TimStr

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  1. @h inandout Music! Because it's non symbolic!
  2. I think suffering is one of the forces, that pushes us towards growth. But I think there are other forces, like compassion and pure joy, that can do so as well. Compassion is the desire for the end of suffering, so it's sort of the other side of the coin. I think the one thing, that keeps you from making great art is complacency and avoiding suffering. If your art is not meaningful enough to you that you would go through hell for it, it's probably not very meaningful to others. But I wouldn't assume that torturing ourselves automatically produces great art.
  3. Some general advice: Fist, get your own shit back together, THEN help out others. Don't beat yourself up! The path is long and you will stumble a lot. Growth actually happens by failing a lot! So don't worry about that. Every time you fail an feel like shit, say to yourself: "This is only going to make me stronger!" Then get back up on your feet and start walking again. Some specific advice: Make a clear decision and stick to it! Your ex is changing her mind a lot because she is confused and doesn't know, what she wants. And actually: You don't know what you want either! So make up your mind and then tell her. Don't justify or explain yourself, just tell her! Then go do it and stick to it! (Hint: Anticipate, that this is going to be very hard.) Go watch Leos video about self acceptance! Watch it at least once a week for the next two months. This will completely change you! Send it to your ex so she can also go watch it. Give her a sense of deep acceptance and space. Yes she hurt you a lot and you want her to stop. And yes you probably can't bear to see her suffering any more and you want her to change and grow for her own sake. But if you want a person to grow, the most important thing they need is space! One of the most beautiful definitions of true love I ever heard was: creating a space to grow. She should not feel obligated to you in any way!
  4. Enlightenment has to be a strange loop. It can only exist as a strange loop. There is this description in zen of enlightenment being a gateless gate. You walk through the gate and realize, that there was no gate to walk through in the first place. On my last AL-LAD trip I was mindfucked by this paradox of enlightenment being a "state" that can be reached vs advita nonduality tells us that we allready are enlightened and can't get any closer to it. The psychedelic confronted my mind with the question of how it's possible to reach a "state" that I am allready in. What I now know, after watching your new video, @Leo Gura , that I became conscious of the strange-loopieness of the concept of enlightenment. There is this description of the substance of enlightenment by Peter Ralston that captures this, that rings very true with me. The insight here is, that there is no difference between enlightenment and me. That's were the metaphor of the cat unraveling the yarn unraveling the cat comes in. I am enlightenment, I just have to realize what I am.
  5. Young children learn much more through absorption than through teachning. They automatially adapt to the environment, they're in. They absorb the behaviour and emotional vibes of the people they spend time with. So the endeavour of raising high consciousness children really is much more about becoming a really great and inspiring role-model for them. And also its about you facing, that you're children can be any way they want and don't have to live up to any standard what so ever, you set for them.
  6. This! You don't even need somebody else to practice. Staring into your own eyes in a mirror for 20+min does it.
  7. No, it isn't a goal of mine and it will never be. Doing the work, that will get me there is my number one goal.
  8. I've been using Evernote for commonplacing and so far, I am happy with it. I have no experience with MS OneNote. I'd appreciate some thoughts from someone who worked with both, weather it's worth switching to OneNote.
  9. @egoless Get into permaculture! Here's some inspiration. Watch the whole movie:
  10. Ask yourself: Do you spend quality time in the evening? I have the exact same problem like you and I struggle with it till this day. But it has improved a lot recently, because I know, that I will benefit from forcing my self to go to bed earlier. Most of the time, when I was staying up late, it was either because I was doing some neurotic work for the next day, that I procrastinated on or I was just wasting my time with watching movies or playing computer games. But, I know people that are at their maximum productivity when it's very late. You have to judge by yourself weather you are just wasting your time staying up late or if you are a natural night owl. If you are, forcing yourself to go to bed early might just be a waste of time. But if you aren't, going to bed early is a extremely useful tool for productivity and controlling your bad habits. If you find, that you're just like me and you waste your time in the evenings, then you're right, there might be something off with your motivation. Notice that most of the time during this post, I was not talking about waking up early, but about going to bed early. I think, that going to bed early is far more crucial and motivating, than just waking up early. I go to bed, knowing, that I can now put to rest my efforts for that day and regenerate myself for the next one, not because if I wouldn't I would only get 4h of sleep till my alarm clock rings. Positive motivation is crucial here. You have to see, why this is good for you. This way you ensure, that you get a healthy amount of sleep (7-8 hours minimum). The one big trick here, is to force yourself to go to bed at about the same time each day. Then after a few days, waking up will be much easier and you need a little less sleep after you adjusted. Positive motivation for pulling this adjustment off. You need a very clear picture in your mind about how this habit can improve your life. Don't let yourself be forced out of bed, because you think, by fear. Let yourself be inspired out of bed by the vision of what you can accomplish that day. If this is hard for you, work on your goal setting. Write your long term goals on a piece of paper that you put next to your bed. Then, every evening, take a look at that piece of paper and think about what you want to do tomorrow to get closer to your long term goals and write 3 short term goals for tomorrow on a post-it. Put both of them next to your alarm clock and look at them, first thing in the morning. If you're still struggling with motivation take bigger action, the life Purpose course offers great leaverage on motivation problems. One other thing, that helps greatly is having at least one appointment every day, pereferabely early. That way, you have to get up, and, if you have a morning ritual, that takes up some time, you have to get up early. You can also schedule your workout early in the morning or talk to a person, that should hold you accountable.
  11. @Serge Here's a key insight for you: The feeling isn't in the music, it's within yourself. If you want to learn to "feel" the music, start feeling yourself more and start to observe how the music makes you feel. It is very much a learning = observation type of endeavour. Here are some tips for how to pull that of: While listening to music, observe your physical body sensations and your emotions. Feeling bored, uncomfortable or disgusted are also emotions, you can tune into. If you feel nothing at all (at first), thats ok, tune into that. Use sound only! While music videos offer more sensual stimulation, they tend to put you in a very absorbed state. Headphones are great for this.c Go to concerts: Music, that happens right in front of you has some sort of special power. There is something about the in-the-momentness that amplifies the emotional qualities of that particular music. Get yourself to a concert, go to the very first row and allow yourself to be moved by the musicians. Dance! This one is huge! Allow the sound to move your body. You can do this in some sort of concert of club setting, but also alone at your place (where noone is watching you ). Some music is more suited for dancing than other and everyone has his own preferences here. E.g. my body moves best to percussive, non melodic , minimal techno. Find your own way to dance, there are no rights or wrongs here. Consider to listen to lots of different kinds of non-mainstream music: Most mainstream pop music is emotionally very dull and tends to stimulate your most basic human drive. Getting into other styles of music may take some time to develope a taste, but the emotional pallet you can discover here is vastly more rich, than in mainstream music. Here are some random examples of music, that I consider highly emotionally charged. Depending on your musical taste, this may also be an exercise for open mindedness. Don't worry, if you dislike some of the music, that's ok, I want to challange you. Remember the first tip of observing what you actually feel. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R97hOKP-iUw&t=32s https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vIVrCZ5sNwE https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zNaUv_XYFGg https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fktwPGCR7Yw https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D7KXq6RJ0PA https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K9INsERNFUo https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2e21NOp69hM
  12. @Alexo45 Also, check this video:
  13. Truth is the most obvious thing there is! It's like right in your face for 24/7! But the problem with this is, your intellect has nothing to contrast it with, that's why it doesn't stand out! Peter Ralston explains it greatly in this video:
  14. @Alexo45 Firstly: You're perfectly alright. I guess many of the folks here including myself have been through a phase that is similar to what you are discribing. When you get into existential territory and start to question meaning itself it's possible that all of life (and ego driven personal development) suddenly looses meaning for a while. Your mind is learning right now that meaning is something artificially constructed. Your ego is triggered by this and wants you to stop, because egos thrive on having meaning. But in fact there doesn't have to be a you for personal development to happen. If you hold that paradox of "development is meaningful" vs. "there is nothing to develope" you will reach a stage where you find, that becoming a great human being is highly spiritual. That's usually when the compassion aspect of enlightenment kicks in.
  15. @Extreme Z7 Thanks for sharing, Nietzsche's Thus spoke Zarathustra was one of the books that planted the seed of self actualization in me, alongside with some Freud. Nietzsche actually spent huge ammouts of time alone, contemplating and walking, so I guess, that he has some level of realization in the domain of consciousness work.