Most people are sexually depraved

[Schizophonia]

I sometimes talk to my friends about sex and often don't understand why I'm a virgin at 22. Especially since I've been openly hit on several times by girls over 7/10.

The history of severe insomnia (still struggling a bit with sleep) and unsociability are obvious, but above all the solution that is regularly suggested to me is basically, to speak without newspeak, to manipulate a girl possibly irl but especially on a dating site until she offers me her pussy sometimes;  pump and dump her. 
 

Or just find a girl who's willing to fuck; but I'm just lazy and it's pretty irresponsible because you run the risk of the girl getting attached to you or the opposite. Even for a long relationship in fact, most of my friends and it seems people (men and women) are happy to find a random person to get into a relationship with; and then shitty karma will automatically come. That’s the reason I refused to go with the girls who wanted to flirts with me; I saw the karma was sus and/or we didn’t have enough in common and I directly decided to left rather that wallow in something stupid.

 

I once created an account on a dating site because I was bored or because of my balls appeals lol, I don't remember; and in the end I simply deleted it because it's just not interesting.

 

Sometimes the feeling of being humiliated by being a virgin, maybe simpering too hard here and there or something like that would push me to go off the rails and want to pick up for example, then god send to me strange sociopathic mirrors who have stopped believing in love and end up in Thailand fucking kids for money, and I remember that no, I'm not like that..

 

How do you manage your intime needs ?

Edited June 28 by Schizophonia

[samijiben]

Ass is my achilles heel. This is not a nonduality joke. 

When I see a nice ass, all spiritual training flies out the window, and I become weak, almost helpless. Damn, that ass! 

So far, the only way out I found is self-extermination. 

[Princess Arabia]

What kind of a heading/topic is that. Did you interview most people to know they are sexually depraved? Everytime I go out I see couples out together. Kids everywhere and people having a grand 'ole time. Hotels are being booked and couples holding hands. Get out of your head.

[samijiben]

1 hour ago, Princess Arabia said:

What kind of a heading/topic is that. Did you interview most people to know they are sexually depraved? Everytime I go out I see couples out together. Kids everywhere and people having a grand 'ole time. Hotels are being booked and couples holding hands. Get out of your head.

It is mind game but also you are not man, you are princess. And man feels very horny-carnal-testosterone-filled-desire/instinct at the mere sight of some titties, even if they are pixelated....

[samijiben]

I think the lust that op is talking about "how to temper" is more of a male thing than a female thing.. so maybe that's why the princess can't relate.

This turns quickly into a justification, just tryna hold space for the possibility that there is something us guys are dealing with that is not part of "your reality', princess.

[Javfly33]

People get into relationships because of loneliness, not because of true connection. Then you see women having sex because of meeting their partner expectations and men having sex in a disconnected way to the woman because of their ego.

Overall if you are like me with high standards you will need some time to find the perfect match.

[Princess Arabia]

4 hours ago, samijiben said:

It is mind game but also you are not man, you are princess. And man feels very horny-carnal-testosterone-filled-desire/instinct at the mere sight of some titties, even if they are pixelated....

That was not the basis of my comment. Plus why do you think the vibrator was invented and dildos. Women just are more private with their horniness and don't shove it down the world's throat like men do. I've seen plenty of men who walk around and are not moved by the sight of women and their titties and they're not gay. I've also seen where men stare at every tittie that walks by, you might be one of those. Some men, especially the ones with gfs or are getting plenty of sex aren't going around being rocked by the mere sight of titties they see everyday. I said this in my journal, some men think that all men are like them, no they're not. Some couldn't care less about the sight of anything if it ain't theirs. Men are not all the same. There are types. All may be horny, that's not the point but not all care about the mere sight of anything. I've seen this time and time again. Women know all the well the types out there. It shows.

Edited June 29 by Princess Arabia

[theleelajoker]

16 hours ago, Schizophonia said:

How do you manage your intime needs ?

It evolves with every week, every date, every woman I meet or get intimate with. 

So, as of now: I follow my energetic pull as best as possible. 

Example: after a break up, I dated a lot and had sex with a few girls in short time while being open about my state of mind and the break up. It was nice, the mental and physical connection was a win - win IMO. And I kind of "needed" this kind of energy exchange at that time. I was selective with my choices, but less than I usually am.

After a number of times I had a increasingly difficult time to have an orgasm. Which made me realize that it's time to have more intimacy and less "just sex". My needs now are more towards something deeper, more sensual , more tantric which means I am much more selective now with who I want to have sex with. Did not have sex in fact after the "I have sex but no orgasm" experience. 

And afterwards? Who the fuck nows, I certainly don't 😂

Certainty it's a challenge because the there back and forth between:  'ok I just have sex with this or that girl " and "ok that's not what you really want " but then "ah come on you're horny you can at least ask her will be fun she's clearly your type" but then "ok I'm attracted to her but remember how last time the sex wasn't really good" and then"ok but look at her, her gaze and her body will be so nice to touch her and she's clearly sending signals she wants it too" ....and so on, and so on

Edited June 29 by theleelajoker

[Princess Arabia]

3 hours ago, Javfly33 said:

People get into relationships because of loneliness, not because of true connection.

This is such a limited perspective. Ever crossed your mind that humans are social creatures and that some just like to have a partner to share life with and not because they're lonely. Plus, the way society is, people think it's expected to have partners and get into relationships and marry because that's what they see everybody else doing and not because they're lonely.

[Princess Arabia]

3 hours ago, samijiben said:

This turns quickly into a justification, just tryna hold space for the possibility that there is something us guys are dealing with that is not part of "your reality', princess.

Us guys? Speak for yourself and maybe others who are going through that, but it's not a world-wide epidemic. I don't see a shortage of babies being born and women going around being virgins their whole life. Plenty of baby daddies, relationship problems, domestic abuse, valentine's day activities, weddings couples therapies around which suggests that people are being intimate with each other all over the place. Maybe stop focusing on not getting any and go socialize instead of being on forums and maybe your problems won't be lack-based in this department but abundance of baby momma drama, and women problems.

People who are out socializing and living life with plenty of options aren't on social media complaining about the lack of the opposite sex, so seeing on social media how men are depraved, doesn't tell the true story because no one is on there crying about the sex they're having or the abundance of friends in their lives. Only negative news gets reported most of the time and in this department it's not any different. Lonely incels and the sex-starved will make a big deal of the situation, not the ones living it up like I see everyday and these people are from all over the world because I live in a tourist town and for years I'm out and about seeing couples after couples after couples. So sick of you guys complaining instead of doing something about your situation. Then you come up with the remark that I'm a woman so I don't understand. All I understand is that people think everybody is going through what they're going through. Plenty of sex happening in the world. I don't see the condom companies complaining and going out of business.

 

Edited June 29 by Princess Arabia

[Javfly33]

45 minutes ago, Princess Arabia said:

This is such a limited perspective. Ever crossed your mind that humans are social creatures and that some just like to have a partner to share life with and not because they're lonely. 

Yes, I'm aware that is also the case unfortunately 

[Tenebroso]

I think being sexually depraved is a good thing. Sex is not dirty or divorced from self development. Not having sex does not make you better or more evolved than someone. I wish I could be like Aubrey Marcus and fuck hundreds or thousands of women. I would fuck all day and night if I could attract the moment. You think Nietzsche wanted to be Nietzsche? If Nietzsche could have fucked we wouldn't have all of his philosophy.

[AION]

You make it a bigger deal than it is. It just lady parts and man parts coming together. 

[Sugarcoat]

If your desire for sex is strong enough it would overcome “laziness” and even sleep deprivation. So you seem to have a medium desire for it that’s not strong enough to propel you to go against the odds and look for sex

[samijiben]

6 hours ago, Princess Arabia said:

Us guys? Speak for yourself and maybe others who are going through that, but it's not a world-wide epidemic. I don't see a shortage of babies being born and women going around being virgins their whole life. Plenty of baby daddies, relationship problems, domestic abuse, valentine's day activities, weddings couples therapies around which suggests that people are being intimate with each other all over the place. Maybe stop focusing on not getting any and go socialize instead of being on forums and maybe your problems won't be lack-based in this department but abundance of baby momma drama, and women problems.

People who are out socializing and living life with plenty of options aren't on social media complaining about the lack of the opposite sex, so seeing on social media how men are depraved, doesn't tell the true story because no one is on there crying about the sex they're having or the abundance of friends in their lives. Only negative news gets reported most of the time and in this department it's not any different. Lonely incels and the sex-starved will make a big deal of the situation, not the ones living it up like I see everyday and these people are from all over the world because I live in a tourist town and for years I'm out and about seeing couples after couples after couples. So sick of you guys complaining instead of doing something about your situation. Then you come up with the remark that I'm a woman so I don't understand. All I understand is that people think everybody is going through what they're going through. Plenty of sex happening in the world. I don't see the condom companies complaining and going out of business.

 

I got you. But I'm not some incel who complains of not being able to score or whatever.

Purpose of OP was to asl "how do you manage your INTIME needs."

This isn't a problem of not being able to get a girlfriend. Not inceldom. but desire itself, horniness, sexual energy, libido, whatever

He said, how do you manage your needs?

I said, only way out is selr-extermination.

 

 

 

 

 

[Hojo]

This is like that video guys are caged to their sexual desires and they don't even want to be. I am the same way I am ultra horny but I don't want attachment to something so it feels like I'm a dog on a chain running fullspeed non stop. Like I am horny i want a woman, but I don't want to play them.

You cant go for a woman because you don't even want one but you want to fuck so you gotta ask one out. Its super rare they just want to fuck its not in their programming.

There was a woman that was into me and she ask me for 4 years to give me a blowjob and I said no no no I'm not interested. Then after 4 years I thought I was in karmic loop and said yes and within a week she texting me I that she wants to see me and me inside her again and I'm like im still not interested and she got angry at me.

We must look at the chemistry. Sadhguru says to eat neem it will kill your semen he says.

Or find some drug or something.

Edited June 29 by Hojo

[Basman]

Don't be overly perfectionist. Things don't have to work out perfectly for it to be grist for the mill. 

[meta_male]

On 28.6.2025 at 10:27 PM, Schizophonia said:

How do you manage your intime needs ?

I just go with the flow and build connection when it feels right. But honestly I don't see casual stuff as a big deal if everyone's clear about it.

[Someone here]

21 hours ago, Hojo said:

This is like that video guys are caged to their sexual desires and they don't even want to be. I am the same way I am ultra horny but I don't want attachment to something so it feels like I'm a dog on a chain running fullspeed non stop. Like I am horny i want a woman, but I don't want to play them.

You cant go for a woman because you don't even want one but you want to fuck so you gotta ask one out. Its super rare they just want to fuck its not in their programming.

There was a woman that was into me and she ask me for 4 years to give me a blowjob and I said no no no I'm not interested. Then after 4 years I thought I was in karmic loop and said yes and within a week she texting me I that she wants to see me and me inside her again and I'm like im still not interested and she got angry at me.

We must look at the chemistry. Sadhguru says to eat neem it will kill your semen he says.

Or find some drug or something.

I don't know how they leave you get away with this bizarre of a posts .😂 

They forced you to use comma. Now it's time to force you to talk like a human being not a broken AI. Level 2.0. 😂 

[Hojo]

@Someone hereYou are right I am done talking about women. Praise women. I am abandoning my logic to women. I am cleaning my aura of negative thoughts towards women it is helping me.

Edited June 30 by Hojo