How To Get In The Mood For Sex As A Female All The Time

[Saarah]

@Salaam I think it's time you compiled it all into an ebook  lol! 

[Salaam]

On 6/8/2016 at 0:12 PM, Fitness Model said:

@Salaam loooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooollll, you cracked me up bad David

I read this piece of art 3 times, I loooove it, but I strongly believe that theres a pre-requirement for this art that you are presenting.

almost like seduction 102, I must take seduction 101 to really digest this. 

a lot of the concepts you and this other gentleman speak about are foreign to me.

I read the art of seduction by Robert Greene 10 years ago, but he never came across these concepts.

I definitely believe in creating tension and anticipation and those worked amazingly in the past on the guys I use to date and secretly use as hamsters to test the techniques Greene talks about.

so, what book or forum do you recommend for me as a beginner to actually understand this advanced piece?

but I love your description of seduction being a story.

are you sure your not a poet or an author?

I feel you

I am a poet and an author actually and a lot of other things. I've got a journal on here if you ever want to read more of my personal writings.

Did you check that one link I sent you to the website girls chase? That article is written by a good friend of mine, who I feel I can safely say is the leading authority in the world on sexual tension. That article in particular I thought would be good for you to read, because I wanted you to have a clearer contrast of what a healthy man interacting with a woman looks like. Your husband kind of has like... sexual diabetes and it can be hard judging your progress in seduction when your feedback comes from such an unhealthy person. Also, scroll through some of his other articles and check out whatever floats your boat. Another good guy on there Is Alek Rolstad.

http://www.girlschase.com/articles/cody-lyans

He's also written a book... it's the kind of book that makes you think about what attraction truly is. It's a book I often go back to reread and pick up new things with.
https://www.amazon.com/What-We-Find-Attractive-Seduction/dp/3942017016?ie=UTF8&*Version*=1&*entries*=0

Another book you might like is Arden Leighs... I don't have any opinion on it (never read it), but you might find it useful.
https://www.amazon.com/New-Rules-Attraction-Keep-Make/dp/1402266529?ie=UTF8&tag=vglnkc2583-20

Here's a post my friend wrote actually on helping female pua's. Maybe it might resonate with you...

The best advice I can give to women for now is three pillars
- slow down, don't give in, think long term, focus on your process and developing thoughts (never take your first conclusions at face value)
- develop GAP management (gap refers to unwanted gaps in fulfillment of their desires), do not simply try to CLOSE those gaps, or deny their existance, slowly start to become conscious of them and present with them, and never OVER "fix" it, because it leads to destructive cyclical thoughts and actions
- sensual expansion, NOT sexual expansion, with a focus on skepticism

Some rudimentary examples include (respectively)
- instead of following social programming, be AUTHENTIC and aim for wisdom to be included in your progress
- don't think marriage solves all, or that "sexual contracts" are enough to address issues
- focusing on a style or image (through passions, interests and intellectual development, and understanding of male psychology without intending to be egotistical/exploitative/"an angel")

Most girls have an opinion on those that I dare say is WRONG
Mostly because they retreat from the core point of contention, and only scratch around on some surface layers where they feel it is personally relevant to their life situation

There is no deeper investigation taking place
No substantial strategy towards change
And often, they are so mired and overwhelmed by doubts and emotions that its truly UNIQUELY difficult for them to progress

Womens issues, require emotional evolution, or management that is different to guys, and I fear, it leads to corruption in most cases!!!
Most women, by my estimate will hit an emotional "choke point"
Which causes them to bitterly cut off from further efforts

The same issue exists with men, but due to the emotions, the issues are EMOTIONAL, in nature

A man, trying to figure out the pradigm emotional shift for women...
Is next to impossible, considering that we are never exposed to that emotional state.
 

22 hours ago, Saarah said:

@Salaam I think it's time you compiled it all into an ebook  lol! 

Thanks Saarah I'm writing a book now, like I mentioned in the other thread. My wife and I plan on writing a book about relationships together one day. I've never really though of writing a book on seduction though...

[CalamityJane]

On June 2, 2016 at 4:58 PM, Salaam said:

@Fitness Model

How long have you two been married?

My Wife and I have been married for over 4 years now and the sex is more soul and mind blowing than ever before.

The key for us has been maintaining and building Sexual Tension, plus continuing to grow sexually together. Seduction is a passion of mine, it's communication, and dancing with emotion and sensation. My wife often says that I seduce her everyday and she returns that seductive energy in kind.

Captivating attention, drawing out feelings and holding them till the thirst becomes over-whelming. Sex is not just a pleasure to drink from, it needs to be given time to build, it is a part of our identity and has both pains and pleasures around it. It is as much about self-restraint as it is about passion, and more about self-expression and adding personality then mechanical release.

Anyways, without proper seduction you lose tension, which means you lose detail that your and his emotions respond to, and less feeling means more autopilot/habitual behavior, leading to boredom and the killing of anticipation.

First-taste novelty and infatuation will only go so far and the comfort found in a relationship is not enough to sustain richness alone. In fact, comfort can lead to even more degradation of tension and an auto-pilot relationship, slowly draining of color. We have to protect the sexual sides of our nature from the habitual normalcy of life, it is a slippery slope that must be balanced, so our partners are both our confidants and lovers.

But, it's not just about protecting that side, it's about fostering it, growing it, adding depth.

I still haven't touched the bottom or seen all the sides of my wife's sexuality, nor experienced the very bottom of my own. Our sex just explodes into new heights as we grow and process who we are as people. It's amazing and blows my mind when I see all the more sex can really be. That mystery or unknown, protects the anticipation we have, fuels it, so our bodies ache for each other and our emotions leap into fires at the touch, because we've built these sexual patterns, over and over again together, for the course of our relationship.

Also, for your guy, does he watch a lot of porn or masturbate often? Compared to the sex I know, porn fucking suuuucks and what's more is it desensitizes you to all the details that go on when your in the presence of your woman. The pixelated visual stimulation on a tv screen or whatever can't compare to all the energies being exchanged and most of all the tension that occurs when in real life. Plus, it reinforces the frame of mind that sex is about release and not about personal expression. There is no undulating and arching of bodies, the sharing of breath, the dominance and shared primal sexual deliciousness... it's a waste of sexual energy in my opinion and something to look into. Personally, I try not to even masturbate and prefer to hold that sexual ache and share it with my wife.

A man should have dominance over his sexual urges and nature. So it is a part of him that washes over and surges around him, like waves from the ocean... at least that's how it feels within me. A slow burn, that you feel in your bones and draw from, so it shines in your eyes and smile.
 

Umm..dang it- time for a cold shower. I'm copying this to let my future boyfriend read!

[Ike Carter]

welp, now i see some things i can expect years into marriage haha.