Women have wildly different interests than men

[Joshe]

 

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During the discussion I recognized that many men behave the same way, that they are just interested in their own stuff so it might be less about gender and more about personality types. The Internet, YouTube, is full of intps who also have the drive to create content so it's a bit biased.

 

Yes, this INTP bias is important to understand. INTPs have brains that make them want to explore systems and catalog knowledge. Therefor, it comes very easily to them to adopt an identity of truth seeker. “I care about truth and almost no one else does”. This allows them to assume a superior position in a social environment that deems them weird. Mainstream calls them weird, so of course there’s a natural searching for superiority, which they easily find in their most innate tendencies. Hence the identity adoption of “iconoclastic truth seeker”. This is an actual phenomenon that all cynical/detached/neutral INTP “truth seekers” need to analyze. 

Edited 5 hours ago by Joshe

[OBEler]

@Joshe Mainstream calls them weird and they call mainstream weird, too. INTPs have huge superiority in terms of truth seeking compared to other personality types. They can see easily through bullshit and fake interests but still they can be biased and fall into delusions like you say if they really think they know it all.

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[Carl-Richard]

10 hours ago, OBEler said:

@Carl-Richard no, do you have? Am I a woman hater now?

I think talking to many women as friends helps to understand that the women you're talking about in the thread are mostly a sub-section of women, and that if you talk to men, you find a similar sub-section mirroring them.

I don't have many female friends per se, but I have been in psychology for many years which is dominated by women, and you inevitably have to talk to them 😝

Edited 3 hours ago by Carl-Richard

[Princess Arabia]

10 hours ago, OBEler said:

@Princess Arabia I can say the same about you, you have totally interpreted the intention about my post in your own way. I am not angry at women at all - never was. Just because I want to discuss differences and show that women have low interests outside of themselves doesn't mean that I am angry or that I judge them for this or that I want to change this or helping them getting more intellectual. That are all your projections on that. 

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I also never said that you were angry at women. Read my comment again. Saying we don't do something because we're not that angry at men isn't suggesting that I think you are. 

[Joshe]

1 hour ago, OBEler said:

@Joshe Mainstream calls them weird and they call mainstream weird, too. INTPs have huge superiority in terms of truth seeking compared to other personality types. They can see easily through bullshit and fake interests but still they can be biased and fall into delusions like you say if they really think they know it all.

Yes. What I'm saying is though, the natural gifts of the INTP easily get co-opted by the ego, and since their gifts are rejected by the mainstream, it's easy for the INTP to reject them back, and the INTP will tell themselves they're rejecting them because they are fools who do not value truth, and they will make it a huge project to identify all the ways the mainstream errs, feeding not only their drive to explore and understand systems, but also their ego's need to feel superior or not to feel inferior. I think this is a common, adaptive survival strategy of the INTP ego.

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[Carl-Richard]

5 hours ago, Puer Aeternus said:

But at the end of the day, you're the one who can really know what's up and going on inside!

That's an assumption and a half.

Edited 3 hours ago by Carl-Richard

[Xonas Pitfall]

@OBEler Got it!

Just wanted to offer some advice, as I don’t think your intent was malicious. I simply want to highlight how your presentation might come across and where things could have been framed differently.

5 hours ago, OBEler said:

@Xonas Pitfall no my intention was to show how different women really are compared to men. Again, differences are nothing negative per se but the narrative goes that we are so equal - which we are not - and any difference pointing out is just not taking seriously. But we should understand the differences.

I assumed it is common sense how different the genders are , what I wanted to point out how radical different we are in pursuing topics and that it is not just an observation on real world but especially on the Internet if I searching for podcasts between women or generell content produced by women. My observations were that they really have almost no interest outside their personal stuff. This is a big generalization amongst women so I am aware that there are some outsiders. During the discussion I recognized that many men behave the same way, that they are just interested in their own stuff so it might be less about gender and more about personality types. The Internet, YouTube, is full of intps who also have the drive to create content so it's a bit biased.

Please acknowledge this in your future posts and be cautious not to pick out examples that fit self-fulfilling biases. It can mess with your worldview, causing you to keep finding examples that support your narrative. Just look at the whiny red-pill podcasts that focus only on men’s issues and complain about how no women want them. This is equivalent to finding women who constantly talk about how important women are in science, focusing on their gender instead of addressing the actual scientific research.

The reason you received negative backlash wasn’t necessarily because you were presenting something "controversial," but because it came from a biased perspective. For instance, in your original post, if you wanted to make your point effectively, you should have found examples where both men and women act foolishly in their own ways. That would have been a more balanced assessment of how we all act foolishly, albeit in different ways, to highlight the differences between men and women (which you initially wanted). Instead, it seemed like you were saying that any intellectual pursuit by women is for selfish reasons or done in a "cringeworthy" manner, while men, as you put it, "don't do fake drama", "love actual technology."

I’m just saying to be careful, because this stuff can easily creep into your subconscious. Leo himself has pointed this out in many ideology-based videos: you are thinking you're just telling the truth, and people don't like how the truth sounds, so that's why they are attacking you. From your perspective, you see these points as true, and it can feel like women and "soft men" are just attacking you because they want to live in their delusion. This, in turn, reinforces your worldview. But as you saw in this thread, both genders attack in genuinely foolish ways, just expressed differently.

Hope I’m making sense. Let’s say I wanted to present the differences between men and women, and then I show examples of guys wasting their lives on OnlyFans, playing video games, having no jobs, raging on 4chan forums, and being Trump supporters. Then, I present women as hardworking, self-sacrificial angels and mothers. I can claim I care about the truth all I want, but the examples I’ve chosen to focus on and nitpick clearly show that I have a biased perspective I want to present, or perhaps unconsciously believe in. That’s why it would be expected of me to receive backlash, since I’m claiming to care about the truth, yet presenting such a biased perspective.

So, if you ever engage in this topic again, please be careful how you present your original argument and the types of examples you give! Personally, I have no issue with your premise, and I do notice the differences myself. However, it’s important that these differences are presented fairly and truthfully. Often, people fall into the classic trap of equating masculinity with rationality and femininity with stupidity or irrationality, which is an unfair assessment. It’s not hard to see that both genders can act irrationally in different ways.

Edited 1 hour ago by Xonas Pitfall

[meta_male]

On 10.8.2025 at 10:49 AM, OBEler said:

I know for many people what I say here is common sense but for me it is still always shocking to see how different men and women behave. 

@OBEler What is shocking about it?

[Princess Arabia]

5+5=10.....3+7=10.....The sum is the same; they equal up to the same thing. Equations are different.

Just because it's said the genders are equal doesn't mean the saying means there are no differences. Equal and same are two different things. We can still be equal with different traits. We are relatively different doesn't mean we can't be relatively equal.