Saarah

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    @Nicolas it's probably related to the power of the subconscious which is basically our conditioning > actions > habits > consequences 

    when you follow your subconscious programming you gravitate towards things that resonate and be wary of that which doesn't 

    that's probably why the 'gut feeling' thing happens because we've learned certain responses to similar types of stimuli which relate to our conditioning in certain ways which is all largely located in the subconscious mind 

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    @Canadian I prefer keeping things to myself but close people (just one or two) who you trust and anyone who isn't really involved in your life such as people on forums then it's not really going to make a difference, it's when people hold a lot of influence in your life like maybe family members then it can become a lot to have to manage people particularly if they're unsupportive of you. And some people may secretly be unsupportive and publicly supportive, it's best just to avoid all that until you're in a strong place with your success that outside forces can't influence it because at the beginning stages so much more can go wrong 

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    @Kenya Thanks for your input! Yes, at the start I felt very rushed like I needed to get it out the way but I'm actually totally happy about my situation now, the idea of possibly not talking to my family for the rest of my life is quite a daunting one, so for now I take everything slow without rush, I'm trying to grow myself while I'm here, and when I'm ready will start a new chapter of my life when the time comes, and right now this is the chapter and I appreciate it 

    I used to feel resentment towards my parents but that's completely changed around now, I just accept them as they are, i read about the emotional bank account in the '7 Habits of Highly Effective People' and I just focus on being kind to my parents and doing what I can for them even though they can be difficult, I've actually noticed though by inputting into the emotional bank account our relationship is at a smooth point, but when the time comes to leave they'll be angry at me for being atheist (that's the whole reason for leaving) but I'll know I've left them with whatever I could

    the recent morality video also helped because people can think parents should be a certain way, but now I see this is reality and it is what it is so I can't feel any hate towards it when I see from that perspective :) 

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    @bernieboy20 I'm in a similar boat to you

    I bought the KMoneyMastery programme (just google it) to try to make some online income, it's a good programme and has great potential, I just started it in May when uni exams were over and haven't got anything out yet due to outsourcing work taking a while so I'm yet to see any results but I'd also recommend getting a part time job, especially since you're broke, KMoneyMastery requires quite a bit of capital but compared to other online business models it's probably the cheapest and fastest way to make income, obviously you'll be taking risks so be brave with your money

    dont worry about moving out so fast, I also have two years left but use this time to be strategic and plan all the details out, the more you progress the clearer the picture will come of how you can go about moving out and how far you've reached financially 

    but yes I do think you should focus on earning money at this earlier stage so that you can move out in future, the earlier you begin the greater advantage you have

    Hope I helped! 

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    @There_is_no_Chris It's probably more just a by-product than an obstruction, once you've realised the fundamental truth of it all and the gears have shifted, that's when you may find it easier to stop saying I. The behaviour becomes a result of the internal mechanics and does not have a backwards link to the mechanics, once the mechanics change only then the behaviour is changed including your thoughts that relate to you as a self. 

    I think by not saying I or me, it can be seen as a way of thinking your way into it when really the results come when you stop thinking about what it is and instead just focus on feeling and experiencing 

     

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    @Salaam that's a very deeply thought out system thanks for sharing! I often try to reach that mystery element because there's so much I know I'm ignorant of but my awareness is not very developed for me to see things as they truly are, so I at least want to know what I don't know which I get help with through watching actualized.org videos and the like, and then to touch upon potential whenever I feel ready to delve into something untapped 

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    6 hours ago, Ray said:

     maybe Steve Jobs actually get a cancer because he programmed his submind every morning thinking about his death and what he would be doing if that was his last day...  

     

    I actually thought this once about Steve jobs too, it could've just been chance that he happened to think about death and then got cancer, for many it comes from poor health decisions

    but if it wasn't chance and it did play a big role, would it matter that much if you had a shorter but better quality life, dying earlier might not be a bad thing if every day was better quality, people only yearn to live longer because they're seeking more, once you have what it is we're always seeking you may not care

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    @Will Watt did you say? Lol I'm jk 

    i think it's about achieving a balance, knowing that we can be responsible for our lives means accepting reality and external circumstances but being in tune and working with the tide of our inner life 

    I like his little analogy with how a dandelion puff uses the wind to move, it's about working with what exists to reach our goal at the same time

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    @Ozzy maybe first notice the natural feeling that arises, be mindful of it and conduct it enough without allowing yourself to enter a negative spiral or any spiral even of thought, and slowly start letting go and start thinking positive again

    that way you're not denying the feeling or being inauthentic to your feelings, at the same time you're allowing yourself to create a more positive reality for yourself  

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    @Blaze35 that's great, I'm actually fine with note taking I just was finding it difficult with organising my goals with all the different personal development tools there are etc but I've actually created a system for it which is a much more clarified and simple way of seeing and putting everything together I'm glad to say! I've got a folder for learning material notes, I kind of just stick them all in that one :) 

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    @Ray From the video about death contemplation I made some notes with the question "if I was more conscious of my death I would..." And then I listed a bunch of things, I've been reading it most days for the past month and it completely inspires me and fills me with joy as opposed to any negative feelings.

    The list connects me with what's most important in life and just yesterday I remember after reading it I entered into a very calm state, not feeling like I needed to get up and do something I was just still, that was just once but it definitely makes you feel positive if your list is positive, you should go for it

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    @jes use the addiction against itself, read more material pertaining to finding that detachment from everything you depend on, also try doing nothing when you have the urge to read more, you'll still be doing a related activity but the power comes in that it grounds you, focus on the actions related to PD rather than stuffing yourself with theory and it might just help you, I get this addiction from time to time too 

    btw is there anything specific you're always reading about e.g. emotions? It might indicate a lack you're trying to fill or find answers to 

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    @Elton hey, keep going with acknowledging your feelings, it's a massive help in and of itself 

    we are all life and by that nature we're all connected, and life expresses itself in a whole manner of ways so anytime you feel lacking in something and you turn to tobacco just observe as you already do and don't see it as a step back, it's a step forward, all actions you take are going forward, and when you love yourself as you take that step and any other kind step, you are turning it into growth, you rise with it not against it, you are complete and whole

    And then all that causes you discomfort just naturally sheds away without any resistant strain

    :) 

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    @charlie2dogs that looking at crimes and saying we should just punish the attacker as they're wrong is something related to moralising and we need to consider moralising as part of it 

    when we simply punish criminals and engage our talk of how evil they are, we're demonising and not accepting reality, and demonising comes from moralising 

    It's important to consider for anyone wishing to remove their victimisation and hence their suffering