Hello from Russia

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  2. Posted · Edited by Hello from Russia

    9 hours ago, ThePoint said:

    @Hello from Russia Do you have any tips on reading more? 

    Yes, put a good infrastructure for yourself

    I have a dedicated laptop for reading, good PDF reading app, I read mainly in PDF. Good note taking app.

    Don't over read useless information inside books (a lot of books have fairly big amount of empty texts in it) - tho some books are golden almost cover to cover you gotta judge the book well

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    @Leo Gura I have a fear of living through these "tough" experiences that are also Love but at the same time terrifying from a relative POV of a person experiencing them. I wonder if you could give some advice to handle this fear?

    It exists as sort of existential tremor inside. I can totally recognize and be thankful for that my current life experience is not relatively bad as it could possible be (could be infinitely worse). But I have a hard time accepting a possibility that at some time my dream can become a total nightmare.

    And I have a desire to do anything in my power to avoid such a nightmare as I seemingly tired af from it existentially (maybe grown tired also from past lifetimes too if they exist) 

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    5 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

    I see women sleep with the douchiest guys. Honestly it has ruined my respect for women.

    @Leo Gura And we sleep with super hot women who have extremely bad ethics & moral development as well. It's not like hot women are all saints

    When I see a hot woman with a shitty behaviour I get disgusted, not turned on personally. I will take less attractive but better morals woman any day of the week. Though in this situation the whole notion of "attractiveness" gets hijacked, these woman are not really that attractive, unless you are a scumbag yourself

  20. Posted · Edited by Hello from Russia

    @Leo Gura I had a guy in his 30-40s approach me when I was 13-14 yo on streets offering me to suck my dick and play w my balls in some home's entrance (we call it подъезд in Russia ;) ), he asked if I needed any money and suggested he'd give me 100-200 rubles (which was like 5-10$ at that time) if I'd allow him to do all that

    I didn't judge him, was kinda surprised by all that, he looked like a normal guy. Was even excited to see what this guy is really up to. But still made a decision to chicken out of the deal and politely say no thanks. He then started olffering me 300-400 rubles (15-20$) which I denied as well and then he just walked away

    Was an intertesting experience for me. I actually experienced a self-esteem boost from that, lol, cause I caught someone's fancy apparently and I kinda was lacking in the love domain during my school

    Never told my parents any of that as well

  23. Posted · Edited by Hello from Russia

    About main theme of the topic:
    There is a very good book on going about this topic for stage yellow+ men called "Integral Relationship" (Martin Ucik). It's written by a buddy of Ken Wilber and has very good frameworks on how to determine and sort of map your "one" girl to deeply understand where to look and how.

    It also touches a lot on how different spiral types typically relate to each other in intimate relationships (Sorry for poor quality, can't find any better unfortunately)
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    He also introduces such a thing as sexual development and sexual stages of development and describes/integrates a ton of frameworks about them and all things sexual. Such a profound stage yellow + work tbh. 

    Damn, @Leo Gura, I think you would highly appreciate the work of this guy

  24. Posted · Edited by Hello from Russia

    16 minutes ago, Devin said:

    Have fun with them, explore stuff, team up on life stuff, you need to have a mutually agreeable life direction, but I think you need to remain two different people.

    Secure attachment people don't love each other or go deep either

    I don't know about anxious attachment style if that's what you mean, you'd probably need jesus

    We all need Jesus, man, in one way or the other (Halleluja!)

    I'm not sure about secure attachment people don't love each other or going deep together, from what I see everyone experiences love. It's just with secure attachment there is more possibility for good sustainability

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    7 minutes ago, Devin said:

    What do you get sick of? A need of mine is time and space away from them, I cannot spend every non working moment with them like a cheesy sitcom. And I also don't just mean hours, but days, even a week or more occasionally, we do not merge into one. She has to have friends for this to work by the way, women don't like being alone.

    Sounds like an avoidant attachment style (From attachment theory)

    Mine is like totally the opposite