars can be pretty scummy and yes, the learning curve is steep if you’re starting from zero social skills. But the whole point is to push your comfort zone. That’s part of what makes them great for this as well, if you can be sociable there you can be sociable anywhere.

Bars/clubs also have many other advantages if you wanna build your social skills. Some that come to mind:

• Nobody is really going to remember if you say something slightly weird because everybody is drinking and the environment is generally pretty relaxed/casual. You have a lot more leeway to just be yourself without any consequences of acting a bit weird
• It’s very socially acceptable to talk to strangers
• There are so many people there that you WILL find people you get on with if you talk to enough people
• Once you get into a good frame of mind and you’re with some friends, they are actually very fun places to be, esp if the music is good

Edited 10 minutes ago by something_else

[Schizophonia]

5 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

Pathetic.

What is the problem