I used Leo's advice and now I'm heartbroken

[Husseinisdoingfine]

2 minutes ago, Schizophonia said:

I don't see the problem

It's my fault.

What happened was I posted group selfies with the new people I met.

That's all it was, group selfies. But people in this forum criticized me for privacy concerns. So as a result, I took down the selfies. 

[theleelajoker]

56 minutes ago, Schizophonia said:

I don't see the problem

In France, there's no privacy concern. 

[Joshe]

1 hour ago, Schizophonia said:

I don't see the problem

Mirror effect. Lol. Some people just like projecting their own humiliation onto others. 

[Princess Arabia]

"Click bait" heading. How dramatic. Ten years from now this story will seem like a walk in the park after you've been through threesomes, orgies, break-ups, marriages, divorces, and a polygamous lifestyle. 

[Princess Arabia]

2 hours ago, pablo_aka_god said:

Nice experience congrats!

Congrats for what. Meeting people. Or the kiss he had.

[Princess Arabia]

20 hours ago, Husseinisdoingfine said:

I didn't "get laid", because I was sharing an AirBNB with two families, including my own. And the two women were both roommates, and lived with their parents.

Don't kid yourself. You didn't get laid because you didn't get laid.

[Schizophonia]

2 hours ago, Husseinisdoingfine said:

It's my fault.

What happened was I posted group selfies with the new people I met.

That's all it was, group selfies. But people in this forum criticized me for privacy concerns. So as a result, I took down the selfies. 

I know.

I meant you weren't insulting or showing anything compromising.

In my value system, this is not problematic.

1 hour ago, theleelajoker said:

In France, there's no privacy concern. 

Do you think it's french culture.

Indeed it seems i'm more permissive than most Anglo-Saxons/Slavs here.

I come from a region where men play rugby and call each other "my rabbit" lol

34 minutes ago, Joshe said:

Mirror effect. Lol. Some people just like projecting their own humiliation onto others. 

Indeed lol.

Then it's not about humiliation here but permissiveness/confidentiality.

[Schizophonia]

5 minutes ago, Princess Arabia said:

"Click bait" heading. How dramatic. Ten years from now this story will seem like a walk in the park after you've been through threesomes, orgies, break-ups, marriages, divorces, and a polygamous lifestyle. 

You have to want it.
For me, it's much less good than having a suitable girlfriend.

[samijiben]

Good for you. Next step is follow-through cash-out. This is where you gotta dangle your balls in front of the world because you want em licked, you dirty bastard. 

Who you are and what you want has nothing to do with your persona-game of getting them titties in your face. 

You should change your bio to this:

"I bear witness to the reality that I am a titty devil and Leo Gura is the motherfucker that I use to buttress this point while simultaneously ignoring it because, deep down, I know better."

Mashallah

[Natasha Tori Maru]

2 hours ago, Princess Arabia said:

"Click bait" heading. How dramatic. Ten years from now this story will seem like a walk in the park after you've been through threesomes, orgies, break-ups, marriages, divorces, and a polygamous lifestyle. 

Theft of joy by comparison

These moments can be milestones for another's experience, who are we to distract from this?

[meta_male]

@Schizophonia You don't post photos of strangers, period.

@Husseinisdoingfine Good call on taking them down.

[Schizophonia]

4 minutes ago, meta_male said:

@Schizophonia You don't post photos of strangers, period.

It's your definition of ethic.

I wouldn't care someone post photos of me, as long as it's not defamation. 

[Husseinisdoingfine]

In my defense, those were not photos of strangers but a group photo of new friends I made. 

[meta_male]

31 minutes ago, Schizophonia said:

It's your definition of ethic.

I wouldn't care someone post photos of me, as long as it's not defamation. 

Not caring doesn’t make it ethical. You also don’t care about work or moving out, doesn’t make it noble. In some countries posting faces without consent is an offence. It wasn't just random travel stories, he posted them in a thread about cold approaching, nightlife and how-to-get-laid-advice, which drags these women into a sexual context they most likely didn't consent to. Also it makes them look like objects: "Look what I (almost) pulled."

Is this personal development or just rationalizing whatever’s convenient?

@Husseinisdoingfine The photos were awkward, didn't look like they knew they were being photographed, which just adds to the creepiness. 

[Puer Aeternus]

4 hours ago, Princess Arabia said:

Don't kid yourself. You didn't get laid because you didn't get laid.

 

4 hours ago, Princess Arabia said:

Congrats for what. Meeting people. Or the kiss he had.

Let the man live life without the passive aggression.

[pablo_aka_god]

6 hours ago, Princess Arabia said:

Congrats for what. Meeting people. Or the kiss he had.

Congrats for going out and talking to strangers. he clearly went outside his comfort zone otherwise wouldn't have created this thread.

It's a good starting point. nothing too crazy, just a nice positive experience from cold approach and that is something, cold approach is hard

[Joshe]

Look, there's an argument that full-grown, experienced adults should be berated and/or humiliated for such behavior, but don't knock a goddamn youngster who's doing his best and means no harm. At least soften the criticism to something like @theleelajoker did. Don't call youngsters cringe or make fun of them. It's not good for them or anyone. This sort of behavior should only be used as a last resort. 

If you wanted to critique, I'm sure OP would have accepted it if it were respectful. So is your aim to correct or belittle? If it's to correct, you fucked up. If it's to belittle, you succeeded. 

Edited yesterday at 12:01 AM by Joshe

[Princess Arabia]

3 hours ago, Puer Aeternus said:

 

Let the man live life without the passive aggression.

Lol, you're right.

[Hojo]

You are too old to fall in love that quick. This reminds me a of time I watched goofy and his son on cartoons and he got a girlfriend and I fell in love with his girlfriend and cried when the show was over.

[Joshe]

25 minutes ago, Hojo said:

You are too old to fall in love that quick. This reminds me a of time I watched goofy and his son on cartoons and he got a girlfriend and I fell in love with his girlfriend and cried when the show was over.

It's more attachment than love. I remember when I was maybe 23, my sister and her friends came to visit me for a week or two in the florida keys where I was living, and her friends were hot af and one of them liked me. When they left, I teared up, not because I was in love, but because of how attached I was to the experience. The whole ambience and enchantment of the experience was disappearing and it was like parting ways with a powerful drug, except I knew I couldn't procure this drug again. 

Edited yesterday at 01:40 AM by Joshe