Addictions are compensations for a lack.

Most women have needs they want someone to come into there life to fill.
Realizing you have something they want is vital, know what that is and present it infront of them.
That presentation is almost entirely verbal where you connect with them by giving them a playful positive space to feel comfortable talking to you about anything. They then open up to you because you get them fully with out any judgement and its done.
Thats the only approach ive ever used. With lots of humor of course along the way. Its a fun space you need to create.

Hehe, beautiful.

Knowledge is ephemeral wisdom is stationary. Like a river Which survives only to surrender to the sea

Uuu nice.
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Why is the sea king of a hundred 
streams? 
Because it lies below them. 
~Tao Te Jing 

To change yourself.
To change other people.
Resisting what you are.
It creates motivation to change how reality is.
It indicates a discord in how your psychology is interfacing with reality. A contradiction somewhere that can be inspected if you're introspective enough. And then from there you can learn a lot about yourself.
It's not necessary. It can be transcended and the same results can be achieved without it. But some people need it for where they are at.
Relatively speaking, no.
I've rarely felt it because I always intuitively understood that I was just trying to do the best I could from my current state of consciousness, and that any shame would only be created through a myopic perspective of myself.

Problems should be fixed at the root as Leo has said a long time ago. Masturbation and complacency is a result of sexual thoughts. So sexual thoughts are the real problem. Sexual thoughts are like a black hole that sucks your attention. Non-sexual things will feel like a waste of time when you're a sex addict. If you're unable to enjoy non-sexual things such as video games or movies then you're likely a sex addict. It's quite easy to stop thinking sexual thoughts. Whenever a sexual thought comes up simply remind yourself to think of something else. Sex is not bad or evil but it can become a huge distraction.
When someone tells you not to think about a pink elephant you must think about a blue elephant.

Lots of men like to romanticize the notion of what it means to be a man in order to get away from feeling disempowered.
And one of the ways they do this is by cherry picking certain biological insights and weaving them together into a male empowerment fantasy narrative.
And these narratives are usually about men holding power over women in the realm of sexuality, dating, and relationships.
This is because men often feel disempowered in relation to women and their feelings about women. And they want to tell themselves a comforting story that puts the woman in the disempowered position relative to men.
And so, they may cherry-pick some scientific truisms around men having biological urges to spread the seed wide… and they use these truisms to weave themselves a narrative like…  
“Women just need to embrace the “natural” female role because it’s in alignment with nature for men to cheat. And if she complains, then she’s going against nature and being too Masculine… because natural Feminine women are accepting when their men cheat. And women are only desirable when they’re Feminine, so they need to allow men to cheat or the man won’t be interested in them anymore because they’re not Feminine enough. I bet they’re not Feminine enough because of daddy issues and having too many trains run on them. So, women should definitely stick with one guy because lifelong monogamy is the only kind of sexual experience that doesn’t damage the woman. Also, think of lions! The alpha male gets to mate with all the females and the female lions are okay with it.So…” Etc. Etc. Etc.
This is just one example of a male empowerment fantasy narrative. And they’re everywhere.
And because of the internet… you have scads and scads of men wrapped up in the same male empowerment delusions.
And it’s really annoying because they really believe it’s true.
But the main function of men talking about this and creating this narrative is to make himself feel empowered simply for being part of the male identity group.

@StarStruck There's observable data and then there's pet theories. The mind just likes to think that it has a grip on things, because then it can just squeeze itself into the little boxes it comes up with and presto, win. But life doesn't actually work like that.
This may come as a shock to some guys, but women are also just people. They're not aliens. Yes there are some notable psychological differences, but beneath all that they also happen to be super relatable. You're entertaining all these little theories about women simply because you aren't relating to them directly. And those theories can only get in the way of that.
Why not look at the world directly instead of through these contrived filters. You'd think that men and women are at opposite ends of the spectrum, but when you broaden your view a bit the differences become relatively minor. Women are just people. It's not that difficult to relate to people, unless you aren't one yourself. You don't need some youtuber to tell you how.

Here is my foundational advice for you. Look at it this way man;
Listen to men's advice if you want to know how to start a relationship.
Listen to women's advice if you want to know how to maintain a relationship.
Attraction Phase =/= Relationship Phase. They are two completely separate things where your strategy and behavior operates completely differently. Women don't understand this because they get to bypass the Attraction Phase completely, it doesn't exist from their POV and experience. That's why Emeralds advice seems frustrating to you.
Once you get that girlfriend though and you are both committed to each other, her advice is amazing for keeping things healthy.
I've been following this basic principles for 5 years and my sex/love life has been nothing but dandy. I've never had a bad break-up or awful experience yet with women in their 20's, 30's or 40's.

Of course, don’t put a woman up on a pedestal.
But the archetypal story is Masculine Lover and Feminine Beloved.
And this dynamic where the man is more in the Lover position and giving love, and the woman is more in the Beloved position and receiving love tends to lead to deeper pair bonding and a mutually loving relationship that feels like home.
And it gives way to a stable and comfortable family to raise children within.
The opposite dynamic will lead to a situation where the woman loves and adores the man, and the man is pretty detached from the woman.
And she’ll feel the need to chase him. So, it will put her in her Masculine energy.
And the relationship will be like a very exciting and emotionally disregulating roller coaster ride where the woman will feel insecure and unable to relax because she senses he doesn’t love her.
Needless to say, this wouldn’t be a good dynamic to raise children in.

Men like the idea of an adoring woman in fantasy, but they don’t actually respond very well to it in reality.
And men certainly don’t fall in love by receiving adoration.
These male/female dynamics are important to understand…
- Women tend to fall in love by receiving.
- Men tend to fall in love by giving.
The more he gives and invests, the deeper he will love.
And the more she allows herself to receive of him, the deeper she will love.
This is the archetypal lover and beloved dynamic.
The lover must always adore the beloved a little bit more than that beloved adores the lover. 
And when a woman looks up to a man and has the default frame of adoration, it subtly communicates that she sees his value as higher and her value as lower.
And it foists the man up onto a pedestal and into the Feminine receiver/selector mode, while she tries to play the part of the Masculine giver as she gives her adoration unconditionally.
This is why doing things for a man to get him to be interested backfires.
This includes cooking for him, having sex with him, adoring him, cleaning for him, etc.
Men will certainly enjoy these things. But he won’t feel compelled to pursue because a woman in giving mode is in her Masculine energy.
Men are compelled to pursue challenging woman who make them chase a bit. This requires the woman to have relatively high standards to spark her feelings of adoration.

You don't appreciate that most women are NOT loved for who they are. Only the hottest girls. That leaves the other 90% unloved.
What you are saying is you wish you were a hot girl in the top 10%. Yeah, well, I wish I was born in the top 10% too.
These are silly things to wish for. The lives of most hot girls are actually miserable, because they are not forced to develop any character. It is foolish to wish for an easy life. Being loved for your beauty is not a good thing, it is actually a curse.

Basically just leading and feeling entitled to her body.
Treat her like she is your property. But this also means taking care of her.

Dude, the whole date has to be way more playful and active. You don't sit in one spot, you move around a lot. Walk around, bounce to various places.
And obviously you don't sit across from her at a table, you sit next to her. This is rule #1.
When you hug her, that's the perfect time to squeeze her ass. But don't do that on the first hug as that would be way too desperate. Do it when you feel she's comfortable with you and attracted. And don't make it feel needy. Do it playfully. In a socially calibrated way.
You can also poke her in the ass with your finger. And playfully slap her ass. Gently. Not seriously.
Lol. You will have to get over that.
Obviously in a calibrated way. Her body is yours. That's the proper mindset for seducing a woman. You should feel entitled to her body as long as she is attracted to you.
You should err on the side of over-escalation than under-escalation. If you overdo it she will correct you and you can dial it back one or two notches.

If she's clearly attracted to you, you don't necessarily need to sexualize the conservation. Just build rapport and do some physical escalation and that will be enough. You don't need to say anything sexual in order for a date to lead to sex. But make sure you don't neglect on physical escalation. Give her hugs, hold her hand, tickle her, pinch her, squeeze her butt, etc. And do deep, romantic eye contact.

1) People have very different sex drives. You need to find girls who are compatible with you.
2) Having that much sex is ridiculous. Make her wait for it. Girls have zero qualms making guys wait for it.

Girls can have very different personalities. Some are chill and relaxed, others are neurotic, needy, and even batshit crazy.
It's really up to you to lead the relationship and set it up as you like. You can see her often or rarely. Just depends. 1 to 2 times a week is a good starting point. If you have sex every day it gets old real fast. Once a week would keep things exciting.

Say you want a grape.
You start looking for it, you ask around and someone says you can find a grape vine at the top of the hill.
But when you go, it's not there.
So, you keep looking. You look all around your village, but no matter how hard you look, you cannot find the grape vine.
You feel defeated, you go into your garden at home and cry. 
You look up, and you see the grape vine has been in your garden the whole time. You didn't realize it was there, until you wanted it, struggled & looked for it. 
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Anything you desire & is possible for a human is only a few steps away.  Law of attraction is simply you revealing the path to yourself. There's nothing magical about it.

The lamp illuminates everywhere except the spot on which it stands.
As a man, it's all too easy to project your sexual biases and desires onto women. That's the most common trap in the manosphere. Sexual craving utterly distorts the mind.

That's gonna get you friendzoned like crazy.
The beauty of a direct, intentful approach is that you quickly screen out girls who will never sleep with you.

I have a vulnerability authentic profile, rated with super high quality pictures and most women still select the "gym bot", status and sexy body, adventure and social proof.
Bumble now has speed dating that is the only way, how I can meet someone in a high-paced environment under more fair, none pre-selective conditions. 
There is no end to some power hierarchy be it patriarchy as well as matriarchal ( check trad. Jewish families, or be raised in a pure feminine household etc.). Be it hierachical as well as in a network. 
He does also not talk about attraction as a skillset, being charming and playful, authentic etc. It's a character skill to be developed and there can be how to's etc. It's like a discrimination based on the idea that we are all equal. We are not stating the obvious which is a construct aware quality, to point out the elephan in the room. I like it that he has a more honest approach. I wonder if he approached any women in his life though and just riffs of societies notion of patriarchy which is very real and women also partake and support patriarchal men. 
Why are they not choosing more complex and sensetive guys who work through their issues? As well as someone working on his vision? It's like 1 in 10000 women are approx. Like this. 
Why not ditch the gucci bag and dolce and cabana and go for someone more complex and sensetive? If I consider how much power women have nowadays I wish they would use it better to seek such men. Yet these men are not getting laid! Besides a few. 
Going out and approaching, being masculine and letting your vulnerable self get rejecting should be!!!!! Common dating advice, yet you are shamed from the leftist to approach subtley. There is no!! Single authentic dating advice who tells you approach and be you! Fuck the outcome, be a better version of yourself.
The masculine grows also through challenge and training ones body feels great and his healthy and fit and should!!! Be part of every man's life it can even be trauma work!! (Check the body keeps the score as a book I bet you know it also)
The connection of art & Beauty is missing in society. It's even fun to develop strategies for dating. What is fake about it? 
Toxic masculinity exists, I've seen it and been powerless because of it. I legit feel most feminists nowadays empower the patriarchy, instead of encouraging men to get into femininity and masculinity. 
Most young women take the hot gym stud as he is more masculine and most likely has some evolutionary advantage, besides when he approaches. You can't take biology fully out of the equation, yet over focusing on it creates a black and red pill ideaology. 
For me it's a connection to consciousness and even when a bit primitive gives more access to the feminine. Otherwise you'd heavily select intelligence as a criterion of a partner which is nice, yet it's also very superficial and I've been there. Dating doctors and gifted women. This is also biology at play... want it and or not. 
It feels in a sense very homogenous and not heterogenous in it's ideas to be masculine mostly running on empathy, vulnerability and authenticity dismissing the rise of misunderstanding of Tier2 SD Yellow and the dismissal of that leaves a "orange - green" battlefield with the underbelly. 
It's nothing new and I feel it only addresses a tiny portion of the problem.
I dunno I don't like sanguine-phlegmatics at times. Maybe I am off and judgemental I just don't find it complex I would go there for the vibes etc. I really do not like it reminds me of black friends who play video games the whole day and watch netflix and forgett the world outside is very real. Yes, even trauma and I started early with this...
 

Yes! All of this is exactly right.
Many men think they have dating problems or women problems or Masculinity problems.
But they don’t have any of these problems. They have Shame problems that disguise themselves as problems with dating, women, and Masculinity.
And they try to throw pick up at it. Or they try to self-improve in other ways. They try to fit their image of the ideal man.
And it turns into a constant attempt to fix and become perfectly Masculine to absolve themselves of feelings of Shame.
And culture tells men that being admired by men and desired by women will absolve them of that deep Shame and validate their existence.
And so, they seek to become the ideal Masculine image in their mind. And they seek the approval and validation of women.
They view women as holding the key to their redemption and existential validity.
And when a man isn’t as successful with women as he feels he needs to be in order to be valid, all of those feelings of internal Shame turn to outward bitterness and blame.
And women are scapegoated as the sole impediment to him resolving his own Shame. 

In my opinion a good man is loud with his character and not with his words.
Clothes have little to no importance.
He's the stoic mountain, grounded. Women are emotional around him as they feel they're understood, and they can be taken care of (not saying this should be the scenario, however it feels good once in a while).
A good man sees the potential in others and judges them by that, not by their shortcomings.
A good man is like a concrete foundation.
A good man is honest.
A good man is brave and would protect his family with the price of his life.
A good man is an example to his link to the future.
A good man is selfless as he realizes "he" is bollocks.
A good man functions even better with a good woman around him.
A good man sees through deceit and puppet shows.

the unconscious in us demands the one, the conscious in us demands the other
proceeding thus we remain ever divided ever deluded to our detriment to our demise
same way women deny that want to look good for men and men deny they are insatiable in their desire for women