Dating as a low value man is inevitably painful

[LordFall]

This is generally a red pill topic but I find can also be deeply spiritual. Most men and a lot of the comments and the post I see on this forum come from a low value mindset and perspective. Your viewpoint thus is corrupted because the problems that you complain about are more based on macroeconomics and personal responsibility than actual dating and cultural trends worth addressing. 

Have a career/business that allows you some financial independence and pleasant lifestyle and work on your emotional trauma and communication skill and you'll have an infinitely abundant dating life and rise above 90% of the problems the average man has to deal with. 

[Tudo]

Not just a low value man, I would dare to say that if you aren’t in the top 5%, or lucky enough to have had a high school or college crush who really liked you and eventually became your girlfriend and later your wife, dating as a man is pretty hard.

A average man have to deal so much with rejection. Most women can't even imagine what it is really like.

Edited 9 hours ago by Tudo

[Leo Gura]

Life is inevitably painful.

Suck it up and talk to girls.

[Princess Arabia]

2 hours ago, Tudo said:

A average man have to deal so much with rejection. Most women can't even imagine what it is really like.

......,and this is the issue with men who think like this. That women don't have their share of issues and challenges in the dating world. Way more than feeling like someone doesn't even know your last name said no just like a prospective employer may choose another applicant because they seem more qualified for that particular job at hand. The person that didn't get a call back, or most people, aren't home sulking, crying rejection, telling other companies and prospective employees that they don't know what it's like to not get a call back from Wendy's or Nordstrom up the street. For most, it's just....NEXT. 

That cat at the shelter that you didn't choose isn't saying to itself and cat owners that they don't know what it's like to feel rejected it just goes about licking it's paws, eating and shitting and eyeing out the next victim that comes along and if it likes them, it might show a little more personality , other than that it's life goes on as usual.

Now you want to make it about you and how haarrd it is to get a woman to say yes for you just approaching them with no incentive to say yes and come on a forum and write how women don't even know how hard it is while the women have to worry about safety, who just wants to get in her pants and her pants alone, if he's a dick or a psychopathic loser philanderer, misogynist, have to vet and make sure he is who he says he is as far as not being a rapist or that he's not actually married or already taken, and these are just some issues women have to contend with before even getting to know the man and is in the initial stage. If you ask me a little rejection or a lot of rejection seems better to deal with than the mental strains of all I mentioned and more. 

[LordFall]

Rejection is fine its mostly about having a plan to not keep hitting your head against the wall for decades and have a stressful and toxic relationship even if you do manage to get into one. The statistics for the standard of living of the average man in society are not good. 

[Leo Gura]

@LordFall You are not a statistic.

[Natasha Tori Maru]

You know... often in marketing and business they sit people down and showcase a product.

Employees will be asked to comment - 'Yeah the cup is great, beautiful outlines. Great colour' And remark it is a great product. Top notch and they would buy it for sure. It is going to be a best seller. 

Then you slap on $10.00 and ask them to purchase the cup - suddenly all those singing praises can't put their money where their mouth is. 

What people say they want when dating or looking for a relationship is actually NOT usually what they end up 'selecting'.

The wisdom here is not to let some of these dialogues/metrics limit you.

People say one thing, and do something completely different.

[AION]

If you want an easy life you are basically asking pretty girl privilege which is gay at best.

Edited 2 hours ago by AION

[Sugarcoat]

You don’t have to have your life figured out to be able to date. You don’t even have to be particularly confident inside. There’s people, both men and women, at every level in society, and I think people tend to be attracted to people and are attractive to people and compatible with those that reflect them somehow around their own “level”. So there is guaranteed people out there for you, I think important factor is just exposing yourself to people so you actually have chance to meet them. But in a way it tends to happen naturally, like if you go school you’ll notice people group themselves based on compatibility. The geeky might hang around the geeky and the more reserved people find each other and the more sociable people find each other. Usually there’s not so much excessive effort involved. 
 

That’s not to say you shouldn’t work on yourself, because if you’re unhappy about yourself it will make you suffer in your life and relationships. Like even if what I said above could sound comforting, if you don’t fix some things that’s bothering you inside or your circumstances you’re still gonna be unhappy. 

When you come to a point of being relatively content with yourself then I think the biggest factor is just meeting enough people to find a match

So basically it starts from the inside, the best partners and most fulfilling relationships can happen when you start healing, becoming a better more fulfilled version of yourself… inside out not outside in…

Edited 11 minutes ago by Sugarcoat