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  1. I used to be skeptical about all those energies and yoga stuff. But recently I started having a desire to add something physical to my meditation practice. It just started to feel like I need to do something with energy. Not just observing mind, but to actually start moving energy. So 4 days ago I started doing some yoga before meditation. Particularly this one - So today I was doing 1hr of Do Nothing meditation after doing these yoga exercises. And during meditation I became sleepy. Sometimes I was kind of falling asleep and then waking up (constantly sitting with erect spine). And then muscles in my back started slightly moving, kind of wave motion left-right-left-right. I was in that half asleep state. I decided to connect to this feeling, and then my shoulders started to "dance" - like if you're swimming on your back. It felt very pleasant, like it's very healthy for my spine. Then I had an urge to make even bigger moves with my back muscles like half-spinning. And I did - it felt very pleasant too. Then I did big movements with my shoulders like swimming forward. It all felt like being done automatically. I even had thought "OMG wow finally I'm having some cool meditation experience", and it did not stop during these thoughts. I want to engage in physical yoga more and learn about all these energies, Kundalini, Reiki. It feels right to me now. So, anybody had anything like this? Does it mean anything?
  2. How about that belief of "false" is false too? 1) "It is true that you were born" 2) "It is false that you were born" What are these? Some pieces of thinking. You can get inside of these pieces of thinking and develop them further with more additional thoughts. But it will be just thoughts about thoughts about thoughts about thoughts about thoughts: "I have a thought that it is false that I was born because I have a thought that I don't experience my birth directly because I have a thought that I know about my birth from others, because I have a thought that others told me about my birth, because I have a thought that there are others, because I have a thought that there is direct experience, because I have a thought that there is experience, because I have a thought that..." How to get to the actual truth then? What is actual? That's the big question. "Is it false that I was born? What does it mean - born? What is false? A thought? What is a thought? It's an object. What is an object? It's an experience. What is an experience? Something that is actual. What is actual? ... ... ... ..." and then, if you want to advance further, you will have to get out of thinking mind into something that we usually call direct experience. There you can look for answers. But these answers, I believe, almost impossible to communicate in words. The best way you can communicate those answers is ask another person to inquire by themselves. So, the best answer to the topic question is: "Look by yourself and see". In the process of looking you will be forced to find what is actual (like Leo says). And this "actual" does not come in form of answer to your question "yes" or "no". This "actual" is the only actual thing out there. Poetically you can say that this "actual" is the answer to all questions.
  3. Yeah, that video inspired me to try to have my own project even more than Life Purpose Course videos (even though they have same story in them). One of my affirmations, that I use to keep motivation and discipline, sounds something like: "I accomplish everything required for achieving success and I'm having results that are godly satisfying". ("Godly satisfying" in my language means awesome, heaven-like, divine) So, when I do this affirmation, I imagine myself feeling same satisfaction that Leo said he experienced after uploading his Oblivion mod.
  4. It's interesting to notice, that any "movement of will" is registered by you only after it has already happened. When we want to scratch our ass because it is itchy - we notice a feeling of itch, we notice some strong inner desire to scratch, then we notice feelings of muscles in our arm and hand move, then we feel how fingers scratch our ass. Then we can say: "But I have a free will to stop myself and not to scratch my ass. Look, I'm gonna do it now". And we try - we notice inner feeling of "forcing myself not to scratch" (whatever you call it) - some desire, tension, we notice a thought that says: "Now I'm using my will not to scratch my ass", feeling of confidence in truth of this thought, etc. Then we actually manage not to scratch our ass and we say: "See, I used my free will to not scratch myself. And now I will use my free will to scratch myself" - and you do it. But was there really "free will" among those objects that we have experienced? We have experienced itch, muscles move, desire, thoughts, etc. Was there "free will" among them? If you have not experienced free will, then you can talk about it only as about some concept or belief, and this concept or belief appears in form of feelings, visions, thoughts, sounds. Even if you have registered some object that you labeled as "my free will", notice that you have registered it only after it has already appeared. How did it appear? Did you command it to appear? Try to look there. When I look there, I see that there is no any real sensation of "free will" and all objects just happen without command. OR I label something as "free will" but it appeared from nothing just like all other objects, without any command from me. Can you try to find the moment when you "give command" to your body to move? Did you "give command" for the feeling of "giving command" to appear?
  5. Try to make practice of meditation more pleasant for you to get hooked. I think Headspace is a good application for this. It has very short and easy guided meditations at first and you actually feel better after doing them. Also this application gives you some feeling of progress with it's "meditation levels" and reminders, etc. which entertains you. Don't try to be hard on yourself with hardcore techniques, don't torture yourself. Don't blame yourself for not doing meditation (seems that you're doing it, judging by your post). Actually allow yourself to not do meditation for a week or two, or even allow yourself to not do meditation ever again. Rest from your struggle and then come back with a more pleasant approach. From time to time watch good inspiring videos about meditation (like Leo's) and then do not do the practice. Later you will naturally start wanting to do it and you will start. Then start applying discipline a little bit. For example, do like 5-10 minutes, but every day. Push yourself little by little to disciplined practice. Watch a documentary about zen monastery or about yogis or self help videos whatever inspires you to do meditation. And do less than you think you must (shorter sessions, less painful techniques). But also apply some discipline to yourself, start becoming consistent. You can use applications or websites that can help you stay on track. For example, this
  6. @MarinM Yes, with this technique you should not try to be more aware. You should not be doing anything at all. If you are daydreaming all the time - it counts as success. The point here is to let everything happen automatically. Everything with no exceptions: confusion, unsatisfaction, frustration, judging what thoughts are good and what thoughts are bad, evaluating results, etc. By letting everything happen, you develop automatic tolerance towards any state of mind, mood, thoughts, physical feelings, emotions, circumstances. This tolerance increases the quality of your life and puts you in more harmony with life. It decreases your dependence on objects - emotions, thoughts, circumstances of life (basically makes ego less powerful). After doing this practice for a while, you will start to effortlessly accept whatever comes up. Effortlessly - so when some thing comes up, it is already accepted by you without you doing anything. If it's a bad thing, you'll be fine with it. If it's a good thing, you'll be fine with it too. It's almost a superpower, very useful in life. Also it somehow opens up a stream of wisdom to you that guides your life (I don't know how exactly, just kind of feeling it from my experience). How to let everything happen during Do Nothing? A little advice: no matter what happens during the meditation, if you have actually done the activity of sitting with timer, take it is 100% success. If you will sit for 40 minutes with confusion, frustration and thoughts like: "Oh shit, how do I let go... Am I letting go now? Shit... Waste of time... Am I controlling thoughts now? Stop controlling. Ok. How? Be aware, be aware, be aware. Is it letting go? Or am I controlling?" etc. - it is not a failure, it is success. Next day sit again with timer and let your mind think what it will think. Probably you will be very unsatisfied with results again. Good job - it is success. Next day sit again with timer and do nothing. The only thing you should consider as failure is if you did not do the activity of sitting with timer at all. Just do this for a while - keep being confused and unsatisfied during meditation. it is success. You will learn the technique automatically. Keep doing it. Also, building some intention before starting the practice helps a bit. For example, when I Do Nothing, I sit, calm down for several minutes, concentrate on breath maybe, and then say to myself: "Ok, now we begin the Do Nothing meditation, I will let anything happen without exceptions and I will not move my body. Ok. ... 5 .. 4 .. 3 .. 2 ..1..Go.."... Also I would recommend to always combine Do Nothing with Strong Determination Sitting and increasing the time of meditation. As Shinzen Young said something like: discomfort + acceptance = purification. SDS helps with discomfort part, while Do Nothing helps with acceptance = profit.
  7. I'm Russian from Moscow, have been in Turkey twice. Half a year ago I have quit my job and moved from Russia to Bali for living (it's even bigger distance than from Turkey to Singapore, hehe). By the way, last week I've been in Singapore for transit too. This weekend I'm gonna visit Singapore again - for transit too. My personal opinion on changing countries. I think that "social atmosphere" in a country really affects your psychology. Your normal state always attunes to the normal state of people around you. If you live in a quite unfriendly place, where it is normal to be unhappy, unsatisfied, angry, obsessed, bitter, disappointed, manipulative, fake moral, rigid, dogmatic, frustrated, concentrated on low quality values, closed minded etc., then it will affect you even if you do personal development and even if you do not have undeveloped people in your social circle. This "social atmosphere" is like air that you are breathing - you cannot avoid breathing it. I think Turkey and Russia have sort of a similar "social atmosphere" - quite frustrated and heavy. Singapore is a modern, developed, international and tolerant place. I think Singapore definitely has a better "social atmosphere" that can boost your growth and healing (IMHO). In my case, changing Moscow to Bali made me more optimistic, relaxed, more creative and I accept life more. Simply because "standard social atmosphere" for Indonesians is much less heavy and frustrated than for Russians. Also, changing countries helps you to become more openminded. And being more openminded helps you to understand things and people more. This understanding decreases levels of negative emotions and frustration in you. For example, I used to be afraid of Muslims and even hate them, because Muslims that I saw in Russia, usually were "bad people" and also because of all the media constantly talking about "Muslim terrorists". After having new experiences with new Muslim people in Indonesia, I started to actually understand what they value and why they behave this or that way. And I felt relief from hatred and frustration from inner conflict and lack of understanding. It's a good growth. As for the family. What's most important is that you will have your husband for support. You can contact other members of the family via Skype or something. This is not such a super huge difference from real life communication, not so scary as it looks.
  8. I used to work as a lawyer in my narcissistic father's clinic. Later I understood that I must go no-contact with him. His influence on me was psychologically disastrous, as I was his main victim (my mother and brother already left him years ago). Also I understood that I do not see any real value in being a lawyer. So, less than a year ago I quit my job, totally cut contacts with narcissistic father, moved from Russia to Bali (Indonesia) for living and married here. Now I'm basically unemployed, just renting out my apartment in Russia. Currently I am only doing some online job (publishing articles for a website) and working on Life Purpose Course. I'm also starting to prepare my own online project, where I'll be sharing what I've learned from personal development theory and from my own experience of applying this knowledge in practice. Sort of a personal development resource.
  9. One of the deepest games I've seen is this: The Void / Tension / Тургор
  10. I'd say - daily journaling. You can start with this technique:
  11. @Mert Here is answer to your question (12:36)
  12. I do concentration practice before each meditation session. I use metronome and I like the sound of Google metronome - But I noticed that if I use one object for concentration all the time (metronome sound), I get too used to it, and my attention does not want to stick to an old object so much anymore. Therefore, I'm planning to change objects of concentration from time to time - metronome, visualization of a color, physical touch, breath, etc.
  13. (sorry for being late) Happy Birthday
  14. @Leo Gura Leo, do you want to make a thread like this about meditation techniques too?
  15. I think one of the most effective ways to train conentration is to do this: