HELP! I really want to get a girlfriend !

[Tudo]

I want to get a girlfriend. What is the best option: Tinder or cold approach?
I live in Brazil, I'm average looking, 29 years old, a little skinny (70 kg), 186 cm tall, and I work out a little at home (I do pull-ups). I'm shy, so cold approach would be pretty tough if I choose that route. I'm a white latino.

My Instagram profile sucks, no pictures (just the profile one) and only a few followers. I'm a med student, and all the attractive girls in my class already have a boyfriend.

I really want a cute girlfriend. What is the best strategy for me?

Edited yesterday at 06:52 PM by Tudo

[Raze]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?list=PLZaz6kYmgxhE09EimAl_QQRpUbpAj3hAc&v=F1owQWiy_bs

https://www.girlschase.com/content/how-get-started-picking-girls

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=050mAG7O4LY&list=PL76nuCstxs7jpcbJ3B5Cbrs7-4gTwjBWF&index=1

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3p1zJz1qTf0

http://davidtianphd.com/masterclass-content/

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uPKQuwyYScQ

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=twTrrGiRXtY

 

Edited yesterday at 07:02 PM by Raze

[Salvijus]

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[Tudo]

12 minutes ago, Raze said:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?list=PLZaz6kYmgxhE09EimAl_QQRpUbpAj3hAc&v=F1owQWiy_bs

https://www.girlschase.com/content/how-get-started-picking-girls

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=050mAG7O4LY&list=PL76nuCstxs7jpcbJ3B5Cbrs7-4gTwjBWF&index=1

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3p1zJz1qTf0

http://davidtianphd.com/masterclass-content/

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uPKQuwyYScQ

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=twTrrGiRXtY

 

Thx, I'm going to check these out.

[aurum]

@Tudo 100% cold approach. If you're shy, that's even better.

Cold approach will ruthlessly punish any unintegrated shyness or passivity patterns you have. Which is actually what you want.

I would also combine cold approach with leaning into the built-in social circle you have in med school. If you want a serious girlfriend, she is likely going to want you to have some sort of social circle.

So even if the girls in your school have boyfriends, they can still be your friends and just be people you go out with. They can also introduce you to whatever single friends they might have. And it will just be good for increasing your overall social skills.

Edited yesterday at 07:23 PM by aurum

[Tudo]

15 minutes ago, aurum said:

@Tudo 100% cold approach. If you're shy, that's even better.

Cold approach will ruthlessly punish any unintegrated shyness or passivity patterns you have. Which is actually what you want.

I would also combine cold approach with leaning into the built-in social circle you have in med school. If you want a serious girlfriend, she is likely going to want you to have some sort of social circle.

So even if the girls in your school have boyfriends, they can still be your friends and just be people you go out with. They can also introduce you to whatever single friends they might have. And it will just be good for increasing your overall social skills.

Thank you, nice advice. Yes, the lack of social circle is one big problem, i consider myself kind of handsome ( maybe I'm delusional lol) but I'm pretty lonely, I have no friends and don't interact with women outside med school.

Edited yesterday at 07:37 PM by Tudo

[Thought Art]

@Tudo 1. sign up for dating apps if you are in a big area. Consider investing in someone who can help you set up a good peofile

2. go to regular social events for example on the App Meetup and begin socializing

3. consider coach approach in a way you want

1. Go on dates, fail, learn, keep going 

Girlfriend 

[aurum]

6 hours ago, Tudo said:

Thank you, nice advice. Yes, the lack of social circle is one big problem, i consider myself kind of handsome ( maybe I'm delusional lol) but I'm pretty lonely, I have no friends and don't interact with women outside med school.

Good news is that you understand the problem.

Now you just need action and to put yourself through the fire.

You got this, go for it.

[TheGod]

9 hours ago, Tudo said:

I want to get a girlfriend. What is the best option: Tinder or cold approach?
I live in Brazil, I'm average looking, 29 years old, a little skinny (70 kg), 186 cm tall, and I work out a little at home (I do pull-ups). I'm shy, so cold approach would be pretty tough if I choose that route. I'm a white latino.

My Instagram profile sucks, no pictures (just the profile one) and only a few followers. I'm a med student, and all the attractive girls in my class already have a boyfriend.

I really want a cute girlfriend. What is the best strategy for me?

Oh my man, you should be grateful that you live in Brazil. I used to work in San-Paulo and I never had problems with women there.

Cold and direct approach is the best thing you can do.

By the way, where are you from manito? 

 

[Leo Gura]

Buy a course that explains how to attract women.

There are courses for cold approach and courses for online game. You are not going to figure this out by yourself. You need to leverage an existing knowledge base.

Edited 19 hours ago by Leo Gura

[Magnanimous]

@Leo Gura

1. What courses would you recommend?

2. How much of pickup knowledge a person should know does your How to Get Laid series covered? What are the missing areas?

[Schizophonia]

Do what makes you happy; find hobbies you enjoy and you'll find people like you. Even through work; we don't end up in the same fields by chance.

Edited 15 hours ago by Schizophonia

[Schizophonia]

Also, just because the girls in your class have boyfriends doesn't mean you can't flirt with them; you might be better for her than he is.

Edited 15 hours ago by Schizophonia

[Tudo]

7 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

Buy a course that explains how to attract women.

There are courses for cold approach and courses for online game. You are not going to figure this out by yourself. You need to leverage an existing knowledge base.

Yes, I will be looking for some good ones.

3 hours ago, Schizophonia said:

Also, just because the girls in your class have boyfriends doesn't mean you can't flirt with them; you might be better for her than he is.

 That's a pretty high level of corruption right there. Usually backfires I think. What is your opinion on this @Leo Gura ?

7 hours ago, TheGod said:

 

By the way, where are you from manito? 

 

Santa Catarina state.

[Leo Gura]

1 hour ago, Tudo said:

That's a pretty high level of corruption right there. Usually backfires I think. What is your opinion on this

You should socialize with anyone you can just for the experience. You will not sleep with 99% of the people you socialize with.

[AerisVahnEphelia]

2 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

You should socialize with anyone you can just for the experience. You will not sleep with 99% of the people you socialize with.

 
first thing is you need to be so genuine in life your environment reflect who you are and what you value more than anything.

second is manifesting love.
 

[Tudo]

26 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

You should socialize with anyone you can just for the experience. You will not sleep with 99% of the people you socialize with.

@Leo GuraThere is this one cute girl in my class, we keep flirting to one another, but she has a boyfriend. Even though I'm sure she is attracted to me, I'm pretty sure she won't leave her boyfriend for me. Should I keep flirting with her or stop? I'm afraid I will get seriously heart broken

 

Edited 10 hours ago by Tudo

[Leo Gura]

17 minutes ago, Tudo said:

I'm afraid I will get seriously heart broken

For that reason alone you must flirt on!

Nothing better for you in game than a good heartbreaking 

[Tudo]

1 minute ago, Leo Gura said:

For that reason alone you must flirt on!

Nothing better for you in game than a good heartbreaking 

@Leo Gura But trying to get another man’s girl isn’t corruption? And I’ve been heartbroken in the past so many times, I can’t take it anymore lol

[Princess Arabia]

5 hours ago, Schizophonia said:

Also, just because the girls in your class have boyfriends doesn't mean you can't flirt with them; you might be better for her than he is.

Seriously? Seems like desperation to me.