Chives99

if they not interested why do they go?

I go to a non-duality talk in Manchester, England every week with Zahir Kahn. He had his awakening about 20 years ago and has been giving talks ever since. The meetings are quite relaxed and open, and people can ask questions or just sit and listen. I know there’s a lot of non-duality content online now, especially through Zoom meetings and YouTube talks, which are great in their own way. But in my experience it doesn’t quite compare to being in the same room with other people who are exploring the same questions. The in-person setting makes it easier to talk to people afterwards, share perspectives, and sometimes build friendships with fellow seekers. It can feel more grounded and human than just watching a talk through a screen. For anyone interested in non-duality, I’d definitely recommend trying an in-person group if you get the chance.

why would reality moralise suicide, thats just societies making people feel guilty

where does leo get his psychedelic outfits from? love the technicolour

instead up of picking upping why dont you just engage in some fun hobbies and interests and shoot the breeze with women there if your autistic and have a special interest find a woman who likes your interest then you can chew her ear off about it lol, if you try to date neurotypical women well thats just like trying to put a square peg into a round hole , no wonder you cant connect lol.

@Twentyfirst what is underground market lol

I don’t even know where to begin looking for a woman who genuinely wants a soul-level connection. I have zero interest in playing society’s dating games — I crave something raw, emotionally authentic, and real. Maybe I’m looking in the wrong places... perhaps I need to start meeting women at personal development workshops, trauma groups, or philosophy clubs — places where depth is the baseline, not the exception. Definitely a different vibe from the surface-level socializing you get in most environments.

@Yimpa And that’s it. The love. The pain. The obsession. The desperation. The loneliness. All of it dissolves into something greater — and you realize: You were never missing anything. You were just chasing a reflection of the divine intimacy that already lives inside you.

your whole relationship is fake then, how can you be happy with that , i kinda get why some cultures do the whole arrange marriage thing cut out the manipulation and tomfoolerly

This is why I like being autistic. Everyone else just seems to be gaming each other—playing roles, performing, keeping everything on the surface with no real depth or authenticity. Being emotionally deep and authentic is lonely, because most people don’t communicate on that level. But I’d rather be real than sell myself out for shallow, surface-level relationships. I see it all the time—couples staying together just because they don’t want to be lonely, not because they truly connect. There’s no emotional intimacy, just a performance. And I’ve noticed in the news how some teachers end up throwing their lives away for a relationship with a student. It’s incredibly stupid, sure—but part of me thinks it comes from being emotionally starved. Society tells us to bottle everything up, to keep up appearances, and they just snap. They always seem to go for the misfits, the emotionally open ones—often autistic teens—not the typical "chads." I bet those kids were sweet and real with them in a way most people aren't. I get why it’s called “game,” this whole dating culture, but maybe I don’t want game. I want to be real. And that scares people—being vulnerable, putting your heart on the line, letting yourself be seen. But to me, that’s the only way connection actually means something.

Shallow , trivial form of happiness

even if you get what you think you want through ego you cant even enjoy it anyway as there is the fear of loss and fear of insecurity and unworthiness. With surrender everything is allowed which creates an openness for things to be authentically be brought into your life

thats because we become conditioned to fit the mould which stifles our individuality

give up on yourself, thats the counter-intuitive thing. In doing so it might bring about the fear of uncertainty, of How will I survive? how will i get what I want? how will i find peace and happiness? With surrender comes freedom from the inner turmoil of the mind and an allowing of openness to let things naturally play out. Trying to control everything only antagonises it

We've discussed on here many time that online dating is shitshow with a winner takes all environment where everyone looking with the abundance of beautiful people on these apps are all chasing after the top 20 percent and ignoring 80 percent of the other profiles, it creates the illusion that any guy could date a super model and any woman could date a rockstar you just have to swipe enough ........... friendship apps are great for building social circle and theres no pressure to score or impress the person etc so you can just relax and chat and they could invite you to a social gathering , party or whatever and introduce you to more people . I've got plenty of friends that were friends with their now partner for years before they went on a date, so completely ignore the advice you have to rush into romance you can very well be with someone on friendly basis and things change, but dont have that expectation though just enjoy socialising. to me its the lack of pressure why these apps are more preferable , desperation is the biggest turn off ever, so theres no needing to get anywhere